MSE Parent Club - Part 2

Becles

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

but what I can't understand is why you (and choc) don't fit a fridge lock? Or find SOME way of preventing them from opening the door, or have SOME sanction which communicated to them not to do it.

I don't believe in fridge locks or any other safety stuff. Go no stair gates, socket covers, cupboard locks etc. Bleach and cleaning stuff are still under the kitchen sink, ornaments are still where they've always been etc.

Would rather teach them that there are things they are not allowed to touch. When they touch things they are not supposed to they get told "no" firmly the first time and if they keep doing it, they get told no again and removed from there.

It worked with my boys and I'm confident it will work with Charlotte when she understands. She's just 21 months, so they don't really understand and remember things at that age.

Welshlassie

Rhys has been "using" a potty for about 4 weeks. He knows he is weeing and points at his nappy and then the potty. We did go through a stage when he woke in the middle of the night and pointed at the potty just so we'd take him out of his cot, but that soon passed. We regularly get wees and have had a few poos, but he doesn't ask every time he wants to go and we're not rushing him, he's only 18 months old so plenty of time.

SeptemberBaby_2

lwcus78 wrote: »

Haha!!
My friend told me today she's pg again and her LO is 8 months!:rotfl:

And whats wrong with that?! :rotfl:

I sometimes find it hard to believe that I'm already a Mummy of 2 :eek: but I wouldn't have it any other way! :happyhear.

xx

SeptemberBaby_2

nadnad wrote: »

so i checked online to see about any mother and baby/toddler groups but they are ALL in the morning from 10am or 10.30am and Oz has his nap from 9 or 9.30 usually for the most of 2 hours and its impossible to keep him awake so thats no good.

dont know what else to do with him to get him out and about.

My local ones are at 10:30am or 1:30pm and my theory is its to accomodate the Mums who also have older children so they can be dropped off and collected from school.

I really try hard to plan to go to a group in the afternoon (far to stressful in the mornings! ) but Poppy naps for an hour-ish after breakfast and lunch so its quite tricky.

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SeptemberBaby_2

Maybe I need to chill out abit as Poppy isn't even allowed in the kitchen! . We mostly have a babygate locked to keep her out of harms way.

My Mum lets her in the kitchen with her and today she put the washing machine on a 90o cycle! :eek::rotfl:

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chocaholic110

Becles wrote: »

I don't believe in fridge locks or any other safety stuff. Go no stair gates, socket covers, cupboard locks etc. Bleach and cleaning stuff are still under the kitchen sink, ornaments are still where they've always been etc.

Would rather teach them that there are things they are not allowed to touch. When they touch things they are not supposed to they get told "no" firmly the first time and if they keep doing it, they get told no again and removed from there.

It worked with my boys and I'm confident it will work with Charlotte when she understands. She's just 21 months, so they don't really understand and remember things at that age.

Same here although I do have bleach and cleaning stuff in a high cupboard, not under the sink. The only one of my children I ever put fridge / door locks on for was DD and she worked out how to open them herself in no time at all. Tom understands "No" even at the early age he is. He doesn't like it and has a little crying fit every time we say it but soons stops when we don't give in.

Plus I quite like that he's showing signs of independence and how to work thisngs out. His big sister was the same and still is. His big brother wasn't like that at all and would have probably let me do everything for him forever.

Sami_Bee

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

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And I know, I was an extra mean mummy, but anyone caught climbing into my fridge and drinking the custard wouldn't get any at tea time! :rotfl:

Thing is that if they don't learn early that "no" means "NO" in situations where it's cute and doesn't much matter, how do they learn that "no" means "NO" when it does matter?

Becles, you might find that one of those bungee things with a hook at each end would do the job if the shape of the door makes a Mothercare lock tricky to fit. You might need a bit of tape to keep it off the floor when you undo it, or you'll be forever 'losing' the ends. I never found that these things had to be there for very long: they learned they couldn't open it, they lost the urge to do it after a while. Although I know not all children are like that!

at home we have these locks on the fridge, we've tried a few but they were either too hard for us to open or broke after a week or too:rolleyes:
We have locks on all cupboards and drawers in the kitchen and one on the tv cabinet. A gate on the lounge doorway that when closed stops Chris getting to kitchen and stairs but now it rarely gets closed.
I suppose I use locks because I'm a bit lazy I'd rather let Chris roam about while I'm pottering about than have to watch him like a hawk all the time.
Grandparents only have a stair gate and plug blocking thingies and they are only up when visiting.

Chris was drinking the custard after his lunch so we weren't too worried, he always helps himself to things in Nonna's fridge but its usually grapes or strawberries :cool: he can't reach the fridge at home or Grandma's because its above the freezer:D

Savvy_Sue

Don't get me wrong, I never had a lot of safety equipment either, and believed that they should understand No from an early age. And I had a stairgate between kitchen and lounge anyway, which wasn't always shut. But if there was something which fascinated them which I didn't want them to get into, I'd sort a way of stopping them 'cos it was easier than having to be constantly 'on their case'.

nadnad

is funny how they know what no means i guess its the tone of voice you use. since oz has been crawling i've been saying it A LOT! i really need to baby proof - not so much safety locks and stuff but just clearing up a bit cos he's putting EVERYTHING in his mouth and we have too much lying around, we arent the neatest people in the world.

SusanC_2

When we moved into our house there were child catches on all the kitchen cupboards so we took them off all except the one with cleaning stuff in. We also use socket covers but just in the extension leads to stop dust getting in and we were given them free by the health visitor. Alice is always with us and she understands "No" and knows what she is and isn't allowed to do. One time my mum and brother were playing with jigsaws with her when we weren't in the room and they said that she put the jigsaw away each time she got a new one out as she knew the rule even though they didn't.

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

Maybe I need to chill out abit as Poppy isn't even allowed in the kitchen! . We mostly have a babygate locked to keep her out of harms way.

Forgive me if this is a dumb question but how do you like cook and stuff? Do you do it all when she's in bed or something? I have Alice with me on principle so that she can learn how to do things (on Wednesday she managed to fetch the salami and tomato puree for me out of the fridge and she helps with washing up and laundry) which I realise most people probably don't do but I just can't understand how you can get things done without letting her in there.