MSE Parent Club - Part 2

keelykat

feelinggood wrote: »

Sorry about your Nan, I hope you can get to go and see her soon. If you are a bit sad about not being able to visit, perhaps you could write her a letter to send in with someone? When I'm not able to get to see my Nan, I send her letters with lots of photos and things in, makes me feel a little closer. ((Hugs))

Thanks, thats a lovely idea I feel quite awkward as I'm not that close to her but have been making an effort over the past year or two to try and get to know her better. She was over the moon when we got married then had Elliot, so I'll get some new photos for her of Elliot-that should make her smile i hope. xx

ella_ella_ella

Unfortunatly the HV's here are not the best, we have the one I just cant bear to look at and another whom is completley clueless, she honestly doesnt know anything but we have a laugh sometimes and I havent really needed her for anything so it hasnt affected me too much.

Caz, i agree that you should talk to your hubby as bottling it up will only make it worse. Could you maybe get out for a bit fresh air today even if its just a walk around the block? I find sitting and stewing the worse possible thing.

Sami_Bee

keelykat wrote: »

Thanks, thats a lovely idea I feel quite awkward as I'm not that close to her but have been making an effort over the past year or two to try and get to know her better. She was over the moon when we got married then had Elliot, so I'll get some new photos for her of Elliot-that should make her smile i hope. xx

What about a collage of photos? when OH's Granny had to go into a home with her dementia we got a poster from snapfish with lots of pics mostly of Chris on that she had in her room and it always made her smile - her carers said they really liked a pic that was of Chris eating with food all over his face as she was more likely to eat when they reminded her that Chris needed his Granny to eat.
not sure if this link will work but they are doing daliy deals at the mo' todays is 20% off a photo collage mug http://promo.snapfish.co.uk/SpringSale09SF/sf_springsale_banner/
If you're not signed up to snapfish and don't mind PM me ur email and I can refer you and I'll get some free credit and think you will too (can only be used on photos not gifts tho)

ella_ella_ella

emlou2009 wrote: »

ella, you told a HV to get out your house?? thats brilliant, what did she do? i hated the one that came to my house just after seth was born, she was here for 20 mins and spent 15 mins talking about the wonders of BF and then with OH in the room basically tried to make me say he was abusing me while weighing seth and then off she trotted. not before i asked which weighing clinic she didnt do so i could make sure i didnt see her!! the one that came before her to deliver the red book i didnt go much on either, she reminded me of my mum :eek::eek: (we havent spoken in years, i'm sure most women would love a HV like their mum lol)

It was the one who came for the first visit, she harped on and on about PND.....i have a history of anxiety and depression which I never hid, infact I told them I had concerns when I was pregnant.....she was really loud and aggresive in the way that she spoke and went on and on about how I may shake the baby and told me that she would inform social services if I told her I had shook the baby :eek: She really upset me and I cryed for days because of her. I made a complaint through my midwife (who was lovely) and she kept me on her books for 6 weeks and made sure I could go to a different baby clinic with a different HV.

The horrible HV had the cheek to ring up later that day to ask what she had done!

Curious_George_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Keely - sounds like a phase we went through I didn't find a solution just got pretty good at going and replacing dummy while still half asleep and eventually he started to find it himself. one tip is to keep a spare one somewhere close in case you don't spot it quickly - I found there was a sort of golden minute to find it otherwise he was up and screaming

same here only DD used to have about 6 dummys in the cot with her, that way i had a fighting chance of her finding one of them and i didnt have to get out of bed!
she needed loads anyway, she used to sleep with one in her mouth and one in each hand to rub across her forehead!

im lucky this time round, DS doesnt seem to care when he loses his dummy in the night *phew*

scruffy96uk

Krystaltips wrote: »

Ooh scruffy, I love my memory foan pillow... Wasn't too keen to start with because it was so heavy... But had to persevere because of the price lol... Glad I did though, it's so comfy

Well I had the worst nite sleep ever so will try and persevere thanx krystal.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sami - my MW showed me how to breastfeed lying down on her second visit...I hadn't had any sleep and I broke down in tears when she asked me how I was MW suggested feeding in bed and I refused because I was terrified of Benjamin coming into our bed and me squashing him. MW (who I got on with really well by the time Benjamin came) practically frogmarched me upstairs and made me lie on the bed.

She then demonstrated how difficult it would be to roll forward onto baby if you have your arm stuck out in front of you (try it!).

I am so glad she pushed me, I would be a mess now if I didn't bring Benjamin into the bed to feed - he still has nights where he wakes every 2 1/2 - 3 hours. And most of the time he only makes it back into his cot if I am still awake :rolleyes:


I have the poundstretcher memory foam pillows and I love them...wouldn't like to get into a pillow fight with them though :rotfl:

Dormouse

I'm sitting here with a cuppa and a Molly Moo choccy cow thing from M&S (it's DS2's really! :shhh:)

Sorry to hear so many of you have rubbish HVs. I've always been lucky with mine, but then again, I've only seen the second one a handful of times. :cool:

Good luck for today, Agutka! :j

Was just wondering, does anyone know what happened to SusanC? She hasn't posted for ages?

Another vote for the lying down position when BFing - I swear it helped me get the hang of BFing big time when DS1 was a newborn. Plus once you get used to it, it's a great position for reading - just pop the book behind the baby's head. Or just snoozing as well, of course!

Had a quick look at the NHS Change4 life link and am afraid I ran away as soon as they started talking about swapping drinks for sugar-free drinks (I hate sugar-free drinks with a vengeance, especially for chidlren :mad:- unless someone is diabetic). I can see what they're trying to do, but I just find the scheme so patronising. I'm sure it's all done with the best of intentions though.

Triggles

I haven't seen that NHS Change4life site. I'll have to go look. I'll admit that DS gets "no added sugar" squash frequently. But he goes through about 8+ sippers of fluid per day (watered down cranberry, orange, or apple juice, water, squash, milk, you name it). He is the most hydrated child I know! He's always been that way. Still eats his meals and such, just likes fluids, too.

We have one local HV that is rubbish - I have specifically told the main HV in our area that I refuse to deal with the rubbish HV as she drives me nuts. She's spacey and preachy and just annoying in general.

Sami_Bee

I was wondering about Susan too, she must be about I've just look her up and it says

SusanC
Last Activity: 15-04-2009 9:43 PM

:wave: if ur lurking Susan post so we know you're ok

That change for life thing .. there are leaflets every week in my mums TV times (I refuse to spend money on TV mags when the digital TV has an EPG!!) Chris loves sticking the stickers all over Grandma's house
Speaking of my mum :mad: Even now I've pointed out that it says on the bottle "Ribena is not suitable for Children under 3 years" she still gives him the stuff!!
She acts like I'm being like some kind of silly hippy type parent by not wanting him to drink cordial - its not that at all, I'm allergic to most sweeteners and said sweeteners have also been proven to be linked with cancer(not all but the most common ones which I'm allergic to have) I just don't want to expose Chris to something he could be allergic to when he's happy to drink pure (watered down) juice.
She also bought a box of formula the other week out of the blue and I told her to take it back coz I wanted to stop him having formula and was just using up what I had left as he doesn't need it anymore then on friday when we were at her house I said give him a bottle of just cows milk and she ignored me and opened the box of formula she hadn't taken back and then once he'd finished the bottle proudly told me what she'd done:rolleyes: and she says I've got an attitude like a sulky teen!!

ooh I feel better having that rant!