Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

If we met anyone, it would be above board, obviously we'd be sensible enough not to bring them into our children's lives too quickly ( that'll be another thing I'll have to ask questions on! )
Also if they met someone that hey hadn't disposed of thier children for, perhaps that would be easier, but the moose will be collecting her pension before she sees them

Buffythedebtslayer

of course you want to be loved kizzy. its not sad its a big part of being human.

lots of people love you in your life, people you know now people you haven't met yet yo never know what the future holds which can be good or bad!

xxx

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks Buffy I just feel like SFH I want a cuddle & the person I would've cuddled is dead to me now.

At last DD is snoring 3 hours to get to sleep!

Keeping_Motivated

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

I don't want her near them!

I know what you are saying KM, but I would've rather we could've stayed together, as much as I will probably find someone else & be happy - maybe happier - I was happy before, even though now I couldn't go back to how we were, me compromising to keep him happy ( or not as the case may be )

I know Kizzy and if it were me I wouldn't want her near my children too so I can completely relate to that. x
And I know you would have stayed together and never wanted any of this at all, its so unfair that she/they can just take what you thought was your future away so easily and split your family up. Thats why you quite rightly finding this so difficult because its so wrong and unfair.

My earlier comments were not meant to sound flippant I'm sorry if thats how they came across I was just trying to inject some reality into the situation if she does eventually come here but like you I sincerely hope it never comes to that and she drops off the face of the earth well before that.

Infact if I was you I would write her a letter before she even attempts to set foot in your town and tell her some reality, the hurt, the childrens pain, how much you loved him, his behaviour since coz I am damn sure he gave her another reality!

x

kizzykizzywizzy

After all the help you've given me KM, I didn't think you sounded flippant.
I have really been thinking about writing to her, letters take so long through BFPO though, I wouldn't know when she got it & I'm quite nervous as to DFS's reaction after the other day, I've also got the money aspect to think of, he doesn't have to pay as much as he is, so have to tread quite carefully

scottishfreebiehunter

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Thanks Buffy I just feel like SFH I want a cuddle & the person I would've cuddled is dead to me now.

At last DD is snoring 3 hours to get to sleep!

Nightmare this is what is no use and they do not have to contend with that,though as little comfort as it seems just now,when they grow up they know they have a mummy who is strong and cared for them wellxx

I do not know why I have not phoned Kizzy I think it was his gran who said do not give the b i a t ch the satisfaction of knowing it is hurting you.

I so hate locking up at night
I really cannot let him see it has affected me so badly as been shovling chocolate down throat all day.
I tidied up a bit today though tomorrow will be up early making sure house tidy and me to so he can see I aint some scruff bag sitting moping( I am but what he doesnt see etc)

scottishfreebiehunter

Thing is though I called the s l u t the other week there other night told her she was a coward and that if she ever ever went near my son god help her and it will not stop them as they are so pathetic that they cannot get a single man etc etc etc

Oh never said anything other than I was mental mmmm:rotfl:

scottishfreebiehunter

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

After all the help you've given me KM, I didn't think you sounded flippant.
I have really been thinking about writing to her, letters take so long through BFPO though, I wouldn't know when she got it & I'm quite nervous as to DFS's reaction after the other day, I've also got the money aspect to think of, he doesn't have to pay as much as he is, so have to tread quite carefully

oh man would be so tempted to just send her a photo of family together etc and no name she would know where it came from and you knew who she was
Actually just ignore me as I am evil seemingly:rotfl:

kizzykizzywizzy

Good for you SFH, I'm glad you managed to sort the house.
I've got to go to the C/Tax office tomorrow, I also need to either see sis or post cards for her 2 sons, one's 18 tomorrow the other is 16 the next day, I haven't even got them presents, will give them money & perhaps buy a crappy mug/glass with 18 on it!
I don't put effort into anything anymore, too lazy, this lot has made me like it, I do what i have to & that's all

scottishfreebiehunter

:o:o:o:ocalled Kizzy today in shock over phone bill


as they say in Pretty Women it is an obscene amount of money :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:been phoning all over and to oz mobiles etc etc
t ! t face paying half phew as he was looking at online bill,told him his fault so he is paying half pmsl