Trying For a Baby II

becs

If only womens cycles went according to the textbooks these doctors read! "af will come 14 days after ov no matter what" Someone should tell my body and a few million other women thsat then! What utter tosh! the bit after ov before af arrives is called the luteal phase (lp) a normal lp is 10-14 days but many women suffer with much shorter lp's. Mine used to consistently be 12 days then dropped to 10 for a couple of months and was 11 this month. It's quite normal for lp to vary by a couple of days but no more than that. This is why it's impossible to know when you ov unless you are doing something, either temping, ov tests or monitors, checking cm and cervix. 2 women can both have a 28 day cycle but 1 could have a 14 day lp meaning she ov's on cd14, the other could have a 10 day lp meaning she ov's on cd18. Our bodies are way more complicated than 28 day cycles with ov on cd14 and a 14 day lp. Scary that a member of the medical profession is quoting this!

~annie~_2

My luteal phase is lucky to reach 10 days, so a 2 ww isn't really (thats the positive) but a shorter LP means my chances are slimmer (I think) for implantation... but I read that although 10 is on the lower side of normal its still normal so who knows?

~annie~_2

Still no AF today.. I've been on panty patrol all day

If nothing tomorrow morning I am going to test with an eBay cheapie.. the suspense is killing me. I;ve had no symptoms whatsoever except for fleeting feelings of nausea and constant yawning for the last 5 days or so which I put down to jet lag but we've been back well over a week now so I don't know if its that.

I'm dead nervous.. this is the first time in my ttc time that I've ever been close to testing with a *real* chance of being up the duff. I was thinking lovely thoughts on my way home today about telling my parents and his parents and all that and I had to stop myself getting too carried away in case I had my hopes up too much. I think thats what I hate most about ttc... the high hopes and the crushing dissapointment when month after month the witch rears her ugly head again and again.

Baby dust to you all.. extra sticky for EA

becs

Annie I don't think 10 days is anything to worry about. They only consider it a problem if it's less than 8 from what I've read.
I know what you mean about coming close and thinking happy thoughts! That was me last week, really built my hopes up only to come crashing down! Never mind I'm back on track, af has been shortest ever this month so looking forward to this months bd'ing efforts now! Fingers crossed for you Annie.

~annie~_2

hey becs.. I was crossing my fingers for you too as I was catching up on all the posts I missed whilst I was away.. for some reason it seemed a bit different for you this month and it really looked like it was going to happen. I'm so sorry it didn't though, and I'm glad AF had the decency to clear off sharpish so you can get back to bd'ing like mad.

We really went for it this month on holiday. We didn't follow SMEP exactly, but I stopped temping and I really forced the issue around predicted OV day (and a few days before and a few days after). (tmi alert) we ended up bdin'g about 8 times in 7 days which frankly nearly killed us. But we both are so determined we got on with it - what must we have looked like! lol ... If it doesn't happen this month I think we'll both be out of sorts a few days I expect.

I hate that I'm so in control of almost every aspect of my life and this is the one thing I have no control over. Maybe its natures way of teaching me patience before the real patience-teachers come along (the kids! ) I like to think of it that way anyway.

becs

AH Annie I so know what you mean. I was pretty down this time but then you can't wallow in it, it doesn't change anything you just have to pick yourself up and get on with it. I spoke to a really good friend of mine the other day who hasn't been able to have children and it's such a shame because her and her husband would be the most fabulous parents. She's so philosophical about it all. She just says she has to appreciate what she has in her life and not dwell on what she hasn't. She has a very loving husband and an incredible marriage and she is very thankful for that and she says so many people don't have what they have. It really made me feel very humble. We all get so wrapped up in the TTC things that sometimes we forget to stop and take stock of the wonderful things we do have in our lives. It is hard each month but I think I am becoming better at handling it and I just hope that one day when I get that BFP it ill be all the more sweet!

KatieShopstoomuch

Hiya was just having a read through the thread although it's huge so obviously not read it all. I'm super jealous i'd love to TTC but timing isn't right the thought of waiting 4 years drives me insane Anyway good luck to all those trying hope you all get big positives soon!!!

MadMac_2

I second the fact that GPs can talk a right load of carp at times! I 'usually' have a 28 day cycle, so that means as little as 24 days and as many as 37, LP can be 11 days or 18, they only seem to look at averages and ignore the rest. Useless at the best of times!

Right, off my soap box for now or I could go on!

As I have said many times before, we have already discussed the alternatives and will try to adopt if all avenues for us fail. As my mum was adopted it doesn't hold any fears for me at all and OH is receptive to it. Don't ever rule anything out, that is what I say! We can all be great, loving and supportive parents to our children, wherever or however they have started out in life, x

becs

Well said MAdMAc! I would be all up for adopting too, especially after seeing the series on channel 4 recently. DH is less keen but who knows if he'll feel like that if things really don't work out. I just can't imagine never being a mum, whether that be to my own child or an adopted or even foster child.

MadMac_2

Men can sometimes be more reluctant to adopt, but once they get that little person (or people!) in his life he will forget all about his worries, he won't see them as somebody else's child but will immediately love them and want to protect them as his own. Men just don't know it beforehand - they spend too long worrying about the points that don't matter, but soon appreciate those that do.

Luckily for me my OH already sees the benefits, as I suppose I have talked about it for so long!