Age appropriate girls clothes (and blazing rows!)

Alex_of_Swansea

Lol. My mum asked me if I was wearing a dress for a date with my boyfriend two summers ago (23 yrs old!). I looked at her daft then. I don't wear girly stuff. Turned out my boyfriend had asked my parents the previous day if he could marry me! I've got girlier since marriage though. Enjoy the tomboy era. My sister was the girlie one and, boy, were there rows. x

Pennylane

My DH came in the other day and said he had just seen a neighbour's little girl (8) dressed like a hooker! She has pierced ears and was wearing HUGE gold hoops, long black leather boots with heels and a mini skirt and very tight top.

Lord knows where they'd been but clearly for a day out somewhere and hubby said it made him feel quite ill to see this little girl in such totally inappropriate clothes.

Another neighbour's little girl was out yesterday (maybe a year younger) wearing flat red boots, pink tights and a flowery pinafore dress and simple T-shirt and she looked trendy, colourful and HER AGE!!:T

Parents should just stick to their guns and say "I'm the parent, I buy the clothes, I make the rules and when you're in your teens and earning money you can have more choice, but for now you are a child."

I will admit it can be difficult explaining why you feel some clothes are not suitable on a particular friend, because kids WILL pass this on and it will get back to their parents but you have to be honest.

xmaslolly76

I'm probably gonna get shot for this one but i have also let my DD have the short shorts you are talking about but she always wears them with brightly coloured tights or leggings so they look fun rather than tarty. As i say its how they wear it not what they wear that makes the difference :-)

crispeater

my dd is 5 and we have several heated conversations over clothing, she seems to think because its daylight its summer and she can wear vest tops and shorts. i actually told her today she could wear it if thats what she really wanted! (it was tipping it down btw ) needless to say she put on a pair of jeans, but it was.. mummy what nice top can i wear with these? what shoes can i wear (well you only have a choice of wellies, trainers an 1 pair of shoes or flip flops so you choose!) if i put her clothes out i get 'i'm not wearing that with that!' now dont get me wrong its not coming from me!! i'm very very overweight so skimpy clothing just doesnt get seen on me lol

however there is an 8yr old girl up the road who is constantly in huge diamond type earrings, heeled boots and skimpy tops an tbh she looks horrid. kids should be kids. another little girl i know who is also 8 has her own hair straighteners, heeled shoes, make up nail polish etc and really does look near on 15.. but does that mean when they are 15 they will look 30 from too much too soon? nice thought heh

xmaslolly76

Well there is one sure fire way of putting them off something thats to buy one for yourself. No self respecting young girl would be seen dead in anything their mother wears lol :-)

woozywendy

I have arguments with my DD (7) about clothes nearly all the time. She wants to wear jeans and t-shirts all day every day. I occasionally would like her to wear a skirt. The thing with my DD is if she wore a black bag she would look good. The look of horror on her face when we are shopping has got to be seen to be believed if I go anywhere near the dresses.

Pennylane

Woozywendy - your daughter sounds just fine to me! :j At 7 she should be enjoying being a little girl and not worrying about her image and it's so nice to hear that she feels good in T shirt and jeans.

One of my friends was a really, really strict Mum and both her girls were always made to wear check gingham dresses and handknitted cardigans for school until they were well into their teens. They were both stunning looking girls as well. They only ever wore T shirts and jeans out of school and she never let them wear make up either. When they were old enough to get part time jobs she allowed them a bit more choice in clothes, but never for school. That was always 100% regulation. When they left school and went to college they both had a sort of "mad year" when they wore quite outrageous clothes and then that phase passed and they realised they were very attractive and didn't need to draw more attention to themselves. They are both now in very high-flying jobs and chic, classy looking young women.:T

woozywendy

Pennylane - Thanks for the reply, she is fine and maybe one day she will willingly dress like a girl, but until then I will let her dress as she likes.
On friday the schools had jeans for genes day and some of the girls from reception up to year 6 amazed me. I thought I had walked into some kind of fashion parade. Some of them were dressed way too old for their ages. Short skirts,skimpy tops and small heels. My DD - jeans and t-shirt and trainers. She is going to a party next week and we have compromised and she is wearing TROUSERS and a nice top. I can always remember when I was younger when I was going out my dad used to tell me to cover my chest with a scarf and keep warm, even when I was in my 20s. Now I have my own children I can see his point of view.

MrsTinks

Mmmmm as a young child I had NO fashion sense... mainly because of living with my grandparents... Love them but NO fashion sense... actually nor has my mother to this day At about ooo 14-15 I turned VERY goth and well I had the shape for it My mother took it in her stride though and I'm just amazed I never got detention for some of the things I wore... We had a no-uniform school and I got away with Doc Martens, VERY short hot pant jean shorts and usually a skin tight black low cut top... Ahhh my rebel days...
I still to this day hate pink but love black - however I rarely dress in pure black - just doesn't go in a board room! :rotfl: But back when I was a perfect size 10 with all the right curves... it looked good!

But I think 14-15 is very different to say 10-11... And if we have daughters there will be NO going out looking like a prostitute! They can do that when they leave home and pay their own rent Gosh my mother was an understanding person really
Interestingly it would have never occured to me to wear inappropriate clothing if we had guests or had to go to official functions - it wasn't even mentioned by my mum, I just knew that that wasn't done so never tried it...

eyelinerprincess

We don't have kids yet but OH has stipulated in no uncertain terms what his daughter (should we be blessed with one) should not be wearing (includes "hooker style" clothes and anything to do with HSM or Hannah Montana, though by the time it gets to that stage, we'll be on to the next craze)

I'm 22 and my dear aunt would still have a fit at some stuff I, as an adult, wear. In fact when we go to hers, I have to veto half my wardrobe!