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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 26th Mar 11, 7:07 AM
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    The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10
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    • 26th Mar 11, 7:07 AM
    The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10 26th Mar 11 at 7:07 AM
    Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts, new challenges, NEW POSTERS PLEASE (not that there's anything wrong with the old ones, so please stick around ).

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!

    PS have amended this slightly as I have decided that I will try for the moderation way! That means for me not drinking over the recc limits (bottle & a half of wine for me!) but I know at times this will be a struggle plus I'm aware that others want to do the same."

    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2 (can't remember, but a long time ago), a post which means a lot to us on here....from Springwatch Girl. Don't know where SWG is as she hasn't posted since back then, but I am hoping that the sun is still shining in her life

    "Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"

    Let us, once again, begin......
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 26th Mar 11, 7:19 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 7:19 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 7:19 AM
    Morning

    A bright, new, shiny thread and I can report a Friday AFD making 19 AFDs.



    Have a Happy Saturday

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 27-03-2011 at 8:38 AM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 26th Mar 11, 7:20 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 7:20 AM
    Miss P - Well done on the weight loss I have eaten too many biscuits this week...
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 26th Mar 11, 7:29 AM
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    March :-

    = 7 days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = target achieved

    Apple 4/TF
    Bearacus
    7/14

    Beckseven 13/17
    Chloris 18/23

    Cleggie /31

    Daisy /15

    Darwin's Mum 5/TF
    Far2812 8/31
    Fed Up 21/TF
    Forever Hopeful 8/14

    Gien 6/21
    Happyshopper 13/20

    JanJan 4/14
    Laurent 7/20
    Lottie 11/10
    Mackeroo 20/25

    Maggie 3/6
    Maman 11/10
    Miss P 16/TF
    Phoenix D 15/15
    Poohbear 11/24
    Rachelww 12/14

    Roougers 1/13

    Scotdebs 4/12
    Shaggy 19/17
    SOS 18/25

    Toomany 6/10
    Trasij 24/31

    Wanna Bee Free 1/16


    PLEASE PUT YOUR TARGET AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • mackeroo
    • By mackeroo 26th Mar 11, 7:53 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 7:53 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 7:53 AM
    Morning everyone
    Just a flying post as im getting ready to head to Zumba
    21 AF days please Shaggy
    really enjoyed the film True Grit last nite and enjoyed even more waking up this morning with no fuzzy head. Have a good weekend
  • maggiesoop
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    • 26th Mar 11, 8:56 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 8:56 AM
    Morning everyone too. I haven't had an AF free day since Wednesday but I've not been daft, even the typical Friday night produced a sensible lassie, two glasses of wine with OH and drinking tea watching an old DVD by 9.30pm. This no-getting-trolleyed-every-night situation means that I have re-awoken my desire to read and it's wonderful. A friend dropped in a book she got for World Book Night and I'm LOVING it (Fingersmith, Sarah Walters). It's 8.40am on a Saturday morning, OH away to play golf, I have no hangover, no halitosis and I'm reading a flippin book in bed, hallelujah! I can't thank you guys enough, this site has been the best thing that's happened to me in a long time. Off to see The Fighter tonight, have a great weekend all.
    • mollypolly
    • By mollypolly 26th Mar 11, 9:54 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 9:54 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 9:54 AM
    WOW......Part 10 and three years....where did that time go.

    My life would be so different now if I hadnt found you all.
    I now lead quite a peaceful life....(although busy)....and have a beautiful little grandson who I am allowed to babysit anytime as his mummy knows Nanny will always be sober.

    I am nearly three years sober now and I still read/lurk nearly every day.

    Its great to see new faces and old ones popping in every now and then.
    Good luck to all of you on your journeys whichever path you are taking....giving up/cutting down.

    Remember.......

    Take care of YOU
    Love Mollypollyxxxx

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    • Chloris
    • By Chloris 26th Mar 11, 10:02 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 10:02 AM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 10:02 AM
    19 AFD here!

    Great to hear positive stories!
    • mackeroo
    • By mackeroo 26th Mar 11, 6:45 PM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 6:45 PM
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    • 26th Mar 11, 6:45 PM
    Morning everyone too. I haven't had an AF free day since Wednesday but I've not been daft, even the typical Friday night produced a sensible lassie, two glasses of wine with OH and drinking tea watching an old DVD by 9.30pm. This no-getting-trolleyed-every-night situation means that I have re-awoken my desire to read and it's wonderful. A friend dropped in a book she got for World Book Night and I'm LOVING it (Fingersmith, Sarah Walters). It's 8.40am on a Saturday morning, OH away to play golf, I have no hangover, no halitosis and I'm reading a flippin book in bed, hallelujah! I can't thank you guys enough, this site has been the best thing that's happened to me in a long time. Off to see The Fighter tonight, have a great weekend all.
    Originally posted by maggiesoop

    Hey maggiesoup i can relate to this....one of the things i loved about majorly cutting down on the booze meant that i could read books in the eve as opposed to drunkenly trying to read a mag. Since the start of Jan ive read 3 books. Enjoy
    • mackeroo
    • By mackeroo 26th Mar 11, 6:52 PM
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    a wee shout out to DaisyC..aint seen you around lately hope you doing ok hon x
  • mrsrainman
    Evening All

    Just wanted to say again a BIG THANK YOU for making me feel welcome

    And the fact that you have all agreed with me (cos sometimes I think that maybe i'm just being a nag) has helped me loads already.

    I think i've resigned myself to the fact that he won't just stop. And even when Little Bean arrives he probably won't be much better. I'm just going to have to learn to remove myself from the situation when he "starts"
    The sad thing is I can see him missing the birth of his first child, which would be really sad.

    But hopefully things will improve, and I know I can come on here for support

    Well done to all those who are seeing positive results from all their AFDs, especially to the weight loss!!!!!! I'm beginning to resemble a beached whale

    Mrs R
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    • fedupandskint
    • By fedupandskint 26th Mar 11, 7:11 PM
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    Thanks Shaggy for starting the new thread. Wow part 10 - where did that time go? Lots of faces missing atm and I hope life is treating you all well.

    2yrs ago I found this and in 1 year I went from always drinking at the weekend either 2 or 3 nights to now maybe once or twice a month and my consumption is at a much lower level of just a glass or 2 instead of most of a bottle.

    I'm on 25AFDs for march and looks like I will end the month on 29 as I'm not planning to have a drink this week and I'm having an AF weekend too.

    Weekends were always the biggest trigger for me. The switch flicked when I realised that weekend nights were no different to week nights and I rarely drank on those nights so why couldn't I manage an AF weekend. Now this is hardly an issue at all for me as its more common for me to not drink at the weekend than drink. My skin was commented on this week as being lovely and I attribute this to my change in drinking habits alongside moisturising - c'mon, what a result!

    Happy weekend everyone and enjoy
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  • xjki
    If you count what you drink
    There's a new must-have app for anyone interested into cutting down the booze and following where the money (spent on drinks) goes. (I took part in it's beta program and after using it for 2 months i see the difference- i spend less and drink less, hope it goes that way in the future as well). App name is DrinkControl. You can get it on App Store. Unfortunately on iPhone/iPod Touch only.
    • maman
    • By maman 26th Mar 11, 11:53 PM
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    Thanks for new thread Shaggy.

    I've not had any more AF days but I've been very good. Just one glass last night and a couple tonight. That compares with the two bottles I have most weekends.

    I'm determined to get a couple more days in this month, probably Monday and Wednesday.
    • elantan
    • By elantan 27th Mar 11, 12:29 AM
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    happy new thread all
    march 2011-july2019 8 years and 4 months ... or 100 months and counting
    "what would you do if you knew you couldn't fail.... enjoy the adventure" " to my own self be true"
    • Chloris
    • By Chloris 27th Mar 11, 7:52 AM
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    20 AFD here. I actually managed a weekend. I am up early and knitting.

    Thanks for the thread Shaggy, it is a great help and motivator.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 27th Mar 11, 8:36 AM
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    Morning

    I decided to have a drink last night. I had done 2 weeks AF. Just had 2 glasses of wine (4 units / 250 calories).



    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 27th Mar 11, 8:37 AM
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    March :-

    = 7 days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = target achieved

    Apple 4/TF
    Bearacus
    7/14

    Beckseven 13/17
    Chloris 20/23

    Cleggie /31

    Daisy /15

    Darwin's Mum 5/TF
    Far2812 8/31
    Fed Up 25/TF
    Forever Hopeful 8/14

    Gien 6/21
    Happyshopper 13/20

    JanJan 4/14
    Laurent 7/20
    Lottie 11/10
    Mackeroo 21/25

    Maggie 3/6
    Maman 11/10
    Miss P 16/TF
    Phoenix D 15/15
    Poohbear 11/24
    Rachelww 12/14

    Roougers 1/13

    Scotdebs 4/12
    Shaggy 19/17
    SOS 18/25

    Toomany 6/10
    Trasij 24/31

    Wanna Bee Free 1/16


    PLEASE PUT YOUR TARGET AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • bearacus
    • By bearacus 27th Mar 11, 12:31 PM
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    Another AF for me last night please Shaggy

    bearacus x

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    • maman
    • By maman 27th Mar 11, 2:01 PM
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    20 AFD here. I actually managed a weekend. I am up early and knitting.

    Thanks for the thread Shaggy, it is a great help and motivator.
    Originally posted by Chloris
    Wow that was early Chloris, considering the clocks changing too What've you been knitting? I find it good for keeping hands busy of an evening (and I know MissP does too).
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