MSE Parent Club - Part 2

SusanC_2

xcat_girlx wrote: »

how old is your little 1? my goddaughter (20 months - it started when she was about 15 months)is going through the exact same thing. she chases round after you picking up the tiniest crumbs and insists you putting them in the bin if she cant reach it or something.

She's 17 months.

xcat_girlx wrote: »

im going to look at a few places for prices etc and make some spreadsheets etc. and you have to pay for a birth cert?!?!!?

Yes but it wasn't that expensive - £3.50 when Alice was born. I kept a record of everything we spent for the first year because I wanted to see how much it cost. It was fairly easy because we have a separate "child account" where the child benefit, child tax credit etc. goes which we use to pay for anything child related.

xcat_girlx

SusanC wrote: »

She's 17 months..

sounds like a similar sort of phase then. enjoy the extra help around the house! my g/d sweeps the kitchen floor with the dustpan & brush, always puts food wrappers etc in the bin. just hope she keeps it up when she gets older!

nadnad

i think you get a birth certificate for free (a short one) and if you want a long one then its £6 (or at least it is here in Northern Ireland).

someone was talking about milk donation earlier and I do it, i've always got a stock in the freezer and so before the 3 months is up i send it away, also they've sent me bottles to put it in so I've started expressing just for the milk bank - i think its a good thing to do if you can.

after a night of no sleep on monday night, last night he was brilliant - only up at 3am and then 6 for a feed!! i think he was rewarding me! also may be lulling me into false sense of security cos of course now i'm expecting him to do that every night - unlikely!

nadnad

SusanC - do you want to send Alice to me for a week, she can tidy my house all day!!

tsstss7

SusanC wrote: »

We spent a total of £1539 up to Alice's first birthday which was more or less covered by child benefit and the maternity grant.



On breastfeeding - I had very sore nipples and it took about a month before it stopped hurting at all. I can totally see why people give up in the first few weeks but once I got through that initial barrier it was easy and I'm still going 17 months later. And it's pregnancy - not breastfeeding - that can make your breasts go saggy. It's not like the babies literally dangle off your breast - they're not strong enough to hold on with their mouth!

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: ROTFL!!!

How exciting a new thread!!:D

Susan you must be VERY organised to know this ....wish I was that organised.

Life seems quite chaotic at the moment as we now have [STRIKE]flu[/STRIKE] bad colds and baby is feeding more often to make up for a poor latch (as he can't breathe well through his nose poor darling). Hasn't stopped him emptying the dvd's out of the tv cabinet though <must buy a cupboard lock lol>.

I need an Alice too - my two leave messy trails around the house so you can track their movements. :rolleyes:

Cat girl - about OH's and night feeds !!! They all say they will and many don't ...mine lost interest in doing night feeds before LO was 2 months old even though I had agreed to do a regular evening bottle feed (instead of breast) so that lo would be used to bottles . Last OH was worse and even though LO was fully bottle fed didn't do one night feed not even at the weekend...

To be fair when you work you do need your sleep so I've never expected current OH to actually get up on a week night but there is often a bit of a gap between mummy's expectations and the reality of the man you are with - my ex-Oh was thrilled to be a dad and is brill/hands on now but never quite lived up to my belief that he would be the ultimate "modern" hands on dad (I was so naive ;0) Having more realistic expectations second time around ds2's dad still doesn't live up to my original expectations (but still he'll do).

Lu_T

Wow! You girls have been busy.

I've just edited the first post so new members can see what we're about. I hope this reflects what people use this thread for. If you have any major changes you think I should make, please just let me know.

Baybee1984 - you okay? Hope you are keeping your chin up. I come from a broken home and it hasn't done me any harm. I know it must seem hard for both you and DS right now, but I'm sure you can work out a way of doing what's best for DS and this will just become his normality. My parents separated when I was 5 and I'd like to think I'm a perfectly normal, stable kind of person!

Catgirl - I didn't have sore nipples (but can tell an horrendous story about a blocked milk duct and thrush :rotfl: !) Don't worry about it. You will do what is best for you and baby at the time. Glad you've been able to appreciate all of the angles. I think the suggestion about visiting a BF club is a great one. I went ewhile pregnant (later on to get measured for a feeding bra) and even continued after I had to give up feeding DD myself. They tend to be pretty friendly places.

Once he returned to work me and OH didn't share a bed for a few weeks after LO was born as I sent him to sleep in the spare room so he could go to work. I did express a bottle once a week so I could have a night off on the weekend and sleep through - which was bliss. He changed nappies, bathed her, made all of her early weaning purees and froze them for me and even got up in the night in the first few days to lift her out of her basket so I could feed her. I had a C-section so couldn't lift her myself. I am a pretty lucky girl with my OH, if I do say so myself ;-)

Mini Mode at Boots have a buy 1 get 1 half price sale on at the moment. Selected items only but I Boots clothes. Such good quality and they wash so well. I'm definitely saving those for the next one. Just hoping for another girl so it can all get used again.

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Hi all, wow what a super long thread I've had to catch up on, its only been a few days. Thanks to LuT and Savvy-sue for starting a new thread, its overdue, think I mentioned it at least before Molly moo came along.

Welcome also to all the newbies!

Re bf, I struggled with Jack, I didn't have the supply as I struggled to gain the 10lbs I did, then lost 12lb through labour. He was tongue tied (not diagnosed till 9 weeks), had colic, reflux and was jaundiced at both, all of which made bf impossible - he couldn't latch on properly to feed and was losing weight, I had to bottle feed him.

Molly was different she wasn't tongue tied and even though she developed reflux, it wasn't till 11 weeks. I had plenty of milk for her, but I just found it soo painful and I had cracked bleeding nipples after 2 days. I dreaded feeding her, couldn't feed her laying down at night, so was fully awake and my memories of bf are extremely negative.

That said I have been contemplating to see if I can restart now things are on an even keel. I am on strong meds though and these would need to be changed and they may not be able to keep me at the stability I need to cope with. Its something I'm looking into.

Things here are ok, Molly is still puking a lot due to reflux, but she's huge at 6.5 months, she's the size of a 10 month baby and now weighs 19lb 9oz. She sicked up in her car seat on monday and couldn't get hers dry and clean in time for our next trip out, I put her in Jacks (she's almost 20lbs) and she was fine, in fact went to sleep in it too.

Jack is still not talking properly, says a lot a babbling and looks at you for an answer, I just need to figure out what he's said, he really waits for you to reply. He is lovely and understands everything we say, but like most toddlers, likes to test and push the boundaries.

Dh is good too and tries his best to be as helpful as possible, doesn't always get it right, but at least he tries.

Anyway best be off.

Good luck to all those TTC.

chocaholic110

Wow, so much chat on here when I haven't been on for a couple of days.

Another one here who breastfed at a young age. Had babies at 20, 24 and 33 and fed them all myself. It was a different experience each time too. Never had sore nipples but feeding DD caused a pain inside my breasts that made my toes curl - only lasted a few seconds each time but oouch! No pain at all with newest DS but we found the feeding really difficult...and I thought it would be easy third time around. Still 8 months on we're still going... despite the number of people who have "advised" me I should be stopping now. DS doesn't agree though - he'll have no truck with a bottle at all.

And I'm quite happy to feed in public. I pretty much think after childbirth I have no shame left anyway! Not bothered at all about feeding in front of strangers but don't do it in front of my Dad, FIL or BILs!

The person who asked about games for their little one. I would say there's no substitution for conversation. I pretty much chatted about anything and everything to my oldest two when they were younger; they both talked well at an early age and picked things up quickly. We find in school a lot of children are held back by poor vocabulary so really the more words they know the better - helps with reading too - children find it hard to sound out a word if they've never heard the word. I have a great passion too for reading to children - they're never too young. Though I think I'm pretty much preaching to the converted posting this on here!

heather38

well thanks girls kennedy now has the dreaded cold that has been going round this thread!!
we were at the dentist today and he said that she has another tooth coming in so that may well be the cause.

finally picked up the moses basket yesterday, it's lived at my mums for the last year and a half and as i only have 24 days left i thought i should bring it here!!
and who ever asked i just paid £15 for a long copy of kennedys birth certificate so i could get her passport, as they didn't tell us when we registered her that the short copy you get given isn't enough for the passport office.

does anyone know how i register for preschool? as kennedy will be 3 next october :eek: am i right in thinking she'll need to be registered soon? she'll be going to the preschool attatched to the local primary i hope.

Becles

heather38 wrote: »

does anyone know how i register for preschool? as kennedy will be 3 next october :eek: am i right in thinking she'll need to be registered soon? she'll be going to the preschool attatched to the local primary i hope.

At ours you pop in and fill in a form from the school secretary any time after their second birthday. You can arrange to go into the nursery unit to have a look around too. You can chat to the teachers, while the child explores and looks at all the toys. They show them the coat pegs, toilets, etc. and encourage the existing children to tell them why they like nursery. They make it seem really exciting to go there!