Anyone else not changing their name?

Krystaltips

It is an absolute male pride thing... OH used to complain about his surname but since I said I wouldn't take it completely, only double barrell it... Or why didn't he take my name? All of a sudden it's a good strong Irish name, why would he want to change?!

ncgirl

I know what you mean, my fiance has no affinity with his name whatsoever, given that his name came from his grandfather who neither my fiance nor his father has ever met! Why the sudden need for tradition?

sunshinejoclaire

Yes I am taking his name. We plan to start a family, and I want us all to have the same name.

And no, i don't feel that the first 27 years of my life will have been erased. What a ridiculous staement!

Idiophreak

Krystaltips wrote: »

It is an absolute male pride thing...

So I guess women not wanting to change their name is a female pride thing...

Shoshannah

When I was 13 I had a dream I would marry someone with the surname Hughes, and who should come along but a lovely Mr Hughes? :rotfl: I guess after that I have to take his name! :rotfl:

I haven't decided yet. I have no problems with his surname but I am sort of attached to mine, from a purely sentimental point of view. Nothing to do with pride.

fawd1

sunshinejoclaire wrote: »

Yes I am taking his name. We plan to start a family, and I want us all to have the same name.

And no, i don't feel that the first 27 years of my life will have been erased. What a ridiculous staement!

I'm not sure it's necesary to make comments like that, but being that you have....

In what way is that ridiculous. You've quite happily admitted that you want to be known as someone else? Why, what was wrong with you to start off with? And don't attempt to tell me that it's nice for the children for both parents to have the same name. My parents have been happily married for the last 35 years and my mother never changed her name. Do you really think she was any less my mother or my fathers wife because of it?? if anything, I have more respect for her for wanting to keep her own identity as a woman, and not just as a mother and wife. And before you ask, we're remarkably close, and if I could be even half the mother she was to my own children I would feel proud

fawd1

Idiophreak wrote: »

So I guess women not wanting to change their name is a female pride thing...

easy for you to say, you get to be the Mr of Mr and Mrs. And in terms of your earlier statement, you too become "her" husband. Fancy changing your identity??

fawd1

Shoshannah wrote: »

When I was 13 I had a dream I would marry someone with the surname Hughes, and who should come along but a lovely Mr Hughes? :rotfl: I guess after that I have to take his name! :rotfl:

I haven't decided yet. I have no problems with his surname but I am sort of attached to mine, from a purely sentimental point of view. Nothing to do with pride.

Completely agree. it's not to do with pride. As much as I consider it a nice thing to do for my husband, I consider it a great disservice to my father, whom I adore, to say that I would like to be knnown as someone other than his daughter

Gangstabird

I changed mine as in my opinion, we were becoming a family, together. Gave me a sense of belonging. I rather liked this and it's a lovely tradition. Knowing that any future children would also bear the name from this union was great too.

Couldn't care less what anyone else did. However, had my then partners name been 'John Crustpants', I may have changed my mind and insisted that DH change his name to mine.

Yet another tradition from Great Britain is deemed politically incorrect as we are bought and sold. Utter stupidness IMHO.

pinkpig08

I've double barrelled mine. I like my surname, and DS also has the double barrelled name to keep my surname in the family, as my generation is all girls. So I'm Mrs Pinkpig-Frog and DH is Mr Frog. It feels weird just being double barrelled - I don't think I could get used to the full whammy!