Is OH being unreasonable?

*Louise*

emma12345 wrote: »

OH says he'll slit his throat if he has to take a day off work to look after his children because I'm not well.

And you're asking if he's being unreasonable?


You know the answer to that question.


No grown man who loves and cares for his partner and children would ever comeo out with a comment like that.

tiff

You used the words yourself, he is using you. I was once in a very short relationship where I felt used and its really horrible.

Dont think you cant get a job if there is no-one to look after the kids. Just get the job and take each day as it comes. Kids arent sick that often and you might be able to make alternative arrangements.

Hope you feel better soon x

Pinkylouloubell

OMG, what a total utter PIG you OH is.

Tell him to sort his life out and show you some respect.
we all have bad times/stressful days but honestly who does he think he is!!!

I bet he gets really bad man-flu??

Big Big hugs to you.

Did you know you can take Ibiprofen and paracetemol together and try the bonjela and clove oil.

XXX

maytaurus

But he hasn't changed.
they never do
do they
no matter what you put up with or how hard you try !
There isn't always a way out either
Hugs to you

pollyanna_2-2

sounds like he has major mental issues. ok even if he was under pressure from work not to take time off it is still totally unreasonable behavior. why couldent of he said "i dont think i will be able to" there was no need for the tantrum.
Also if you live together then you and your children shouldent be going short of money when he is stashing away over 400 quid. money coming into the house should be a joint decision of how it is saved and spent.

if you havent booted him out yet you need to talk with him about how unreasonable his behavior is, but i bet he thinks YOU are the one that is being unreasonable, if it was me i would be sending him to the doc's if he refuses to cooperate i can only see that you have no choice but to go seperate ways for your own sake

bebebelle

If you have taken this man back, for the sake of the Children.

I would like to speak for the children, as my mother did this too. I would have rather lived in a happy home with one stable parent, and eat 9p beans on toast every night,than have holidays,toys,sky tv,etc etc, and live in a nightmare of dysfunction that will scar me for life.

Belle x

mumoftwins

When I was married to the twins father I had to call him home from work one day as I really wasn't at all well - the twins were about 8 weeks old. He came home and I went to bed and slept for a few hours. When I got up I found my next door neighbour sitting in the lounge feeding the twins!!! Ex had called her and asked her to come round and babysit so he could go back to work!!!!!:eek:

I have had that awful toothache too (had tooth out a week later as couldn't afford root canal treatment) and he carried on as normal. Luckily my Mum was staying so she helped out.

Please, please do consider what he does/doesn't do and how he treats you. You deserve better than this and you will survive on your own with the children - they will be much happier with one happy parent than two arguing. And what example is he setting them - not a good one :mad: .

REMEMBER YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE - ENJOY IT!!

Bettyboop

Hope you are okay. I have been through similar. I moved back to our joint home with our kids and sadly everthing is as it was before! Some people believe that once a couple split up for dishonesty and adultry reasons that we women should not give these men another chance! I am really not sure what to suggest for your aching tooth as the time I had this it was extracted the same day. Thinking of you.

FluffyFiFi

I was must reading through this thread and was wondering how things were now time has moved on. Please can we have an up-date.