Depression Support Thread

Amber_Sunshine

Jo, I can only say from my own experience, I've heard 'things will be different when ...' before, and they never did change ... also he says you could go out 7 nights a week if you wanted too because he knows darn well you either don't want to or can't! It's an empty offer ...

Amber_Sunshine

I agree Beth, I like to remember my dad playing with his grandchildren, and look at photos of him when he was young. That is how I want to remember him.

absolutebounder

She told me we couldn't afford my £5 for a six pack anymore - I'd have to quit drinking.

Then I caught a glimpse of her credit card statement - £65 on make-up, £150 for a cut & colour, £30 for a manicure, £40 for a pedicure, £50 on vitamins, £300 on clothes and £600 for gym membership subscription.
I asked why I had to make sacrifices and not her.
She said that it was for my benefit - so that she would look pretty for me. I told her that was what the beer was for.
I don't think she's coming back.

feelinggood_2

I'm getting a second opinion!

I get to go to the neighbouring CMHT on the 27th, so hopefully something good will come of that. If they won't take me on, then its back to the PALS team and letter writing to MP. Fed up of sitting around, waiting for them to decide that I deserve help.

Jo_R_2

Is it totally wrong to see some humour in the fact that I'm feeling down again just the week before I have another appointment with my psychiatrist? :D Now that's what I call timing! In some perverse way I have always thought how much "easier" things would be in terms of treatment if I were depressed all the time, but I'm not and of course I don't want to be, and in some way it almost helps when I *am* really bad to know that it's not forever like that, just half of the time...

Girls woke up just before 6am today so I am anticipating a very easy bedtime later (fingers crossed!) I was feeling particularly down and them waking up so early made me feel worse, and I was half-thinking to get on the phone to my parents to ask them if they could have DD2 for a couple of days.

But then I realised poor little DD2 needs stability. I know sometimes it can't be helped when I am feeling really bad, but she's only two bless her and she just wants her mum (though grandma and grandad come a very close second it has to be said!) And I knew that although it would take some of the stress off, I'd also be sat here on my own feeling guilty. So I've got through that and forced myself to keep up the routine, also helped by knowing our new health visitor is coming over tomorrow. We've been referred for this family visitor scheme where a 'family visitor' comes over once or twice a week for a couple of hours to help out with pretty much anything with the kids which should help. I'd love to get DD2 back into nursery but I simply can't afford it because I'm not working.

Hope everyone is reasonably okay (or better!) today xxx

Tulip

I am off out now,chat later about 7pm,

Have a lovely day


*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

feelinggood_2

Jo - I'm always much more depressed after seeing my Pyschiatrist, horrible woman she is!

shazrobo

Jo_R wrote: »

Is it totally wrong to see some humour in the fact that I'm feeling down again just the week before I have another appointment with my psychiatrist? :D Now that's what I call timing! In some perverse way I have always thought how much "easier" things would be in terms of treatment if I were depressed all the time, but I'm not and of course I don't want to be, and in some way it almost helps when I *am* really bad to know that it's not forever like that, just half of the time...

Girls woke up just before 6am today so I am anticipating a very easy bedtime later (fingers crossed!) I was feeling particularly down and them waking up so early made me feel worse, and I was half-thinking to get on the phone to my parents to ask them if they could have DD2 for a couple of days.

But then I realised poor little DD2 needs stability. I know sometimes it can't be helped when I am feeling really bad, but she's only two bless her and she just wants her mum (though grandma and grandad come a very close second it has to be said!) And I knew that although it would take some of the stress off, I'd also be sat here on my own feeling guilty. So I've got through that and forced myself to keep up the routine, also helped by knowing our new health visitor is coming over tomorrow. We've been referred for this family visitor scheme where a 'family visitor' comes over once or twice a week for a couple of hours to help out with pretty much anything with the kids which should help. I'd love to get DD2 back into nursery but I simply can't afford it because I'm not working.

Hope everyone is reasonably okay (or better!) today xxx

jo, just wanted to say well done for getting through the day and keeping up the routine, i know it isnt't easy, i have two kids myself and have often felt like giving up, but when i am having a bad day, i know i can get through it somehow.

thank god the weekend is over, not had a bad one like that in ages. have a meeting with both sons teachers tonight, to discuss further strategies, other parents in similar situation will also be there.

hugs all
shaz x

alba37

It's been a long time.....

Just thought I'd pop on and say hi :wave: and see how everyone is?

Hugs to everyone,

A x

absolutebounder

Jo_R wrote: »

This bit (highlighted) is what I think is the crux of the problem. That is, at the end of the day, we're either gonna agree or disagree on what is a reasonable amount of evenings to go out/stay in. That bit is fair enough - god I don't expect everyone to agree with me or that I'll agree with everyone about anything! It's how you handle that and work towards a compromise, and to know that other person is listening to you and understands. I feel like he listens, and to some extent he understands. What I feel so angry about sometimes (I hate feeling angry) is the words that come out of his mouth. "Things will be different when x happens - [that is] when I move in/when baby is born..." Why does he say it if he doesn't mean it? I think the answer is because he knows that if he promises things I want, he can carry on in the meantime doing something that he knows makes me unhappy, because I'll put up with it thinking at some point in the near future things will change. So I guess there's some food for thought maybe?

You know what else is sooo frustrating? He is a really nice guy. Believe it or not, he does a lot for me, he does loads of nice stuff. But this constantly comes up and the more we talk/discuss/argue about it, the more he makes me think I'm out of order. Sometimes I think, am I? Then I think, well, I'm obviously angry for a reason aren't I?

But then I think, well what do I do about it? To that I have no idea right now.

I would be questioning why he wants to go out at all if he has a real woman he loves at home