Help!

shortbread

tigtag02

Does he have a court order that grants him visiting rights or is is just a mutal agreement?

Does he have parental rights for his daughter?

emma12345

At age 9 the child will probably have a say in visits to her father, I know it's hard but he should try not to worry too much. If his daughter wants to see him it is likely her voice will be heard in the courts, it sounds like he needs to get is offical though if the mum won't listen.

The money is a separate issue not related to contact and he should continue paying maintenance for his daughter, it is the child's right.

tigtag02

If she was born in '99 and they werent married he will only have parental rights if he has signed for them which form the background you give is unlikely.

He needs to see a solicitor asap.

I would continue to pay maintainence, how much are they asking in *lost wages*?

shortbread

Yes, I have told him to get to a solicitor............however her threats of going to one if he does not pay the lost wages etc..............can anything come of that???

I think it is about 100 pounds!

Loretta

I would do nothing, mother is in a tizz about all this and will probably calm down. I would however keep all the texts just in case and keep a diary of all contact with mother

Why didn't your brother take his daughter to the denstist and have time off to do it?

Does your brother pay the amount of maintenence in line with CSA

I would wait until the next visit is due and do whatever he normally does, does he collect her? If when he turns up or whatever happens and the visit is refused that would be the point when he needs to think about legal advice.

I would have thought that if he has had regular contact all her life and this child is 9 years old no court would stop access and woulod listen to what the daughter wants

I would not rush to a solicitor as that will excalate the problem, mother is used to having her weekends free and will probably think about this more clearly soon

maryjanethespider

Why didn't your brother take his daughter to the dentist or emergency dentist rather than sending her home with a chipped tooth for the mother to deal with?

chattycathy1674

Hiya...

I bet his daughter will have something to say about not being allowed to see her dad!
Like someone said above...it's possible mum will calm down.

What would she have done if the accident had happened at school? Or when her daughter was with her/her husband???

Sounds like a knee jolt reaction because of her anger.

Accidents are just that..accidents! Any time, any place, any where!

Hope he gets that back to normal soon x

shortbread

He rung her to tell her and she said she would deal with it................he did not just send her home !! He wanted to take her to emergency dentist and his ex said she would take her on the Monday, which she did, now she is asking for cash for the wages lost for the second time she was taken to dentist!

arthur_dent_2

Your brother needs to get some sort of proof that he has been paying maintenance all this time, otherwise if she denys that she has had it, he hasn't got a chance. If a solicitor becomes involved, it will all end in tears and the mother will have your brother by the proverbial. As for the lost wages, she could have taken her herself, so as far as I am concerned you owe him nothing. He chose to take your daughter as a facour to the daughters mum, you did not ask him to. To be fair though he probably should have taken her himself.

maryjanethespider

Im sure your brother is not the weak, innocent and doe eyed man you describe and neither do i believe she is the fire breathing witch from hell.

From what i can read it sounds like she's angry at him not taking much notice of the girl, she chipps her tooth, dad messes around umming and ahhing phones mum who gets peeved by him fuddy duddying around rather than using his common sense and taking her straight to the dentist or emergency dentist...