Depression Support Thread

Miroslav

Maybe I should change my name...

Nah...people wouldn't be able to run when they see me coming :rolleyes:

Amber_Sunshine

Bit cloudy here but still warm. Sooooooooooo glad I left England ... now I know what a summer is like :rotfl:

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,I am relaxing today,just had my parents over to see me


Going to make lunch in a minute


love and light,

Katie xxx

septemberblues

Miroslav wrote: »

Maybe I should change my name...

Nah...people wouldn't be able to run when they see me coming :rolleyes:

I changed my name because I was embarrased about being depressed and suicidal - how pathetic is that? I thought people (I used to frequent Discussion Time mostly) would be judgemental and harsh, I still lurk but generally don't post in Discussion Time - there are certain posters who are so harsh and mean I wouldn't dare! But I'm glad I changed my name and came on here, people are so kind and helpful and understanding, which is so good when you are feeling down. I can't stand it when other posters say "pull yourself together" or something equally trite, until you've been depressed you can't judge at all. (There is a certain gentleman who reads this board and posts that kind of thing).

Rant over

Miroslav

septemberblues wrote: »

I changed my name because I was embarrased about being depressed and suicidal - how pathetic is that? I thought people (I used to frequent Discussion Time mostly) would be judgemental and harsh, I still lurk but generally don't post in Discussion Time - there are certain posters who are so harsh and mean I wouldn't dare! But I'm glad I changed my name and came on here, people are so kind and helpful and understanding, which is so good when you are feeling down. I can't stand it when other posters say "pull yourself together" or something equally trite, until you've been depressed you can't judge at all. (There is a certain gentleman who reads this board and posts that kind of thing).

Rant over

Not pathetic at all. Some people don't know what certain parts of life are like until they experience it first hand. I've never had anyone doubt my depression to my face, but that may be because i'm a big lad and these people have an opinion until they meet someone who's bigger than them, and then they turn into little boys and girls.

The issue with an internet board, is that alot of people have opinions they can express here, of which 99% would not make in real life. They have no fear of a bop on the nose :rotfl:

I don't go into discussion time. Too many wannabees who think they are opinionated and tough, who I don't respect until they say what they need too, to my face, which frankly most would not, and those who would, have a death wish :rotfl: I'm as gentle as they come, but have zero tolerance for those with a gob/bullies. I'd rather sort it out amicabally (sp?), but like my work situation, I sometimes struggle to find the difference between assertive and aggressive

feelinggood_2

septemberblues wrote: »

there are certain posters who are so harsh and mean I wouldn't dare!

Oh no, none of them are harsh! Its not like I had my views on rape discounted because I have 'issues'!!

septemberblues

Miroslav wrote: »

Not pathetic at all. Some people don't know what certain parts of life are like until they experience it first hand. I've never had anyone doubt my depression to my face, but that may be because i'm a big lad and these people have an opinion until they meet someone who's bigger than them, and then they turn into little boys and girls.

The issue with an internet board, is that alot of people have opinions they can express here, of which 99% would not make in real life. They have no fear of a bop on the nose :rotfl:

I don't go into discussion time. Too many wannabees who think they are opinionated and tough, who I don't respect until they say what they need too, to my face, which frankly most would not, and those who would, have a death wish :rotfl: I'm as gentle as they come, but have zero tolerance for those with a gob/bullies. I'd rather sort it out amicabally (sp?), but like my work situation, I sometimes struggle to find the difference between assertive and aggressive

I'm the same with assertiveness, with me everything is either black or white, no middle ground! Some people tend to walk all over me, I let them, but inside I am seething. I don't say anything, but tend to disappear from their lives, and end up with people wondering what they did wrong. It would be better all round if
1)I didn't let people walk all over me
2)If they did walk all over me I would tell them to stop!
3) And explain my reasons........................

But back in the real world I'm a bit of a doormat - who is secretly seething inside - and then I end up depressed. Doh!

It's probably best that I'm a small woman, if I was a big lad I'm sure I would punch some people :eek: :eek:

septemberblues

feelinggood wrote: »

Oh no, none of them are harsh! Its not like I had my views on rape discounted because I have 'issues'!!

And hence why some people have resorted to being an AE, the benefits board and discussion times are certainly not for the faint hearted!:p

LadyMorticia

Thanks you lovelies. I think I have learnt my lesson and will never venture into laxative use again - no matter how innocent my motives.

Miroslav - I swear we've met but I have a brain like a sieve at the moment so just incase we haven't, I shall say hello.

xx

Miroslav

septemberblues wrote: »

I'm the same with assertiveness, with me everything is either black or white, no middle ground! Some people tend to walk all over me, I let them, but inside I am seething. I don't say anything, but tend to disappear from their lives, and end up with people wondering what they did wrong. It would be better all round if
1)I didn't let people walk all over me
2)If they did walk all over me I would tell them to stop!
3) And explain my reasons........................

But back in the real world I'm a bit of a doormat - who is secretly seething inside - and then I end up depressed. Doh!

It's probably best that I'm a small woman, if I was a big lad I'm sure I would punch some people :eek: :eek:

I tend to let people in 'positions' walk all over me, because i'm worried if I get assertive/aggressive, they'll make life harder for me in other ways.

It's not easy to get the balance right, because people have different boundaries etc.

Best thing to do, if you have something to do, post it here, get the support and backing, and do your best when you do the thing you need to do and report back. The majority of us understand how hard things are.

I've not had to resort to punching anyone yet. Usually walking up to someone and telling them to behave is enough, or as more often is the case, those messing around see me and say in a higher pitched voice than normal 'alright mate' with a worried expression. I guess being tall, wide and mean looking has it's advantages, even though underneath i'm soft and love animals :rotfl:

Just keep at it and hope you meet people who understand you