Weekly Flylady Thread 11th August 2008

juliejim

Anyone up for another HHC 1-1.30? I will clear this LR floor this afternoon!

vivw_2

Have just got back from MR T so will miss out this HHC as I need a sit dowm and coffee. BTW if anyone needs socks : womens and kids are 3 packs for price of 2 and mens 2nd pack half price at Mr Ts

toottifrootti

mumofjusttwo wrote: »

I am not sure if speaking to someone will help but it is worth a try. I have nothing to lose only something to gain.
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It is well worth doing - I was sceptical like you when i was reffered by my doctor when my father died - I had bottled things up (long story :eek: ) but agreed to go and see a bereavment counsellor - This guy was based in the local mental hospital so i was even more bothered about it - "i am not mentally ill" etc - anyway it started that I wouldnt say very much when he asked a question but after 2 or 3 visits I began to open up and wow what a difference in the end - I went once a week for 8 weeks - i could have gone longer if I had wanted but felt I was in control again - he even managed to help me with all sorts of things that wee going on in my life at the time not just Dad and I found a new confidence!
Please think about it seriously!
And you are NOT sad !!

Toots:D


p.s go for YOU - not because OH says you should. xx

mumofjusttwo

Thanks everyone . you have made me cry. I will definitely see someone. Thanks.


He has just told me that he is coming home and I told him I would go out if he wants and he said yes. Wish he had said that he wanted me to stay here. I don't know if he thinks that I want to go out and want me to go because I will be happy or if he just wants to come round see the kids then go back to mummy.

Hmmm maybe I am thinking to much.

nicki_2

I'm kind of in my PJs, I'm in scruffs as I'm supposed to be cleaning but I haven't the energy! LOL

mumoffour77

Thanks for all your support!!!

Although im no angel.........I promise!!

It was so hard at the start, I have 2 kids with Aspergers, and DD has really bad eczema (which i put down to stress even though she is only 6!) DH was always the one who diciplined the kids and when the accident happened, i was lost.........the boys always listened to him and never to me:) but now its lots better!!

The local social services told me that they could offer no help as we were not 'normal circumstances' and that the kids were in no danger......(methinks if i had a problem with alcohol they maybe would have paid attention).....and i had to fight for counselling for the eldest, as he couldnt understand why when his dad was a good person did this bad thing happen to him!!
DD was 2 when the accident happened and doesnt really remember her dad any other way, DS1 tells stories about what dad used to do and how she was his No 1......Its actually sweet!!

I have been told many many times to try and get on with my life, so last sept i enrolled in a course that would enable me to do a degree in nursing or social work, and that has been a massive help for myself and the kids......as I feel that it shows them that yes whilst this bad thing has happened to our family that we are strong enough to work hard, and educate ourselves, and get on with things!! I dont allow the kids to use their dads accident as an excuse for not doing homeworks and have told them that whatever way they go in life, that we will be proud of them if they work hard and try their best!!

mumoffour77

Thanks for all your support!!!

Although im no angel.........I promise!!

It was so hard at the start, I have 2 kids with Aspergers, and DD has really bad eczema (which i put down to stress even though she is only 6!) DH was always the one who diciplined the kids and when the accident happened, i was lost.........the boys always listened to him and never to me:) but now its lots better!!

The local social services told me that they could offer no help as we were not 'normal circumstances' and that the kids were in no danger......(methinks if i had a problem with alcohol they maybe would have paid attention).....and i had to fight for counselling for the eldest, as he couldnt understand why when his dad was a good person did this bad thing happen to him!!
DD was 2 when the accident happened and doesnt really remember her dad any other way, DS1 tells stories about what dad used to do and how she was his No 1......Its actually sweet!!

I have been told many many times to try and get on with my life, so last sept i enrolled in a course that would enable me to do a degree in nursing or social work, and that has been a massive help for myself and the kids......as I feel that it shows them that yes whilst this bad thing has happened to our family that we are strong enough to work hard, and educate ourselves, and get on with things!! I dont allow the kids to use their dads accident as an excuse for not doing homeworks and have told them that whatever way they go in life, that we will be proud of them if they work hard and try their best!!

mumoffour77

why did that post twice?????

pigpen

vanilla wrote: »

On the Bo front, i rang this morning and they said he had a great night and put weight on both back legs but finds it difficult to sit. They even took him for a short walk last night.:eek: The vet said he'd ring later and that Bo should be home this evening as it will bring him on quicker being around familiar faces and he's pining (sp)for us, so all good.:D

That is fabulous news!! I am so glad he is mending.. albeit a long slow process.. Hope he is home soon so he can be all loved together again!

juliejim

I suppose I'd better go and get dressed now.

MOF77 - you're doing really great!