Age appropriate girls clothes (and blazing rows!)

aliasojo

I've just had a heated exchange with my 9 year old over shoes and clothes.

Her 8 year old friend has just come in wearing a pair of adult heeled ankle boots with cut off jeans and she looks like a hooker. (Sorry, I know it's horrible to be so judgemental and I've just smiled at her when she showed them off and bit my tongue so I wouldn't say anything negative to her.) I'm actually shocked that her Mum thinks this is a good look for her. The girl is very overweight and it just looks so wrong, she stands out like a sore thumb....imo. The boots themselves would look quite tame on an adult btw.

Whilst I was flicking through Sky, the !!!!!cat Dolls were on one of the music channels singing 'Don't you Wish Your Girlfriend Was A Freak Like Me' and they had seriously sexy outfits on...basques over tiny t-shirts and tiny lace shorts with hanging suspenders etc. My daughter's friend (who is 8 remember :rolleyes: ) commented that she loved their outfits.

I raised my eyes to my daughter who knew better than to agree.

Anyway, daughter is now telling me I'm dressing her in 'boring' clothes and 'it's not fair' *stomp, stomp*.

Now I have no intention of being swayed by ANYTHING anyone else wears and I really dont care if her school mates dress like hookers in training or not...she just isn't joining in and she will have to put up with it. However, I'm always happy to consider compromise and wondered if there were any particular kids clothes ranges out there that catered for this age and were seriously fashionable but also age appropriate.

Personally I think I dress her well. :rolleyes: I shop in Next mostly, but also Adams & Tesco sometimes. Are there other places I should be looking?

*sigh*...it was a lot easier with her brothers.

sooz

Oh dear..I have all this to look forward to, and my daughter's not yet born.

Do the same you'd do with any other whingeing & tantruming whether from her or the boys - tell her that she gets to choose what to buy when she earns her own money. Until then, you decide.

As for shops, have you tried new look? I think the larger ones have a young girl/teenage clothes range. Etam used to..(does that exist any more?)

aliasojo

Lol sooz, she already knows what I say goes. Dare her to think otherwise. :rolleyes:

amandada

Ah. Daughters and clothes. Nuff said.

My dd is 11 and I have pretty much shopped in the same places as you all her life. I had always just bought her clothes until she was probably about the same age as your dd, when she started to want to have more of a say-which is fine by me, she's learning the art of compromise!

I might be wrong, but I think you live kind of close to me...if so, H&M is always worth a look, as is Matalan for some bits and bobs.
I was in Next last week, and I have to say their girls' clothes for this season are a bit "blah". There's New Look too, but I find I have to have a good look to get past the "hooker" clothes , and they can sometimes be a bit pricey for the quality (god I'm turning into my mother!)

I think you'll find there's always one child in a group who's like the girl you're speaking about-fortunately the rest of the girls in dd's group of close pals (there are 6 of them) are pretty well grounded and tend to gently mock the fashion victim-but not in a totally unkind way. Dd was telling me this morning that this girl's mother pays £45 a time at the hairdresser for her-and I don't doubt it!!! The words "more money than sense" were out of my mouth before I knew it!

Hope you can get through this stage with her, it's far from all the time that I get it right with dd, but she's finally realised that I'm on her side, and want her to look good -although I'm not daft enough to think this will last!!!

Threebabes

Ive a 8 yr old and I would like to think I dress her appropriately for her age.

I dress her mostly from Next but would pick up clothes in debenhams, george, Ive also been in zara today and their had some nice stuff in.

I wouldnt let my DDs wear heeled boots, just bought them some flat brown ones from Next which are lovely.

basmic

Sorry to ask a totally off-topic question, but what do DD and DS mean? Is there a MSE encyclopedia I can look at?

oliver2008

New Look have some really nice girls clothes, they start at age 9. My oldest DD is nearly 13 and still has NO chance of getting heels although I bought her and her sister small wedges for the summer holiday as a treat and they have hardly worn then :rolleyes:

ETA New Look now have teens online aswell.

oliver2008

basmic wrote: »

Sorry to ask a totally off-topic question, but what do DD and DS mean? Is there a MSE encyclopedia I can look at?

DD darling/dear daughter

DS darling/dear son

HTH

Rosie_Bud

Hi basmic - there is an abbreviations list somewhere - not sure where though, someone else will be along to tell you soon I'm sure but DD and DS mean Dear Daughter and Dear Son. You also have DSD and DSS which are Dear Step Daughter and Dear Step Son. And also DH (Dear Husband), DW (Dear Wife) and OH (Other Half). Hope this helps! I will have a look for the abbreviations list and edit my post in a bit.

RB xx

Rosie_Bud

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=397751&postcount=18

Basmic - above is a link to an full list of abbreviations, hope that helps (HTH!)

RB xx

Emmacw

I'm sooo glad its not just me!!!

I get so annoyed in shoe shops as both my daughters had quite big feet when young although oldest is only a size 6 now at 21 (but size 4 at 8). I really struggled to get 'appropriate' shoes for my daughters from about 8 onwards because anything over a size 2 always had a large heel. As far as I'm concerned unless the shoes were 'party' shoes only then they had to be almost flat. How can kids run about and play if they've got high heels on? (and I'm not not talking 2cms either!) :mad:

Clothes - tarts in waiting - hate them, hate them, hate them. Luckily my youngest DD (11) has been a tomboy for past 2 years so wasn't going near this type of clothing. Has just decided she wants to be a girly girl (started senior school) and as she is already fully developed with boobs etc I think I may have trouble ahead. She is also 'well covered' so really won't be able to pull off the tarty look even if I let her! (Bless)

Anyhoos, I am gabbling.:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Primark if you've got one locally might be a compromise as the girls clothes aren't all tarty? Don't like New Look myself as it seems to fall into the tarty catgory too often. Woolworths and Peacocks might be other places to try?

Good luck - it doesn't get any easier I'm afraid (once they earn their own money maybe).

When my elder daughter got to 11/12 I told her that its was my job to be really strict so she could then complain about me to all her friends which would make her look cool (even if her clothes didn't!).

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Hope you can find a compromise.

Emma