over spend and over eat

Bargainfinder_3

Absolutley! How fab. I am thinking of going into Wedding Singing when I give up work, as a business to keep me busy and earn extra spending money... does anyone have any ideas as to what people like to hear sung at weddings? I have no idea what to put in my 'repertoire' (sp??!!)

I too am rubbish at Cross stitch.. my mum offered to do me one the last wedding I went to, but I said no because I thought it would be cheating!!

Puzzledbubbles

Hi All,

Well as i said i wrote a really long post saying hi to everyone and sharing some ideas etc, but my stupid work computer didnt save it so when i clicked to post it disappeared.

I was going to start again, but since other people are sharing stories, here is mine - its all a bit raw as its only blue and this post that have made me realise all of this so im not sure if its the right time for my confession or not - but here goes.

WARNING THIS CONTAINS CONTINUOUS FOOD REFERENCES - please feel free to ignore this post if you are hungry

I had a rough time at home - no detials but ive not spoken to my parents for the last 2 years because of it - and used food as a way of controlling my own destiny. This meant a lot of sneak eating - i would go to the corner shop for a chocolate bar - leave my bedroom window open - spend £5 on various crisps, chocs and sweets - take one choc out of the bag - throw the carrier bag through my bedroom window and walk in the house - show eveyone the one chocolate bar then go upstairs and stuff my face. This was a daily occurance with all of the wrappers being shoved down the side of the bed and then cleared out once a month (si know thats gross, sorry). This started when i was 11 and only stopped when i left home at 18

Then i went to college and found some good friends, but we always met in the canteen - largest place we could all sit together and chat - so every day breakfast, lunch and dinner were eaten here - add some snacks between every lesson and you are nearly there.

When i went to uni i really bucked against everything i knew, i was working hard, had some good friends, broke up with a very controlling ex, made arrangements so that i did not need to live with my parents ever again - and then started hating my body and making myself worse.

A daily diet for me when i was at my largest (19stone) is as follows:

Breakfast 8:00 - 2 slices of extra thick white bread with butter

Snack 10:00 - cheese sandwich and a bag of crisps

Lunch 11:30 - pub lunch, my fav was 2 bottles of smirnoff ice, a scream burger (two burgers, bacon and cheese in a bap) onion rings, chips and side salad

Snack 2:00 - bag of crisps

Snack 3:00 - bag of Haribo

Tea 6:00 - fish, chips, mushy peas and 2 slices of bread

Snack 8:00 - bag of crisps

Supper 9:30 - bag of haribo or pot noodle

I went to the dr for a repeat prescription of the pill and the nurse told me she wouldnt prescribe it because i was too fat.

At that point (after i had stopped sniveling) i realised i was bl00dy misserable and that i had to change things.

I started by making little changes - pub lunch only twice a week (rather than 5 - 7 times) only one bag of crisps a day (but i bought my favourites - McCoys so that i didnt feel like i was missing out) and i stoped eating pot noodles for supper and had them for lunch instead.

after i did that and a few other things i was down to about 17 1/2 stone and was still miserable - the next step was cutting down on the amount of bread and thickness of the slices - i went to eating only thick bread (rather than extra thick toastie size) and stopped buying it completely for a while, having rice cakes with spreadable cheese and cucmber on them instead - much healthier and much less fattening. Then i moved all of the food - stopped keeping it in easy places that meant i had to make the conscious decision to get up and go get food rather than just shovelling it in.

im now at the point where ive lost almost 6 stone and im much much happier, ive got a lovely husband who dotes on me (but is still a pain in the a** lol) and im a size 14/16 which is fine - ive been a bit obsessed with loosing another 2 stone and getting down to my ideal weight - but i have now decided its time to change the way i think about food.

Im still eating better and a normal day now is soooooooooo much healthier -but im going to make a list of promises to myself to remind myself that food is not my enemy and fat is not my friend.

im going to stop analysing what im eating to the extent that i make myself guitly for eating and then still feel like im missing out

im going to stop saying i cant have something - why cant i have it? who is stopping me?

I am going to stop weighing myself daily - it is pointless!!!!!!!

I am going to carry on making good choices

I am going to decide if im really hungry before eating

And Finally ................

I am going to start loving myself a bit more - if my wonderful husband loves me i cant be that bad really can i??????

Puzzled xxx

crazychatter

cmc i love the idea of kiddie drawings as gifts, my sister does that aswell! your hubbie playing is a great gift too, much better than a toaster! lol!

Thanks BF, I've really enjoyed all the posts today, has made my day much more interesting, I'm sure Jo is going to be really pleased too!
xx

Bargainfinder_3

Puzzled, thanks so much for sharing your story, I think you have done amazingly well.
A huge congrats for getting down to the weight you are. My husband was bullied at school and did the same thing with sneak eating, cheese sandwiches in bed at midnight sort of thing, and so I know a little bit about the lack of self-esteem that accompanies it; but cant claim to know all about it.

You are so right, your hubby obviously loves you the way you are, so you have every right to start loving yourself!

Chin up sugar - you seem like such a lovely person! xxx

cmcconnell

that seems like a very healthy list of promises PUZZLED! esp : 'I am going to decide if im really hungry before eating' one i should Really be doing too!
CM X

Bargainfinder_3

cmc - what is Comping ... it's been puzzling me for a while:rotfl:

Puzzledbubbles

thanks guys,

im working on remembering the promises now lol

xxx

crazychatter

Oh puzzled, thank you for sharing that with us! Well done on changing your lifestyle and eating in such a sensible way, and good luck with seeing yourself in a positive light, I know it's the most difficult thing to do sometimes! I think women like us find it easier to be critcal about ourselves instead of relaxing and seeing our good points! It's great that you have a supportive partner!
I've never got into weighing myself daily but I know alot of women do, it's definitely unhealthy and unnecessary, please stop!!
XXX

Tesscha

Thanks for sharing your journey puzzled; I definitely need to adopt some of the changes you made so I can make headway with this weight and dropping at least 2 stone by my birthday in Nov. I'm leaving work now and will try to log back on later this evening.

Ciao

cmcconnell

BF comping means competion entering ( yet another thread in the forums that i spend to much time on!) am really enjoying this thread, very friendly even to a newbie like me!
Gotta go and make some kind of healthy dinner for my OH, will speak to you all later
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