Money Moral Dilemma: Should my friends have paid for my hen do?
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I got married recently and was expecting my friends to chip in for my share of the hen do (as that's been the custom at ones I've been to in the past). They didn't though, and I feel very disappointed. I'm not planning to pay for their share now when they get married. Am I being unreasonable?
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Yes you're being unreasonable! Where do people get this entitlement from, that others should pay for them?! It's YOUR hen night for YOUR wedding, why should you not pay for yourself? I can only assume it's a hen weekend (as they've gotten out of control recently) and so people are probably already out quite a bit of money (not including the wedding as well).
People need to taken a good look at how they're coming across. It's a night out at the end of the day, it's not the most important bit so why should others pay?0 -
My daughter married last year. I paid for her 'cost' for her hen do - which was a meal out and a theatre trip. Everyone else paid for their own. I personally don't think that the bride should pay that it should be covered as a treat by others attending (cost cod be split across the group). Problem you've got is when it gets out of hand with trips abroad/weekends away etc...
Just to add we paid for the wedding too0 -
this is something you should have all discussed and sorted out before the event. Then you'd all know where you stood and no-one would be "very disappointed".0
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I'd never considered that the bride's share was paid for, but when I married 18+ years ago, the hen party was drinks and a meal, my husband's stag was just the drinks! We both paid our own way.0
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Yes.
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If one or other "friend" had said they would all pay in the beginning, then fine, its a treat! Its not an entitlement!0
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Bride sounds tighter than a ducks ar5e
It's not an entitlement love!0 -
There's a song in the musical Barnum that is called thank gawd I'm old.
When I see first world problems like this I sing it.0 -
I agree with "balletshoes". You should have discussed it first.
Refusing to contribute to friends partys is petty and spiteful. Costs for stag and hen do's are getting out of hand anyway.0
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