Depression Support Thread

KentishLady

OK. Some of you may know from my posts on my thread that DH was hospitalised last week. Hospital want to discharge him but I have concerns that they have not so far involved me in the discharge plans. I've made some notes on my thoughts and wondered if any of you who feel able to read the other thread could pm me with your comments?

Thanks XX

KL.

Miroslav

dawnylou wrote: »

My Fiance is my hero.
Although part of me wishes that he would leave as he can do so much better and then I can self destruct without causing any more harm or hurt to him

A few months I have been waiting now. But feels like forever.
It's my last chance really.
My GP has nothing else she can do for me, counselling was no help, I'm not ill enough for help from a CPN.
Yeah the company is fairly big.

Sorry that your placement is not going too well at the moment.
What will happen if you do walk out? Will you lose all of your income?

Having had someone leave because they thought I was too good for them, all I can say is, let him decide if he can do better. If he wants to hang around, then he wants to hang around. He obvioulsy has a higher opinion of you, than you do.

How ill do you have to be to have a CPN? I officially have one, although I never use him and I don't take any meds or anything and can live independently etc etc

You shouldn't have to wait a few months for a GP. When I had to see a work GP, it was a matter of a fortnight - company was around 2000 strong.

I won't lose any money or anything. I'm doing this out of choice. I could have said no, but I want to get better and get a paid job one day. Just fed up of being mis-led and not listened too. I may not be getting paid, but I feel I deserve to be acknowledged.

Miroslav

feelinggood wrote: »

Sometimes we've got to fight for help.

And what a fight it is.

For every good GP, there are 5 or 6 who need to learn people skills.

It's the same for everything, the majority slack and very few care.

WhiteCat_4

queensway_boy wrote: »

Hugs to all :grouphug:



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• plural noun Scottish a dish of potatoes stewed in a pot.


— origin late 19th cent.: from Scots stove ‘stew meat or vegetables’, perhaps partly from Dutch stoven.

I saw them a lot in Scotland:)

WhiteCat_4

feelinggood wrote: »

I start on a new antidepressant tomorrow. Fingers crossed!

Anxiety is bad at the moment, seem to be afraid of the outside again. Not managed to force myself outside for a week

The weather has been dire this week. It felt like October:(

WhiteCat_4

shazrobo wrote: »

hi all, how are you all today?
anni, another product that safer than laxatives, is fybogel, i get in on prescription, you mix it with water, and drink.
had a good morning, met my key worker from community link for the first time today, and it went really well, she is going to support me finding activities in the community, instead of the day centre that i currently use.
hugs all
shaz xxx

Fibogel bungs me up more

I find the OCCASIONAL spoonful of Milk of Magnesia is better than ex lax. That just makes me fart:o

WhiteCat_4

Miroslav wrote: »

And what a fight it is.

For every good GP, there are 5 or 6 who need to learn people skills.

It's the same for everything, the majority slack and very few care.

You are right there - it took me years to find a doctor who could help me with my woman's troubles:mad:

I suffered with PMS since I can remember. It was actually PMDD which is the severe version. I was so bad I got agoraphobia and felt terrified. I turned from being a cute and lovely white cat into Mr Grumpy ginger cat to my family but kept quiet around strangers.

I was put on Prozac for it and I still argued with men during my bad time. Somehow they knew I was in a bad way and they become very intrusive, which made me feel very angry! All I wanted was to be left alone and mind my own business to get thro it?

Can any man answer why men do that?

The only thing that helps is a lovely cat, they seem to know when you are down and have a magical way of relaxing you and making you feel good again.

I would prescribe them for people with depression (unless you are scared of them or allergic to them)

absolutebounder

septemberblues wrote: »

until you've been depressed you can't judge at all. (There is a certain gentleman who reads this board and posts that kind of thing).

Rant over

Comments like this come up quite frequently but I think are not really true. Are you saying your doctor cant judge the scale of your depression because he / she has never been depressed? You could say that no one can understand your depression because it is personal to you. There would be some possible validity in that argument in that no one knows exactly what another person feels. eg what you see as the colour red. Do you know that everyone else sees it exactly the same as you do. We assume we do but have no proof. An amazing amount of trust is put in our GPs to diagnose and treat all sorts of conditions that they have never experienced. However this is where training comes in and part of that training does point out the comparative nature of ther condition. You depression may be another persons bad day or vice versa just the same as the pain I suffer every day in my back might be ignored by some or be a ticket to incapacity benefit by others but I dont say people who have never had a bad back cant judge my condition.

Dawnylou I feel too fat and ugly

Quotes like this are also very common here but who is it that is saying you are too fat and ugly? Does your boyfriend say this? No of course not. If he didnt love you he wouldnt still be around. He has a brain too and if he sticks by you there is a reason for it. The only person seeing fat and ugly is you. Both fat and ugly are words that depend on the outside viewer. Size twelve may be fat to kate moss but its thin to dawn french. You are beating yourself up over nothing apart from the fact that YOU have set the goal posts and YOU have set them in the wrong place. Move them and all is much easier.

poppycracker

hi all :hello:

sorry i haven't had time to read all the posts recently, but just wanted to come in and give everyone a hug......

(((((((((((((EVERYONE))))))))))))))))))))

and an extra big hug to ((((((((dawny))))))) what a nightmare you're having at the moment. Wish i could do something more positive for you.

I need some advice folks.... its three and a half months now since Alex died. Last weekend I met someone who makes me smile for the first time in a long time. Everything is fine when I'm with him, i still think of Alex but its not so painful.... the problem is when he's away, i get this horrible guilty feeling in my stomach. Do you think it's too soon to see someone else?

feelinggood_2

poppycracker wrote: »

I need some advice folks.... its three and a half months now since Alex died. Last weekend I met someone who makes me smile for the first time in a long time. Everything is fine when I'm with him, i still think of Alex but its not so painful.... the problem is when he's away, i get this horrible guilty feeling in my stomach. Do you think it's too soon to see someone else?

Hi Poppy, nice to see you

Does this new chap know about Alex? I think as long as he is aware of what you've been through, and isn't going to rush you or expect too much, then I don't think it is too soon. I also think that any new feelings you have don't take anything away from what you had with Alex. I've been through what you've been through, so I'm not sure how much used my comments are. I just think that anything that makes things a little easier for you is bound to be a good thing.