what would you do?

rizlaman

in a relationship for nearly 5 years, engaged for 2 and when you ask your partner to get a place together as well as when are we going to plan marrage she says no to living together and doesnt want to get married. would you move on??

Cazza

Just wanted to send hugs, as I know what you're going through :grouphug:

Oldernotwiser

If your fiance has decided that she no longer wants to marry you then she's effectively broken off the engagement herself. Have you asked her what she does want and why she hasn't just ditched you properly? Depending on the result of this discussion you'll probably want to move on. Good luck.

pinkshoes

I'd be questioning if she'd moved on already??

ceebeeby

Ask her what she does want then .... but sounds like you're heading for bye-bye!

((((hugs))))

SuziQ

She may just be drifting,hedging her bets-ie staying with you until 'something better' comes along. You are then wasting your time if your ideal is to marry her-perhaps a well timed discussion and ultimatum is needed now so you can decide whether to take control and move on.Whilst she is obviously perfectly happy with the status quo,you aren't and eventually that will lead to arguments anyway.
Hope you can get is sorted.

shellsuit

If she doesn't want to get married, then what's the point of being engaged to be married??

Has she given any reasons why she doesn't want to marry you and move in with you?

If it's to do with money, ie, she won't get married until you can save enough to have the wedding of her dreams, then that's fair enough, but if she doesn't want to get married full stop and doesn't have a good enough reason, then I'd seriously consider walking away from her.

Oldernotwiser

shellsuit wrote: »

If it's to do with money, ie, she won't get married until you can save enough to have the wedding of her dreams, then that's fair enough,

That's a pretty questionable statement!

rizlaman

it cant be to do with money, we both have well payed jobs and i have saved a good amount also

shellsuit

rizlaman wrote: »

it cant be to do with money, we both have well payed jobs and i have saved a good amount also

Has she given any reasons at all

Have you not asked her?

rizlaman

believe me ive asked, all she says is marrage is just a piece of paper and living together means compromise. i have given up the chance to have a child as i want to be with her as i love her so much and she cannot have children. but no other reasons have been given