Can i Afford to Work

Mips

Sad thing is - nobody just answered her question. Who cares how many holidays she's had this year? How do we know her Mum didn't pay for them?

Who cares whether her husband is illegal? It wasn't what she was asking.

Again, everyone picked on her and people joined in.

Her post may be 'very low level' - but she was reduced that to the spiteful/bored replies she got.

bestpud

Dippychick wrote: »

Sad thing is - nobody just answered her question. Who cares how many holidays she's had this year? How do we know her Mum didn't pay for them?

Who cares whether her husband is illegal? It wasn't what she was asking.

Again, everyone picked on her and people joined in.

Her post may be 'very low level' - but she was reduced that to the spiteful/bored replies she got.

Erm, there is not much point us, or any other good natured poster wasting time giving all sorts of information about benefits her OH can't claim and jobs her OH can't do.

However, feel free to answer her questions if you have the time to waste. Better that than merely coming here to moan at others who have tried to help her, but have quickly realised how futile it all is imo?

Do watch out for the mars bar if you upset her though!! :eek:

i_wish_3

bestpud wrote: »

Erm, there is not much point us, or any other good natured poster wasting time giving all sorts of information about benefits her OH can't claim and jobs her OH can't do.

However, feel free to answer her questions if you have the time to waste. Better that than merely coming here to moan at others who have tried to help her, but have quickly realised how futile it all is imo?

Do watch out for the mars bar if you upset her though!! :eek:

lol thats funny keep slagging me of...if thats wot your gud at .go on say wot u want . if you was in a position like me then you would no wot im going through i dont even want to live wiv my husband its becoz of family pressure im with him i dont want him ok people have different backgrounds and cultures

bestpud

i_wish wrote: »

lol thats funny keep slagging me of...if thats wot your gud at .go on say wot u want . if you was in a position like me then you would no wot im going through i dont even want to live wiv my husband its becoz of family pressure im with him i dont want him ok people have different backgrounds and cultures

May I suggest you start a new thread and put all the relevent information into it, and also, ask specific questions?

The trouble with having several threads all giving different (and conflicting) information is people get confused, and then suspicious when they look back through old threads.

Plus, you cannot possibly receive accurate information if you don't state your position clearly and and fully (relevent stuff only though, obviously).

angellotz

bestpud wrote: »

May I suggest you start a new thread and put all the relevent information into it, and also, ask specific questions?

The trouble with having several threads all giving different (and conflicting) information is people get confused, and then suspicious when they look back through old threads.

Plus, you cannot possibly receive accurate information if you don't state your position clearly and and fully (relevent stuff only though, obviously).

exactly!!!

i wish, if you start a new thread with your age, partners age, childs age, any disabilities, anything else that prevents you and your OH from working, the area you live in, anybody else living in your house etc, then people can advise you based on the information you've given.

the problem is that none of your posts match up, so people reading your posts can only assume that something funny is going on or you're trying to cheat the system. if you're truthful, the advice given will be much more accurate. and if it isn't what you want to hear, then don't shoot the messenger!!

lifesuckssometimes

Dippychick wrote: »

Sad thing is - nobody just answered her question. Who cares how many holidays she's had this year? How do we know her Mum didn't pay for them?

Who cares whether her husband is illegal? It wasn't what she was asking.

Again, everyone picked on her and people joined in.

Her post may be 'very low level' - but she was reduced that to the spiteful/bored replies she got.

well done beat me to it.
i have to say what a bunch of nasty little up your own [EMAIL="a@se"]a@se[/EMAIL] trolls you lot are. it was a simple question if you didn't like the level of writing English or the fact they may be foreign or making it up..does not give you the right to gang up and bully someone what next chase a black man with a rope and hang him from a tree because he said in-it

Mips

bestpud wrote: »

Erm, there is not much point us, or any other good natured poster wasting time giving all sorts of information about benefits her OH can't claim and jobs her OH can't do.

However, feel free to answer her questions if you have the time to waste. Better that than merely coming here to moan at others who have tried to help her, but have quickly realised how futile it all is imo?

Do watch out for the mars bar if you upset her though!! :eek:

I can't help her so couldn't reply.

It sounds like a very tragic situation to be in with a young baby and an illegal immigrant husband.

Can you imagine how frightening that could be to a young Mum? What if your Babies Daddy was deported?

The OP doesn't come across as very old. What if it were your Daughter in this situation?

I am starting to wonder whether people have split personalities because some people are nice one minute then positively vicious the next, all the while believing that they are holier than thou.

bestpud

Dippychick wrote: »

I can't help her so couldn't reply.

It sounds like a very tragic situation to be in with a young baby and an illegal immigrant husband.

Can you imagine how frightening that could be to a young Mum? What if your Babies Daddy was deported?

The OP doesn't come across as very old. What if it were your Daughter in this situation?

I am starting to wonder whether people have split personalities because some people are nice one minute then positively vicious the next, all the while believing that they are holier than thou.

I am definitely not holier than thou, and have never suggested I am!

But anyway, back to the point! I'm getting the feeling you have not read through all the posts properly? Here's a bit of a run down but it would be much better if you looked yourself tbh.

The only reason he may be deported is because he has not renewed his visa! Now the OP knows this but says she couldn't because she was on holiday twice, for two months each, and then later she said she actually wanted him deported. In which case one can only assume the amnsesia was deliberate? Not quite the situation you describe.

There has been no reply to the question of who 'kept' the OP's partner and 19 year old sister (neither have an income) for four months, while she and baby were away.

But essentially, the OP is asking about working and benefits when the priority (as I and others have said) must be to sort the visa out! Does that seem sensible to you?

Once he is here legally and she will no longer have the worry of her 'pain in the butt' partner being deported, then people cound give her accurate advice.

Until then, she is wasting her time and ours (although I strongly suspect that is the point!)

You say you cannot help? How about you try and get the OP to give proper information if she wants proper advice? Answering the question is not the only way you could show your concern in a constructive manner.

pipkin71

dmg24 wrote: »

Latest news from MSE:

The Benefits Board is to be renamed Home for Wayward Trolls

Everybody is welcome, best story wins a Mars bar.

:rolleyes:

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i_wish_3

bestpud wrote: »

I am definitely not holier than thou, and have never suggested I am!

But anyway, back to the point! I'm getting the feeling you have not read through all the posts properly? Here's a bit of a run down but it would be much better if you looked yourself tbh.

The only reason he may be deported is because he has not renewed his visa! Now the OP knows this but says she couldn't because she was on holiday twice, for two months each, and then later she said she actually wanted him deported. In which case one can only assume the amnsesia was deliberate? Not quite the situation you describe.

There has been no reply to the question of who 'kept' the OP's partner and 19 year old sister (neither have an income) for four months, while she and baby were away.

But essentially, the OP is asking about working and benefits when the priority (as I and others have said) must be to sort the visa out! Does that seem sensible to you?

Once he is here legally and she will no longer have the worry of her 'pain in the butt' partner being deported, then people cound give her accurate advice.

Until then, she is wasting her time and ours (although I strongly suspect that is the point!)

You say you cannot help? How about you try and get the OP to give proper information if she wants proper advice? Answering the question is not the only way you could show your concern in a constructive manner.

ok mr i think i know it all......

My age -21
Partners age - 25
daughter - 17 months
sister living with us -19 (just been a 5 weeks)

Me - british
Him- pakistanni
daughter-british
sister-british

live london u.k
and about my holiday my parents payed for it my sister and my baby went only my husband was staying at my bros ok
so dont go round makeing stories up thinking 'oh how did they survive'