Single and in debt.

skint_spice

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I have joined Ok cupid!

much nicer then plentyoffish bit more professional.

xx

ok, that can be my challenge this week - to join one of these sites. and to put a couple of things in the local free paper (to sell not lonely hearts)!;)

Ossireo

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I have joined Ok cupid!

much nicer then plentyoffish bit more professional.

xx

:j:j:j:j

and Marleyboy, I was one that didn't think I would fit in to those websites

be like Buffy and give okcupid a go.. trust me!

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Sarah, that is exactly what I think. I have just come back from a few days away at a friend's it wasn't great and I really didn't get the break I wanted, so I came home tonight thinking "i deserve a treat, I am lonely I should get a reward etc" but I won't ever getout of debt if I keep thinking like that.

xx

Exactly! But it is such a vicious circle, and so hard to break, especially when you don't spend lots in one go (well, not all the time), but do it lots of times, it just keeps adding up, and a lot of it is to do with loneliness as well, if I don't have someone to come home to, at least I have some new things to keep me amused.

I KNOW I need to stop this, am at the end of my tether with it all really, I just cannot get up the nerve to go out and meet people, but I know I can't carry on like this. I know I have to try to be brave and take the plunge, if I could just go and meet one man, even if it wasn't a success, at least it may make it easier to do it next time.

eco

sarah b you should take ossireo's advice and join ok cupid, and start chatting and maybe getting out and about

eco

and i want to say thank you to everyone who has thanked me tonight, and i'm going to start listening to my own advice or shut up

sarahb123_3

Well, I may have a look, I have done some chatting on the internet, but I always back out at the point of agreeing to meet. Which kind of defeats the object and tends to annoy people. I will have to try harder I think!

Buffythedebtslayer

sarahb123 wrote: »

Exactly! But it is such a vicious circle, and so hard to break, especially when you don't spend lots in one go (well, not all the time), but do it lots of times, it just keeps adding up, and a lot of it is to do with loneliness as well, if I don't have someone to come home to, at least I have some new things to keep me amused.

I KNOW I need to stop this, am at the end of my tether with it all really, I just cannot get up the nerve to go out and meet people, but I know I can't carry on like this. I know I have to try to be brave and take the plunge, if I could just go and meet one man, even if it wasn't a success, at least it may make it easier to do it next time.

I read something the other day, every no brings you closer to a yes.

Bit lame but I was feeling sad after finally breaking it off with an on/off guy (been four years!!!) I really thought he was the one, but so much happened and I was an idiot and he was an idiot. I had to make the break and I am glad I did. we were friends more then anything, I do miss him but that ship has sailed.

anywhy there was a point to this. I am not saying a first meeting would be a disaster but even if it was its just getting one more no out of the way! you only have to find one yes and some of the no's could be quite fun if we actually got out there!

join a free dating site and do what did - I was never going to meet any one it was more a trial to get me thinking about who i would date and what I liked.

xxx

eco

try to agree to meet on a saturday afternoon for a coffee, little steps and all that

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I read something the other day, every no brings you closer to a yes.

Bit lame but I was feeling sad after finally breaking it off with an on/off guy (been four years!!!) I really thought he was the one, but so much happened and I was an idiot and he was an idiot. I had to make the break and I am glad I did. we were friends more then anything, I do miss him but that ship has sailed.

anywhy there was a point to this. I am not saying a first meeting would be a disaster but even if it was its just getting one more no out of the way! you only have to find one yes and some of the no's could be quite fun if we actually got out there!

join a free dating site and do what did - I was never going to meet any one it was more a trial to get me thinking about who i would date and what I liked.

xxx

I like the idea of getting one more "no" out of the way, kind of like the way you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you get your prince! I have been thinking along those lines, I know that is my way out of this rut and I know I WILL do it, I just need to get up the nerve, because the alternative is carrying on like this, and I just can't do that anymore.

Re ships sailing, recently my stupid behaviour has caused a ship to sail, and I just cannot stop thinking about how I messed it all up- was completely my fault. So now I am trying to get up the nerve to meet other people when I am also still hankering after someone else. I made such a mess of it! Can't help thinking he may come back. Why was I so stupid! I hate feeling like this! I try to think that is something is meant for you it will happen, so if he was perfect for me he will come back, and if not, I will have to keep looking for the one who is. It's so hard to feel enthusiastic at the moment, can't help feeling I have made a huge mistake.

All this and debt as well! I NEED something nice to happen for a change!

eco

isn't it better to admit your mistakes and hope not to do it again, rather than keep beating yourself round the head with it