ex and would be ex-gamblers support thread

GeorgeUK

Hi guys

Glad you got things sorted CC. I can't imagine the nerves and tension you will both be feeling - hope things have settled back down again for you.

Hi Riq - long time no type. Can't remember if you set up your own DMP or if you are still with one of the charities. Are the payments too high or is this just a temporary blip? Have you looked at reclaiming any PPI or creditcard charges (not part of the bank test case). Might be worth another look at the Old Style board incase there are some things they can suggest to amke your budget stretch further.

Hope things improve at work - i'm suffering from stress right now (and anxiety attacks and possibly panic attacks). Make sure you are looking after yourself so you don't end up a mess like me You are aware that there is a risk of gambling which is good - your defences are still up and you are aware of potential risks. Good luck with the job and stay strong.

cantcope

Something i picked up along the way.

if you had 2 doors to choose to go through would you choose a, inside are flashing lights loads of money, thrills, the highest highs, but someone kicking you constantly in the stomach showing you video of your loved ones being devastated. or b, a life without gambling that can be just as if not more rewarding, with only the occasional kick in the stomach?

life will always kick you now and again, its just whether you actually volunteer yourself for a kicking. i know i dont want to anymore

riquelme

cantcope wrote: »

Something i picked up along the way.

if you had 2 doors to choose to go through would you choose a, inside are flashing lights loads of money, thrills, the highest highs, but someone kicking you constantly in the stomach showing you video of your loved ones being devastated. or b, a life without gambling that can be just as if not more rewarding, with only the occasional kick in the stomach?

life will always kick you now and again, its just whether you actually volunteer yourself for a kicking. i know i dont want to anymore

brilliant analogy CC, youre an inspiration, every post you make is superb. thank you

Madone13

Just dropping to hello as the thread seems to have gone a bit quiet. Another gamble free week for me which I'm really pleased about, I've been away with work and I think this has taken my mind off gambling as I've rarely had an urge.

I'd also like to echo what has been said above and give my thanks to Cantcope - not only do you provide an inspiration for us trying to emulate what you've achieved but you also come back to here and offer your help to others. So big thanks!!!

cantcope

Hello all. I hope you are all enjoying the long weekend without a bet. My weekend has been spent so far having hair trials for my wedding, spending some quality "me" time while oh on his stag do.
5 years ago, quality "me" time would mean:
sat on sofa, laptop on lap overheating and physically burning my legs through whatever i was wearing. Ashtray overflowing as i chain smoked without even realising. Every now and again i might RUN to the kitchen to turn the kettle on or RUN to the toilet upstairs. My stomach would be in knots where i was either winning or losing, either made no difference. I'd be tired but too consumed in the games to sleep. tummy rumbling where i cant remember the last time i ate as food is no longer a necessity. how about that for quality me time????

Now, quality time last night was: nice bubble bath with imperial leather stressless bubbles, read heat magazine and my orange book while in the bath, chat to my friend while in the bath hehe.
out of the bath, on the sofa, football on urgh....hour on facebook, hour reading a book, hour catching up with some hollyoaks while i stuff my face with mississippi mudpie cupcakes.... (oops, dress fitting next saturday). sink into bed with rest of magazine and fall asleep. ASLEEP!!! straight away, no stress, no worries, no midn racing wondering where i'm going to get some more money from.

Well done to everyone who is in recovery, be it a day in, a month, a year, just one day at a time xxx

cantcope

Hi all,

no posting for over a week. How is everyone? I've had a very stressful week with family/wedding issues. However, as stressed and distraught i got, i didnt gamble so it cant be THAT bad! I got through it with lots of cuddles and tears. I almost wavered on the the no smoking but while i THINK it will make me feel better lots of people told me it wouldnt so i trusted their judgement as mine is terrible sometimes. Its been over 7 months now so i know i'd regret it.

Anyway, off to work i must go. Have a great gamble free day everyone xx

misskaytee

Oppps...Sorry CC, saw your post the other day but was in a hurry and did intent to pop back later and say hi but then forgot

Thread has gone quiet hasn't it, hope that means everyone is doing OK,

Im alright here, well on the gambling front im alright, Just struggling with 2 stroppy teenage girls at the moment!!
DD1 & DD2 seem to either be fighting with each other, or joining forces and trying it on with me....Nothing to major, just bloody annoying!

cantcope

Teenagers eh. I remember being on of those. Must say I remember it being a pretty difficult time. Wish i'd spent more time enjoying myself rather than just hating the world lol

maxco

Hi everyone.

I thought I would pop in and say hello just to keep the ball rolling on this thread. It's a really good forum for anyone with an addiction or for people who know someone with a problem.

Thankfully, I'm still going along fine. I've not felt tempted to bet and I don't think I'll really feel the urge to gamble again anytime in the near future (fingers crossed).

Glad to hear that the regular contributors are going along nicely and are remaining an example to us all.

Keep up the good work.

cantcope

Nice post Maxco. I come back to this thread now and again to read back on how i've felt in the past and remind myself how bad it gets when i gamble