Anyone else not changing their name?

karen_newcastle

[quote=TiTheRev;13380263
Would you not agree though, that society has gone somewhat downhill since ignoring its Christian roots though?! A slight aside I appreciate, but still a question valid to the topic at hand!?[/quote]

Err you are on very dodgy ground there since many wars (currently and historically) are and have been in the name of religion and christianity.

Wow how did this thread turn all religious?

TiTheRev

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*White flag*

I am not starting any wars here, just discussions! :rolleyes:

Ps: I would class marriage a 'religious' event, so it was inevitable

karen_newcastle

TiTheRev wrote: »

:rotfl:

*White flag*

I am not starting any wars here, just discussions! :rolleyes:

Ps: I would class marriage a 'religious' event, so it was inevitable

My wedding wasn't remotely religious Nothing to do with god at all.

TiTheRev

karen_newcastle wrote: »

My wedding wasn't remotely religious Nothing to do with god at all.

You say that like its a good thing?! :A

karen_newcastle

TiTheRev wrote: »

You say that like its a good thing?! :A

It was a brilliant thing!! I had the perfect ceremony and made my vows in front of my friends and family and not in some church that has beliefs I don't share.

Krystaltips

My wedding and marriage are all about God... If it wasn't for my beliefs I might of just put up with living with OH... As it is, we decided we wanted to be together and he respects and loves me enough to make our union in the eyes of God... Not just settle for living with each other...

I'm still not taking his name completely though! Nothing to do with Pride either... His name is a little dodgy... and I've always quite liked mine.... Less likely to meet someone else with it...

brazilianwax

ncgirl wrote: »

The bible says that "Where there is unity, it commands a blessing from the Lord",

I am having a civil cermony which in my opinion has nothing to do with religion. I am an atheist and I am marrying for love as I have met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and we want to solidify our commmitment to each other through marriage. We regard each other as equals and we both go out to work and earn money, there's no "head of the household". We're not even sure we want to start a family in the future, all we know is we want to go through our journey in life together, I don't think I need to change my name to do this.

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me too!!

i'm agnostic though after 7 years at a church secondary school (i was brought up non-conformist though). I actually feel extremely uncomfortable in churches - they completely freak me out.

there was absolutely no way i was ever getting married in church. the civil ceremony was traumatic enough!

karen_newcastle

brazilianwax wrote: »

I actually feel extremely uncomfortable in churches - they completely freak me out.

Me too!! but unfortunately I am a wedding photographer and have to go inside them nearly every week! :eek:

brazilianwax

karen_newcastle wrote: »

Me too!! but unfortunately I am a wedding photographer and have to go inside them nearly every week! :eek:

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sunshinejoclaire

fawd1 wrote: »

I'm not sure it's necesary to make comments like that, but being that you have....

In what way is that ridiculous. You've quite happily admitted that you want to be known as someone else? Why, what was wrong with you to start off with? And don't attempt to tell me that it's nice for the children for both parents to have the same name. My parents have been happily married for the last 35 years and my mother never changed her name. Do you really think she was any less my mother or my fathers wife because of it?? if anything, I have more respect for her for wanting to keep her own identity as a woman, and not just as a mother and wife. And before you ask, we're remarkably close, and if I could be even half the mother she was to my own children I would feel proud

Oh for goodness sakes. I have no problem with what other people do, however you clearly do. I couldn't careless if your mother took your fathers name or not, or if you take your hubands.

I merely pointed out that I will be taking my husbands when we marry, and I think to say that some any years of a persons life (it so happens I will be 27 too when I marry) will be erased is a ridiculous statement.

I do not cease to have acheived everything I have in my life just because I have chosen to take my husbands surname when I marry. :rotfl: