Husband help

Dora_the_Explorer_5

Tray, my heart goes out to you my love. Your husband isn't being daft or careless, it sounds like he's feckless and irresponsible.
Something will have to happen to make him change his behaviour and until that something does happen he won't change. You've tolerated it for quite a while so he knows he doesn't have to change because you put up with it and he can blame you for getting upset by it. You mentioned talking to his mum, that might help - she may be well aware of how he behaves, on the other hand she may not wish to acknowledge it so might not be much help.
You sound like you don't know which way to turn so things must be really difficult because you're clearly an intelligent woman.
What to do? Well, if I was in your shoes I'd take advantage of as much wise advice in this thread as I was able to and I think I'd talk to my gp about it. It's not a medical matter but it is affecting your health. Doc may not have the answers but may be able to point you in the direction of people who can get you out of this thicket.
Good luck and chin up and keep posting if it helps - Dora

vastsarah_2

hi ,just wanted to say thanks to Tenuissent for the link to partners with AS.
i have a son with that and adhd and all 4 sons are dislexic.
i have thought for a while that hubby was AS as well and about 3 hours ago he had yet again done some thing to up set me and couldnt understand why!! and then i found that web site,wow
Ive had a bad day with a funeral of a fav uncle where hubby had been as perfect as he could be .
When we come home he only gose and phones some one we had passed in the car when out who he didnt wave too because we passed to quick to say hello .just to say hi ,sorry not for waving!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The problem is that this is a couple whom have seriously upset me with a letter and we havent spoken to for about 5/6 weeks (i left a voluntary committee /treasurely job i enjoyed because i couldnt cope with beening draged into arguements that had nothing to do with me)
now im not speaking to him but i dont think he has noticed yet.
from vastsarah

tenuissent

I'm glad it was useful, vastsarah; I have found it very enlightening and helpful, with some unexpected laughs from time to time. You seem to have an awful lot on your hands - very best wishes.

vastsarah_2

hi dose any one know how tray is doing ,havent seen any thing posted for a while.
from sarah

Loretta

If tray is pregnant she must be seeing the midwife etc and when the baby is born the midwife and health visitor will visit her at home, she could take these opportunities to talk, she may feel happier in her own home bringing the subject up. Health Visitors and midwives can be very wise and have heard it all before and are a very good starting point for help and advice of what is available locally.. tray sounds very isolated, I am not sure if it because of where she lives, can't drive etc but I think it more that she is overwhelmed with her problems and who wouldn't be but also her husband has 'cut her off' and taken all her confidence