Depression Support Thread

shazrobo

poppycracker wrote: »

hi all :hello:

sorry i haven't had time to read all the posts recently, but just wanted to come in and give everyone a hug......

(((((((((((((EVERYONE))))))))))))))))))))

and an extra big hug to ((((((((dawny))))))) what a nightmare you're having at the moment. Wish i could do something more positive for you.

I need some advice folks.... its three and a half months now since Alex died. Last weekend I met someone who makes me smile for the first time in a long time. Everything is fine when I'm with him, i still think of Alex but its not so painful.... the problem is when he's away, i get this horrible guilty feeling in my stomach. Do you think it's too soon to see someone else?

hi PC pleased that you have met somebody that makes you smile. take things slowly, you have no reason to feel guilty, Alex would want you to be happy
big hugs
shaz xxx

shazrobo

hi everyone, hope everyone is well
things got on top of me last night, and i ended up really down, and cut myself, for the first time in ages, i know i was stupid, but at the time it was a release.
on a more positive note, last week son josh took part in a community project, and did a lot of good work helping others etc. well i just had a phone call from th police officer who ran it, and cos of all the extra effort josh put into it, he has won the top prize for his familt, which is a massive hamper, all gift wrapped, containing lots of nice goodies, including wine, tinned salmon, chocolates etc. am very proud of him today, and happy.
hugs to all
shaz xxx

LadyMorticia

Hello lovelies.

Went out today to see Janette as she wanted me to *try* to talk to her. I didn't really though. I kept changing the subject.lol. Felt so out of place wearing long sleeves so I bought a new black shrug from New Look so I can wear a dress or something and hopefully nobody will take any notice and will just think the shrug is to compliment the dress. I managed to tell Janette about what I had done and how I felt like a failure and she said that I'm not a failure because I had tried all I could to not do it. She also said that I'm very talented. Haha. Yeah...sure. :sarcasm:

Bought some magazines today so I can try and have a relaxing evening. Janette seems a bit concerned that the doctor wants to talk to me about my liver. It was me reassuring her for a change, telling her that if it was life threatening I would have been called in sooner.

I'm trying to cope as best I can. Janette asked if I'll be okay this weekend and I said yes. What's the point in replying with "I don't know"? She doesn't work at the weekend. She wouldn't be able to do anything anyway.

I saw Jo today, which was nice. She's so lovely. She's a lot like me in some ways - shy and introvert.
One of my friends is out of hospital now too, so it was lovely seeing him today - even if it was only for a few minutes.

Anyway, sorry to bore you with my ramblings.

X Factor starts tomorrow. Woo!

xx

absolutebounder

Lady Bounder just sent me this. I thought it was amusing and might brighten up someones day

WIFE:
What would you do if I died? Would you get married again?
HUSBAND:
Definitely not!
WIFE:
Why not - don't you like being married?
HUSBAND:
Of course I do.
WIFE:
Then why wouldn't you remarry?
HUSBAND:
Okay, I'd get married again.
WIFE:
You would? (With a hurtful look on her face).
HUSBAND:
(Makes audible groan).
WIFE:
Would you live in our house?
HUSBAND:
Sure, it's a great house.
WIFE:
Would you sleep with her in our bed?
HUSBAND:
Where else would we sleep?
WIFE:
Would you let her drive my car?
HUSBAND:
Probably, it is almost new.
WIFE:
Would you replace my pictures with hers?
HUSBAND:
That would seem like the proper thing to do.
WIFE:
Would she use my golf clubs?
HUSBAND:
No, she's left-handed.
WIFE:
- silence -
HUSBAND:
F**k

LadyMorticia

:rotfl: AB!

Tulip

poppycracker wrote: »

hi all :hello:

sorry i haven't had time to read all the posts recently, but just wanted to come in and give everyone a hug......

(((((((((((((EVERYONE))))))))))))))))))))

and an extra big hug to ((((((((dawny))))))) what a nightmare you're having at the moment. Wish i could do something more positive for you.

I need some advice folks.... its three and a half months now since Alex died. Last weekend I met someone who makes me smile for the first time in a long time. Everything is fine when I'm with him, i still think of Alex but its not so painful.... the problem is when he's away, i get this horrible guilty feeling in my stomach. Do you think it's too soon to see someone else?

:hello: PC,

Alex would want you to find happiness again for yourself and he would be happy for you,Its not too soon,Just take things slowly and see what developes of it

Katie

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Not on long tonight as I am watching Kylie Minogue on 4music of her concert that I went to on July 30th this year and reliving it,got a nice bar of Yorkie to munch on while I watch and going to make a nice white chocolate options drink to slowly drink during it as well The fair is back where I live so wandered over to look at it.

I will chat tomorrow

Night! Night!


love and light,

Katie xxx

dawnylou

absolutebounder wrote: »

Quotes like this are also very common here but who is it that is saying you are too fat and ugly? Does your boyfriend say this? No of course not. If he didnt love you he wouldnt still be around. He has a brain too and if he sticks by you there is a reason for it. The only person seeing fat and ugly is you. Both fat and ugly are words that depend on the outside viewer. Size twelve may be fat to kate moss but its thin to dawn french. You are beating yourself up over nothing apart from the fact that YOU have set the goal posts and YOU have set them in the wrong place. Move them and all is much easier.

I wish I could move the goal posts, but I look in the mirrow and am disgusted by what I see. My Fiance constantly tells me he loves me how I am etc etc but for some reason I am unable to love myself the way I am
But possibly I believe that if I was slim and attractive things might be different? But deep down I guess I know that no matter what I look like I am the same person.

All I'm saying is that I don't feel able to cope with wedding dresses at the moment due to the way I am feeling.

But I am sure I will get over that at some point shortly.

I just want my Fiance to have the best life possible and I don't feel able to give him that, I even feel his family must be disappointed that he ended up with someone like me. Someone unable to take on the role of a proper housewife whilst working, someone who appears so miserable most of the time, someone who often is too tired to even take care of themselves.

poppycracker wrote: »

hi all :hello:

sorry i haven't had time to read all the posts recently, but just wanted to come in and give everyone a hug......

(((((((((((((EVERYONE))))))))))))))))))))

and an extra big hug to ((((((((dawny))))))) what a nightmare you're having at the moment. Wish i could do something more positive for you.

I need some advice folks.... its three and a half months now since Alex died. Last weekend I met someone who makes me smile for the first time in a long time. Everything is fine when I'm with him, i still think of Alex but its not so painful.... the problem is when he's away, i get this horrible guilty feeling in my stomach. Do you think it's too soon to see someone else?

Thanks Big hugs right back atcha.

I'm not having a nightmare at all, just being a drama queen that's all :rolleyes: Sorry.
I wish I could give you some really good advice but unfortunately I really don't know.
I've never been in the same situation as you and I'm not too sure what to suggest - however I'm sure that it is for the best to have companionship in darker times like this x

poppycracker

feelinggood wrote: »

Hi Poppy, nice to see you

Does this new chap know about Alex? I think as long as he is aware of what you've been through, and isn't going to rush you or expect too much, then I don't think it is too soon. I also think that any new feelings you have don't take anything away from what you had with Alex. I've been through what you've been through, so I'm not sure how much used my comments are. I just think that anything that makes things a little easier for you is bound to be a good thing.

Hi feely :hello:
Yes he knows about Alex. He's friends with the pal I'm staying with at the moment so she would have told him. He's not rushing me, just smothering me with love which i so need at the moment. That's why I'm feeling guilty...

thankyou Tulip, shaz and dawny for your thoughts too
(((((((hugs to all))))))))

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! hope all is well,I enjoyed reliving Kylie last night on 4music She was great as always went straight to bed because I was so tired didnt wake until 10am today parents are coming over to see me soon

I am going to have a nice day today and not do too much.

*hugs* to those that need one

love and light,

Katie xxx