please help

moggylover

jacklink wrote: »

what sell the gifts and in the future let the kids think they never got them anything ? ok, they have £1000 worth of 8 year old girl things and also 17 year old things you wana buy them, how do you think this man feels, heartless? they are his daughters and his daughters gifts from him,

again what should he do, it seems there are no real solutions

question still stands,

£180 a week wages
£65 csa
£75 rent
£25 council tax
how does one live ?

Well, let's look at it this way then:

£180 - CSA payment of £65 leaves £115.00.

Half of rent and half of council tax = £50, leaves £65 to cover 50% split of other essential bills plus spending money.

Other 50% of your essential joint living expenses are yours - where is the problem?

Loopy_Girl

Girlies.....jacklink is a troll. Comes on now and again with questions like this to try and get an argument going..also uses another name and changes sex sometimes:eek:

Don't rise to this unless you are looking for a bit amusement!!!;)

jetty

i get nothing from my ex for our 2 daughters despite him and his wife both working and the kids coming back from weekends with them saying they are rich!! They buy then clothes sometimes to wear while they are staying with them, but that's about it.......

MrsE_2

jacklink wrote: »

question still stands,

£180 a week wages
£65 csa
£75 rent
£25 council tax
how does one live ?

After CSA he will have £115 PW. His HALF of the rent & council tax is £50 PW, that leaves him £65 PW to "live" on.
I suggest you get a job to pay your HALF.

jacklink

she doesnt have a job, and cant work.

p.s. ive been asked to ask, would you work full time for 115 a week ?

ikkle87

Firstly you/your friend are one hell of a selfish person. You have your own kids, don't you expect their other parent to contribute to their upbringing?

Why are you so aggrevated and determined against helping your partner?

One question, how do you currently afford to live seen as your partner isn't working? Do you pay the bills? As for the gifts, how did you afford £1000 worth of gitfts if he doesn't have a job and doesn't have money? Did you contribute? If he paid for them why didn't he use the money to pay towards the bills or CSA, surely he would be better off contributing to his childrens living costs than buying them gifts they will have outgrown or never see by the time they receive them?

ikkle87

Oh and if it meant that I would be helping to feed and clothe my kids and keep a roof over their heads i would work all the hours i could even for a pittance. As a parent you do those selfless things to provide for your children!

121sally

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

If I married a man that already had kids then yes I would. You take the man, you take the package. You don't want that then you don't go out with him/marry him.

I'm not married but I was always under the impression that it was a shared partnership in all meanings.

loopy girl I would like to applaud u for this quote , for many years i have been trying to tell people this is how it should be but has fallen on deaf years, so for u i say yeahhh

MrsE_2

jacklink wrote: »

she doesnt have a job, and cant work.

p.s. ive been asked to ask, would you work full time for 115 a week ?

No-body is being asked to work for £115 PW, the pay is £180.

After my bills are paid I prob work for £10 PW:rotfl:

Your pay is the amount you get BEFORE your debts & expenses are removed.

If the "wife" is incapacitated then I guess she will be in receipt of incapacity benefits? Perhaps she should use those for towards her living expenses;)

frasersmum123

I dont think the OP can keep her story straight!