MSE Parent Club - Part 2

Sami_Bee

nadnad wrote: »

Sami - yeah i guess i could just see what happens if i left him there. You are SOOOO lucky! you've got the best parents/inlaws in the world! mind you so do most of my friends - their parents are gagging to take the babies for a while!

I know! Maybe I could run classes in how to be a good grandparent:p
I suppose its a mixture of lots of things like they are young (in fact MIL has a few friends with kids around 5yrs old!) and are all generally child friendly, Mum is a HLTA at a primary school, Dad is still a kid at heart, FIL is from a huuuge family with millions of nieces and nephews and MIL's mum and dad where both teachers
Do you have any friend or family that are/have sensible teenagers? If Oz sleeps through then you could do what the parents i used to babysit for did.
They would put their toddler to bed knowing that he almost never wakes up in the night and then they could go for a nice meal and I could get the older child to bed.
Obviously not as cheap as free family babysitting I used to charge £15 - below the ave because I didn't find it a job it was fun, all I did was read books and play at being a princess for an hour then get their DD in bed and just pop my head in DS's room every now and then

nadnad

Sami_Bee wrote: »

II suppose its a mixture of lots of things like they are young

Do you have any friend or family that are/have sensible teenagers? If Oz sleeps through then you could do what the parents i used to babysit for did.
They would put their toddler to bed knowing that he almost never wakes up in the night and then they could go for a nice meal and I could get the older child to bed.
Obviously not as cheap as free family babysitting I used to charge £15 - below the ave because I didn't find it a job it was fun, all I did was read books and play at being a princess for an hour then get their DD in bed and just pop my head in DS's room every now and then

I dont know ANY teenagers! i have thought about that and racked my brains trying to think of someone but dont know anyone. i wouldnt mind paying someone as long as i knew i could trust them. It wouldnt be hard for anyone to sit here at night cos he goes down at 6.30pm ish and doesnt normally wake until 12 or after and we'd be home before that. Ah well maybe we'll get out when he's a teenager! :rolleyes:

purplepatch

SusanC wrote: »

Those who've had caesareans may find ICAN useful. Also this lady had caesareans and normal births (including homebirths) and has a lot of useful information:
"Birth bibliography - must read books for expectant moms!
Everything I know about Childbirth in a Nutshell.
Childbirth resources
Birth articles"

Also just google VBAC, you'll get loads of info come up. I researched all this before having Izzy and then plumped for an elective section which I think was the right decision for me - my DH was also very worried about me going through the labour thing again after my having a hideous time with Olivia, so that kind of swung it for me as I really couldn't decide what to do. I gave her til 40+2 to come of her own accord.

Anyway, just to say that my experience of elective section was fab, a million times better than emergency so bear that in mind when making a decision, it was all soooo much calmer and everyone was laughing and joking with us. Total contrast to when Olivia was born which was traumatic to say the least.

nadnad

my elective c section was good too - no compaints at all. Basically Oz was not going to come out, my cervix was not getting prepared AT ALL (apparently i have a "lazy" uterus :rotfl: ) and my consultant said a section would be the best thing, and a good thing too because the when they took him out there was absolutely no fluid around him (which can be dangerous). I went private for my antenatal care with Oz and will def. go back to same doctor next time. She said to me that it is very possible for me to have a vaginal birth next time if i want - depending of course on a cooperative baby and an energetic uterus .

i'll have to think about it though - i always thought i'd want to experience what i call a "proper" birth, but you know i've heard my friends stories now and I'll admit to being more than a little scared! i don't feel like i actually gave birth to Oz, he was just lifted out, so i imagine the emotional rush delivering a baby after labour must be amazing and now i've said that i'm thinking maybe i will try it next time!:rolleyes:

Sami_Bee

nadnad wrote: »

I dont know ANY teenagers! i have thought about that and racked my brains trying to think of someone but dont know anyone. i wouldnt mind paying someone as long as i knew i could trust them. It wouldnt be hard for anyone to sit here at night cos he goes down at 6.30pm ish and doesnt normally wake until 12 or after and we'd be home before that. Ah well maybe we'll get out when he's a teenager! :rolleyes:

Does he sleep through noise? maybe you could fit him in one of those doggy handbags :rotfl:just pop him under the table while you eat your meal

purplepatch

Nad nad, I sort of know what you mean about the not experiencing a "proper" birth. I don't intend to have any more babies and DH asked me the other day if I feel like I've missed out by not experiencing it. Could honestly answer that I don't feel I've missed out... more a case of feeling like I've kind of wimped out a bit!! I can live with that though :rotfl: End result is the same of course.

I did a lot of research on vbac and the success rate didn't seem that high and there is also a risk of uterine rupture during it :eek:. But then there are all sorts of risks from a section. Swings and roundabouts really, but looking back I think it was the best option for me. But then again I'm one of the lucky ones who recovered both times from the section very quickly, which probably helps.

nadnad

purplepatch wrote: »

Nad nad, I sort of know what you mean about the not experiencing a "proper" birth. I don't intend to have any more babies and DH asked me the other day if I feel like I've missed out by not experiencing it. Could honestly answer that I don't feel I've missed out... more a case of feeling like I've kind of wimped out a bit!! I can live with that though :rotfl: End result is the same of course.

I did a lot of research on vbac and the success rate didn't seem that high and there is also a risk of uterine rupture during it :eek:. But then there are all sorts of risks from a section. Swings and roundabouts really, but looking back I think it was the best option for me. But then again I'm one of the lucky ones who recovered both times from the section very quickly, which probably helps.

i recovered quickly from my section too and never understood all the fuss from friends and family who harped on at me that it was very painful and took weeks and weeks to recover from (none of them having had one) - i was shopping with OH and Oz within a week! My mum was the worst rabbiting on about infections and all the rest - even when she knew i was having one! :mad: I know a lot of women who have had emergency sections and have had a horrendous time, I feel very lucky that my experience was a good one.

I think the next time i'll just play it by ear and see what happens and not get too worried either way - pros and cons of both i suppose. Hark at me rabbiting on about "next time"! i can't quite decide when "next time" will be, - don't want to leave too big a gap, but would like to get back to a job first - decisions decisions :rolleyes:

Sami_Bee

Nadnad can I ask, did they try to induce you or was it a choice between induce and c/s and you chose the c/s? (feel free to not answer if u like )

OMG Chris has just eaten 2 pickled onions! he's had a lick a few times but usually says "yuk" maybe he reme,ber that he got a lot while in my tummy - as is this baby

Sami_Bee

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nadnad wrote: »

i recovered quickly from my section too and never understood all the fuss from friends and family who harped on at me that it was very painful and took weeks and weeks to recover from (none of them having had one) - i was shopping with OH and Oz within a week! My mum was the worst rabbiting on about infections and all the rest - even when she knew i was having one! :mad: I know a lot of women who have had emergency sections and have had a horrendous time, I feel very lucky that my experience was a good one.

I think the next time i'll just play it by ear and see what happens and not get too worried either way - pros and cons of both i suppose. Hark at me rabbiting on about "next time"! i can't quite decide when "next time" will be, - don't want to leave too big a gap, but would like to get back to a job first - decisions decisions :rolleyes:

:jnext time 2nd time around is booorrrrring I want my baby now!
the thought of a c/s fills me with terror I found giving birth pretty easy but I suppose its the luck of the draw (sorry I'm sounding quite smug lately with my handy babysitters and easy births!)

Savvy_Sue

nadnad wrote: »

Ah well maybe we'll get out when he's a teenager! :rolleyes:

Oh no, you can't trust TEENAGERS home alone! :rotfl: At least not unless you practice beforehand ...