what would you do?

rizlaman

and i know i'm gonna get me ears chewed off now :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

frannyann

rizlaman wrote: »

and i know i'm gonna get me ears chewed off now :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

I will remove all my posts, so you can continue to get advice.

Little_Pickle

rizlaman... read what frannyann has written...
frannyann... look how rizlaman is feeling...

get a babysitter and go out for dinner...
talk. you love each other probably a whole lot more than you both realise.
don't waste your time with misunderstandings.
life's too short guys...

Wishing you all the luck in the world,
LP
xox

icklejulez

Just read this thread and I know how hurtfull it must seem to both of you right now, perhpas you can get together and have a long chat about the future and be completely honest about your feelings. Life's too long to not be happy if its not 100% right dont do it but if you are happier than you've ever been make it work. All relationships have ups and downs it the people that make it work that are the happier long term.

rizlaman

frannyann wrote: »

I will remove all my posts, so you can continue to get advice.

listen you, you know how i feel and just want to know our future thats all ive said my piece many times and know they wont change so you know we have to go with what you want and if its not together then well............

trader_girl

ref my previous reply i assumed girl was y.f.&single no ties...
DD makes a huge difference....
The child should ALWAYS be the main consideration in any relaionship they rely on the adults in their lives to do the best for them..
If as adults you cant agree on whats best, first for the child and then for yourselves, perhaps it would be better all round if you say thanks for the good times and move on seperatley
good luck in both your lives make them how you want them to be

kittiej

It always saddens me when people try to change themselves to suit another.

I hope you can reach an amicable agreement whatever you decide.

I don't think OP meant any harm, he just doesn't know what to do.

Best of luck.

shellsuit

Oh dear!!

Thanks for your side Franny, I can see where you are coming from and understand why you don't want to get married, but does that mean you never want to marry Rizla or that you don't think marriage is right for you both right now because of the situations in your relationship?

Could it just be a trust issue because you don't know whether he will dump you again? I don't think though that he should get a place if his own to prove something to you, he should get one only when he wants to.

I understand if either of you don't want this thread to go any further, so I will delete this post if either of you wish me to (And perhaps one of you could report/delete the thread/posts too?)

Sarahsaver

rizlaman wrote: »

dont read anything into my signature pmsl i just like nine inch nails pmsl

What about reading anything into your username?:rotfl: RIZLAman?

frannyann

SS, just for background I have posted here for quite a while, so I think he had strong reason to pick MSE to ask this question and he also texted me to tell me he was starting a thread. I think the intention of posting here was to get the reactions he got before I explained my side. Both of us are nearly 40 and I have an 11yo dd. I do not want to uproot her from a flat she loves and I see no reason to rush into anything. To live together would involve selling up to move in together, not sensible in this market. My feeling is that to move in with me is an 'easy option' something I have explained before to him. Also he is quite insecure and by agreeing to get engaged I felt would show that I am commited to him. I just feel I don't have to live with someone or have a piece of paper to show that commitment.