Any advice for newbie parents?! RE sleeping

Ms_Piggy_2

anniehanlon wrote: »

:eek: Never sleep with a baby in bed with you. It is extremely dangerous whether you have been drinking or not. We turn in our sleep hundreds of times a night and rolling over onto a baby would not wake you up:eek:

Rubbish! Do some research before you spout such BS. Research has shown mothers (esp those that BF) automatically cocoon their babies.
http://www.dur.ac.uk/sleep.lab/

eira

Both mine responded to 'womb noise' tapes but they have to be started very early on. Like magic-tape on a sleeping child. Mind you older daughter never slep much- totally cheery and totally wide awake. they may now market these CDs as 'white noise'

AGI_2

HI, I really wouldn't recommend co-sleeping with small babies. I know people are mentioning research and China etc.. but the fact is, babies do die through co-sleeping. My sister works for the ambulance service and in the last 14 months has taken 3 calls from parents whose babies have died because their mums have basically suffocated them. THIS IS A FACT. This seems to be in the early stages of the babies birth, when the mother is exhausted and has either let the baby slip out of her arms and into the folds of bedcovers and pillows etc. and on two occassions the babies were actually suffocated by the mums breast, by falling asleep whilst breast feeding. I would urge parents to make sure the baby is put down after feeding, its not just up to the mum but the dad too. It sounds like these incidents are acciedental - through sheer exhaustion, rather through people intentionally co-sleeping with all the measures that people have suggested. Even still, these poor parents have lost their babies.

daphne_descends

AGI wrote: »

HI, I really wouldn't recommend co-sleeping with small babies. I know people are mentioning research and China etc.. but the fact is, babies do die through co-sleeping. My sister works for the ambulance service and in the last 14 months has taken 3 calls from parents whose babies have died because their mums have basically suffocated them. THIS IS A FACT. This seems to be in the early stages of the babies birth, when the mother is exhausted and has either let the baby slip out of her arms and into the folds of bedcovers and pillows etc. and on two occassions the babies were actually suffocated by the mums breast, by falling asleep whilst breast feeding. I would urge parents to make sure the baby is put down after feeding, its not just up to the mum but the dad too. It sounds like these incidents are acciedental - through sheer exhaustion, rather through people intentionally co-sleeping with all the measures that people have suggested. Even still, these poor parents have lost their babies.

Co-sleeping when done safely is not a risk. Pillows and quilts should not be used. Mothers also should not co-sleep when having had alcohol, or when they are very exhausted.

It is possible to state the facts without scaremongering, you know.

Loopy_Girl

Aren't all parents with newborns very exhausted anyway?

Personally I didn't want to do co-sleeping either partly for the fear of hurting my baby but also I didn't want to start any bad habits. I think it would be cruel to turn round to a toddler and say you can't sleep in Mummy's bed if they have been used to it or even worse starting in their own bed and then coming through to Mummy's bed half way through the night...I don't think anyone gets a good sleep then and I am a firm believer that bedtime is for resting and refreshing - and that counts for all the members in the family!!:D

Small person slept in a moses basket till she was 9 months and then went through to her own room. And has always slept in her own room ever since.

ELLA

Congratulations on your new baby, Ive not read all the posts and not sure if this has been suggested but with my two I put something of mine (my nightdress/ t-shirt ) over the moses basek matress as a cover - then my daughter and son could smell me and feel like they were close to me . I hope that makes sense.

minimoneyme

Congrats on the little one,
I can't offer any advice - DD1 didn't sleep thru until 2 1/2 :eek: , years that is.
The rest a bit earlier but still a struggle and I tried everything that has been suggested on here as well as "the contented litttle baby book" routine. Also tried 'co-sleeping lite' (open cot next to bed)
All I can say is when the baby does eventually fall asleep make sure that you/OH sleeps too. Even ten mins here and there. Forget housework and everything else. It's really important, exhaustion can lead to depression. The housework will still be there in 3 months time. Your baby will be giggling and gurgling and you want to have the energy and mood to enjoy it.
best of luck :cool: (dark glasses to hide bags under eyes!)

Crispy_Ambulance

kevin0410 wrote: »

our 3 day old baby boy cries soon after being put in his crib. he will sleep while being held or after a feed but we don't want to get into that habit!!

i'm sure, in time, that we will crack it but in the mean time can anyone offer any advice?

many thanks

kevin

Please don't worry about "bad" habits. Your baby is tiny and in a big scary world and of course he cries when he is alone. Make the most of this time because it goes so quickly and before you know it, you'll be bribing him for a kiss at the school gate.

Babies are tiny for such a short period of time - don't stress because he needs you.

Rachie_B

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Small person slept in a moses basket till she was 9 months and then went through to her own room. And has always slept in her own room ever since.

did you really mean 9 months?!
:eek: didn't she try to sit up in it ?!!!

Loopy_Girl

Rachie_B wrote: »

did you really mean 9 months?!
:eek: didn't she try to sit up in it ?!!!

Woopsies!! No I didn't mean 9 months...I meant 6 (that'll teach me for posting bleary eyed on a Saturday!!) and it was the sitting up scenario that got her put in her cot:D