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Money Moral Dilemma: Should we buy gifts for my mate's kids?
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I'm going for a boozy get-together with a group of old school friends. We're meeting in a town where one of us lives but the rest of us are staying in a hotel as he has young children. One of the party suggested we buy a 'visiting present' for his kids, but I don't see why we should since we aren't even going to the house, plus I think it'll set a precedent that won't benefit those of us without children.
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I can't believe anyone would ever suggest that. Buying them presents would be really weird in my opinion! I'm sure that your friend who has children would never expect it and might even find it a bit awkward.0
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This isn't a dilemma. If you had been invited to the family home for the kid's birthday (and why would you go to that unless you had kids of your own to bring?) then sure, buy a present.
However, you are all spending money to meet up at a location which is more convenient to your mate who has kids so he is quids in compared to the rest of you who have travel and hotel costs, so why on earth should you treat his kids who won't even be at your boozy night out (I hope!)0 -
Another ridiculous made up mse thread.
Perhaps if mse really want to generate discussion they should tell us why they invent stupid far-fetched scenarios and we can discuss the wisdom of that.0 -
"plus I think it'll set a precedent that won't benefit those of us without children"
So only give gifts if there will be a future benefit to you or your family!
That sets the tone for the Christmas spirit.
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These things are getting desperate. Are they even written by real people, who get to experience society once in a while?
NO, you don't have to pitch in to get your friend's kids a present. I'll go as far as to venture that whoever suggested it, doesn't have very much of a social life themselves, and is perhaps overcompensating in the giving department.0 -
Just say no. Where's the dilemma?0
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No gift necessary but the poster needs a rethink about the idea of only giving when you'll get the same back as that certainly isn't the reason why it isn't necessary.0
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No. No. And thrice no!0
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Nothing for the kids.
Nothing.
Whoever suggested it's just plain weird.0 -
Of course not. End of.0
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