Trying For a Baby II

nickynoo08

Congratulations catherine and best of luck.

I'm trying not to drive myself insane, but this last week i've had tender boobs, needing the loo loads and a fair amount of nausea (only on an evening tho) and tiredness. I'm currently 13dpo and trying my best not to test. Silly me did a test last week knowing it was far too early but i still did it and of couse got a bfn. I'm trying to hold off till end of next week, which is easier said than done when i know i've got 5pg tests sitting in my draw:rolleyes:

MadMac_2

Hi Catw0man, good to hear from you that you're doing OK. Hope things settle down quickly for you x

Nicknoo, wow! How can you bear to wait so long to test? You have to be applauded for your patience, you would put me to shame!! But here's hoping the BFP explosion on here (ha ha) continues...

Ooh, have to admit that dye bit sounds a bit frightening, but having been hospitalised so much last year and the shame of carrying a catheter and wheeling a drip at the same time around a mixed ward for a week - well, I think I would survive it OK and you will to, so don't worry overly about it - it would be over and forgotten about quickly and might just help!

lonelyinlondon

Hello!

I have been reading the posts on these boards for a while. First of all I wanted to say how much I admire you lot! Congratulations to people who have had a bfp recently and good luck to those trying.

To get to the point, this is my story...
I met my husband in Nov 2007, just before my 33rd birthday. It felt like i had waited so long for "the one" , but he did finally arrive in my life and we get on so well. We got married in August 08. He is 40.

Well, we both desperately want kids and with my body clock ticking very loudly we decided to start trying rather casually (on and off, with him sometimes withdrawing (sorry for tmi!!!) in June 08. We then went for it properly in October. I have not been on the pill for about 4 years. I wish we had starte dproperly as soon as we met, but that may have semeed mad then.

I am now 34, feeling old and after trying for 11 months feeling terribly worried about things. On advice from a friend who is a nurse we went to the doctors and he had a sperm test and I had a blood test. I think my blood test was too late in my cycle as the hormone (was it prolactin or progesterone? Don't know!) was a bit low. The dr blamed that on the blood being taken too late in my cyle. I have been doing opks and they do seem to come up positive once a month so i think i am ovulating. My cycle varies between 26-32 days. My bmi is 29, high i know. My dh has high blood pressure but isn't on medication at the mo.

The worry is that his sperm came out as 9 per cent normal morphology when normal is 15 per cent. Does anyone know anything about that? All other factors eg motility were ok.

We have been refereed to see a fertilty nurse at the hospital on 24 June. I think they may suggest that i have my tubes checked.

My younger sister has a baby due in dec, and a friend who got married one day after us but who is younger is due then too. When i found out I felt devastated and tearful. I feel so selfish! I don't want to worry dh. I really don't know who to turn to for emotional support. Every time af arrives I get upset and start to think of the worst..what if we can't have a baby, what if we have to go through ivf? why does it seem easy for some people?

I completely realise that there are some of you out there who have been trying a heck of a lot longer than us, so I 'm sorry if i seem selfish or inconsiderate.

Btw, how do i change my user name? I am no longer lonely in london!!!( Now there's a real positive!)

Apologies for long post

Lots of love
A

nunnygirl

Hi A, I will now use that for your name instead of lonelyinlondon

Changing your username, you may find it easier to either re-register or pming a board mod and asking them


On the TTC side of things, you're in the same boat as a lot of us, and please don't think you sound selfish/inconsiderate.

Normally cycle bloods are taken at day 3 and day 21 (Please someone correct me if I am wrong)

Your BMI is not excessively high, mine is currently at 39

There's always someone here who's prepared to talk if you're struggling to speak to other people so please don't let it feel like you are on your own

Getting positive opks is a good thing, this means the hormone is being released

With regards your OH's sperm morphology results, remember this, it only takes one to fertilise an egg


Hope this helps a little

lonelyinlondon

Thanks so much nunnygirl. I feel better already. Actually started crying i read your reply. Oh dear!!!

For some reason the blood test was taken on day 23. That may explain why the levels were low.

Thanks again
A

nunnygirl

Oh bless ya, never realised I had that effect on people....here, have a dodgy hug:grouphug:

From what I've been reading day 23 is a bit late for those bloods, but as yet I've not had them so I'm not 100% sure

becs

Hi A,
I completely agree with Nunnygirl! My BMI is 39 as well so I'd love 29! I've really struggled in the past couple of years with my weight and now believe it is the pituitary tumour that has caused it but that's another matter.
34 is definately not old! Have you seen todays daily mail? 8 months pregnant at 66! Now I'm not saying that's right but 34 you really do have a fair bit of time left. I'm 36 now and was feeeling the pressure, I met my dh when I was 32, we got engaged within 6 months and got married 18 months later when I was 34. We also decided then to try straight away and in usual sods law fashion I had my last AF for over a year on our honeymoon! It took a year to get the tumour diagnosis and now a further year to get meds and treatment right so feel like we're still at the beginning.
I did some research on my family tree and the amount of women back in the old days having babies at 50+ was amazing so that kind of made me ease up on myself about the age thing.
I can't comment about the sperm test as dh is having his done this month, we've been concentrating on fixing me first! Nunnygirl is right about the bloods, CD3 and then usually 21, it's designed to be taken halfway between ov and af so obviously CD21 being correct if you ov on CD14 and have a 28 day cycle. I don't know if you saw my earlier post about the dye bt my friend had been TTC for 2 years, had the dye in the tubes which she found ok and conceived her gorgeous little girl the day after!
I and I'm sure lot's of us on here know exactly where you're coming from with the upset when AF arrives. I've found the past couple of months I get really down when AF is due but once it arrives I kind of feel ok to pick myself up and get on with next cycle.
Is your cycle regulalr with ov on same day etc? If not I would rcommend the clearblue fertility monitor. My cycle has gone from ov on cd22 to cd13 last month now my meds are working correctly. Without the monitor I would have had much less chance of conceiving as would only know the day of ov when many experts say trying in the 5 days prior to ov really increases your chances.
Wow what a long post! Good luck A and remember lots of us are all in the same boat and rely on each other on here for the support.

MadMac_2

Hi A (I'll join nunnygirl and becs in avoiding your inappropriate username!) and just want to add my support and say you'll always find someone on here (and the 12+ month board) who have similar feeling and frustrations and we all sympathise (and ocassionally celebrate) with each other. We're a friendly bunch on the whole, BFNs allowing!

The only thing I can add is have you tried checking your basal waking temperature for a month or two? The OV sticks let you know the hormones are doing their stuff, but only your temperature gives away when an egg has actually been released after your OV stick says your LH is high. Probably needless to do now that you have started down the medical route, but worth knowing about anyway.

And don't feel old! You've a few years left before you catch up with me and I will keep everything crossed for you that luck comes your way quicker, as I'm still waiting! x

emmzy

o0o fresh meat lol hello lonely london person who isnt lonely and doesnt live in london anymore

my oh hit out with "u shouldnt get so upset its fun trying" so i read out the posts about needles and blood tests and all the other lovely sounding stuff you all told me about and that soon shut him up

I was also reading that thread about pregnancy secrets ... Im somehow liking my chihuahua idea alot more lol

All packed for going to my mums this week and got my godsons presents all wrapped for tomorrow but i think OH used all the birthday paper for my presents so i had to use xmas paper...I figured hes only 2 and theres presents inside what does he care lol
The partys going to be murder, one of the girls is bringin their 3 week old daughter and theres a lot of wee kids going to be there too On the upside there will be jelly ice cream and rice crispy cakes lol

becs

Oh Emmzy I know what you mean. DH has a friend who's baby was due yesterday and I'm absoloutely dreading her having it, knowing that we'll have to go round and see her with a pressie. Also not helped by the fact she fell pregnant by accident and didn't want children, she's then spent the past 9 months saying how awful it's been because of giving up alchohol, designer clothes etc when she knows we're desperate for children and have been trying 27 months now.
On the other hand I saw my friend last weekend who tried for 2 years before she fell for her daughter, and I had a lovely time with lots of cuddles and really enjoyed seeing her. I think because she knows what we're going through because she's been there herself.