Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

DB the worst bit about all this is the hurt that our children have had.
They don't think about them do they? - Then they say they love them more than anything - except some fat moose that is

dellybelly_2

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

DB the worst bit about all this is the hurt that our children have had.
They don't think about them do they? - Then they say they love them more than anything - except some fat moose that is

Oh God! kizzy - that's the part I'm finding the hardest. I've already had 1 Prince William - Diana moment IYSWIM and it's made me feel so guilty. I HATE him for allowing this to happen and have a child who's not even 3 comfort me for what he's done!

And yes - he's all about how much he loves DS, but not enough to give him a happy stable family home, not enough to put aside his "dreams" or the way he feels he wants to live his life now, not enough to go to counselling and attempt to save the marriage. He wanted an easy way out - me to chuck him out, but I made him choose to leave, I refused to take responsibility for the break up of the marriage when I've done nothing wrong. Git

kizzykizzywizzy

I just feel so awful that from the ages of 5 & 7 my children have got to have a broken home. It must be even worse for you with a 3 yr old.
Neither myself or DFS have come from a broken home, so he/i can't possibly understand what it will be like for them.

scottishfreebiehunter

Thats the thing kids can give so much love and those scumbags are the losers xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Great can't get mine to go to sleep tonight!
I get so annoyed, he's probably bloody relaxing & I've got these 2 who won't sleep & want thier Daddy!
I am stopping myself from ringing him:mad:

scottishfreebiehunter

Snap xxxxx

ds a bit upset as has all ulcers over tongue now ,knew he has been coming down with something,allowed him to call him though didnt know whether to or not as te w h o !e Beast would have been there,anyway he answered and ds a bit happier now

I want to call him and be evil evil nasty kick !!! sfh but will not

dellybelly_2

don't do it. Just chill out and spend the time with the kids. I know it's the long haul but you are their stability right now and they need you, they're playing up because you're the one that's here for them.

I'm lucky my DS loves his bed and slept through the night from he was 6 weeks old, he goes to bed at 8 and usually sleeps through till about 7. He's been a bit out of routine (naturally) the past few days but it's getting better. I'm just keeping his welfare at the front of my mind right now.

Hopeful1

Hi Kizzy -i've never posted on here before, but just wanted to say.........DON'T RING HIM!

I've been following the thread for a while. It always causes you more turmoil when you ring or text and you've been doing so well.

Hope you don't mind me chipping in, i didn't want you to be left alone with thoughts of getting in touch with him!

Hopeful1

Ha Ha DB was here anyway!

Also, if the kids know you'll ring him everytime they have a tantrum they will do it all the more.

Stay strong (again i know) they will eventually get used to the situation and settle down quicker.

Buffythedebtslayer

don't phone Kizzy. He doesn't deserve it. You kids deserve better and you can handle this.

Look, I know you don't want to say things like this but can't you say to the kids - somehow that Daddy isn't going to live there and the set times when he phones and visits are when you see him. and that you are sorry but there isn't anything you can do.

its so hard for them they understand only bits. he has left them and they are scared. Oh Kizzy and actually Gert and SFH I wouldn't know what to say to them. what !!!!!!!s these "men" are.

it must be awful to hear them ask for their Dad when all this is because of them and their selfishness.

sending all hugsxxxxxxxxxxxx