Wetting the bed at 11

Gingham_Ribbon

Not wanting to be too personal, but is it definitely urine? He's getting close to the age where wet dreams are common.

Lunar_Eclipse

viktriv wrote: »

Hi,

I'm new around here, so please be gentle!

My 11 year old son has started to wet the bed, and I really don't know what to do...

My initial gut response is to question whether he is actually having wet dreams? That would be the obvious answer. Failing that, anxiety or a bladder infection are the only two things I can think of.

continualdiamond

What i am going to say please don't worry about and your son may not have it, but im going to put down from my own personal experience just so people are aware of it.

He may have reflux, so maybe keep an eye on how long wetting the bed continues and the pattern of it.

I was diganoised with reflux (urine passes back up from the bladder towards the kidneys) and this caused me to wet the bed quiet often and yet to me when i went to the toilet i got the message that i was finished, didn't need to wee anymore. Id go to bed and wake up with the bed wet.

I was about 7 when mine was diganosed, my parents fought for a long time for it to be looked into more as doctors just kept saying it would pass, or something must be worrying me etc.

I was forever going to the toilet during the day and had to always be allowed to go in class time, basically because my bladder was never empty, yet i got the message it was.

I used to have to visit the hospital once a year and drink loads and loads and have ultrasounds, one to show my bladder full, then i was allowed to go to the toilet, then have another ultrasound to see if the bladder was empty and if nature had healed the problem.

Eventually mine healed naturally by the time i was 12, but i have some scaring to my right kidney as a result.

Im 26 now and sometimes if i wait too long to go the toilet, like if im out and about etc, i get pain on my right side.

Your son probably doesn't have this, but i thought id bring it up, just so people are aware that wetting the bed can sometimes be that something inside the body is not quiet working properly.

waggys

Bedwetting at this age may also indicate type1 diabetes. You should go and get him checked out with your gp.

Danyúl_II

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

Not wanting to be too personal, but is it definitely urine? He's getting close to the age where wet dreams are common.

He has my respect then if he manages to "absolutely soak" the bed - and it isn't urine.

viktriv

Thank you all for your support, it's much appreciated.

DS made it through last night without an accident, so he's chuffed with himself this morning

We're certain that it is wee, and tbh I suspect it could be anxiety about moving to the "big school". I'm still going to arrange an appointment with the GP though for him to be checked over.

He's absolutely mortified by whats been happening, so to see the big smile this morning when his PJ's were dry was fantastic!

andyrules

waggys wrote: »

Bedwetting at this age may also indicate type1 diabetes. You should go and get him checked out with your gp.

Absolutely correct - I'd forgotten about that - definitely check it out.

Savvy_Sue

Can you also have a word with the mothers of the boys who became aware of his accident, and ask them to speak to the lads to make sure this is NEVER mentioned again?

but you MUST take him to the GP. There may be a physical reason, there may not be, but only the GP can find out.

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DKLS

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Can you also have a word with the mothers of the boys who became aware of his accident, and ask them to speak to the lads to make sure this is NEVER mentioned again?

I wouldnt do that unless you want the entire year of high school to know what has happened. :eek: Do you not remember the law of the playground?

Savvy_Sue

The thing is, these boys KNOW it happened. If I knew my boys knew something like this, I'd make it VERY clear to them that it wasn't very nice to bring it up ever again.

I've never been in this precise situation, but occasionally when there's been comments about a child I know has problems I've challenged my boys to look at it from the other child's point of view.

After all, from some other posters, it seems this can just 'happen', even at quite an advanced age! So I'd make sure my boys knew it could happen to anyone, and would they want it shouted from the rooftops if it had happened to them?