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  • happysinglemum
    happysinglemum Posts: 2,368 Forumite
    Michaela wrote: »
    ok, heres my problem!

    Say for example I thought I maybe depressed, and decided to visit the doctors, it would be on my record what was discussed??

    Say I was to split up with OH and he wanted custody, and he knew about my visits to the doctors, would it be bought up about what I discussed with the doctor maybe about me being a bit unstable and doing things that are not the norm?

    So it would go against me, possibly not having full custody of my kids?

    Sorry to be so vague. Was going to put a false name but thought you might think I am a troll.

    Sorry for the delay in replying michaela. Not been in for a while. I went to my GP with depression after I split up with ex hubby. I was told it's 'reactive depression' as a result of splitting up. Still suffering 5 years later... (on & off). Ex hubby is pretty reasonable, so custody was never an issue (neither was access) - and we get on great now.

    Not sure really how it would be viewed, but I'd imagine that as long as your children are loved & looked after, it wouldn't be an issue. And I'm pretty sure it'd be confidential, unless it was affecting how your kids are cared for.

    Not sure how much help this actually was, but hope it helped a bit at least.

    xx
    Housework won't kill you, but why take the chance
    The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning
  • happysinglemum
    happysinglemum Posts: 2,368 Forumite
    Little_Pickle wrote: »
    hey all... was breifly on the other thread, but been away for a few days. What happened? Why'd it close?

    Anyway... still haven't made an appointment to see the doctor yet.
    I'm really scared.
    I've been having the following things happen and wonder if I should tell the doctor:

    crying for no reason
    not being able to stop laughing... until I cry (not in a good way)
    tired
    snappy
    agressive (thrown things a lot)
    self harm (in the past but not for a little while)
    argumentative
    seeing the bad in EVERYONE (not like me)
    jealous
    possessive
    don't want to go anywhere / no enthusiasm.

    I just worry that I'll go to the doctor and either just cry or reel all of this off, showing no emotion.

    ali
    x

    I go from being really over-emotional to being totally emotionally 'disconnected'. If you explain to your GP how you're feeling, they should understand. Maybe printing off your post and giving it to your GP would be helpful?

    xx
    Housework won't kill you, but why take the chance
    The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning
  • happysinglemum
    happysinglemum Posts: 2,368 Forumite
    dmg24 wrote: »
    Not been around for a while, long story but things getting back on track slowly.

    While you are here RBK, just wanted to send my love and I really hope things are going well.

    Lots of love to everyone x

    Hi again dmg, not been here for a while myself. How are things going with uni?

    xx
    Housework won't kill you, but why take the chance
    The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning
  • happysinglemum
    happysinglemum Posts: 2,368 Forumite
    QWB - Sorry I haven't been in touch for a bit. Getting well stressed by essays due in Fri.

    Hope all's good with you?

    xx
    Housework won't kill you, but why take the chance
    The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning
  • queensway_boy
    queensway_boy Posts: 5,990 Forumite
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    happysinglemum



    good luck with your essays on friday:T
  • Tulip
    Tulip Posts: 29,324 Forumite
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    :hello: Everyone,

    Morning! hope you are all ok :) I am fine today :) I am off out to my local church to help out all morning then in the afternoon I am off to have a cream tea (yum).

    I hope you all have a lovely day :)


    love and light,

    Katie xxx
  • santashelper_2
    santashelper_2 Posts: 1,446 Forumite
    razorbladekisses wrote: »
    santashelper, You mentioned SAD in your post. However, if you are experiencing those kinds of symptoms on a daily basis could it be depression you are suffering from? Have you been to see your Doctor about how you have been feeling or received any kind of talking therapy to help you deal with emotions and assertiveness?

    i do have depression and have been seeing my dr for the last 4 years i was on citropan antidepression tablets for a while but they made me put on a stone in weight and felt like a zombie so i became more depressed about that my doctor advised some counselling would be a better way to deal with things which i had 2 years ago i had a brief period where i felt a bit better and more confident so i decided to take control of my life only to be taken advantage of by someone who i cared a lot about this person knew how unwell i had been and told me they were there for me and then basically treated me like crap so now i feel depressed again everytime i try to move forward i get huge set backs again its like a tug of war that i just dont seemto be overcoming anyway i have been back to my dr and am now going on an assertiveness course and have been told im a brilliant mum and maybe when i feel up to it can help other familys with young children. basically my breakdown stated due to parental rejection, boyfriend rejection, health problems for myself and my daughter, a car accident, and trying to overcome these problems i threw myself into my job only to be taken advantage of in that and i basically lost my faith in human kind.
    The average woman would rather have beauty than brains,
    because the average man can see better than he can think.

    Many people's view of the world is down to their experience, perception and what they have been conditioned to,this isnt any old MSE reply this is a important and experienced MSE reply :rotfl:
  • santashelper_2
    santashelper_2 Posts: 1,446 Forumite
    terrierlady wrote: »
    Today for the first time a good friend admitted he had understood depression, whilst dealing with my sister who suffers he always told her just to snap out of it, his is causes by pain after a bout of shingles and i just wonder if this is normal, do people have to suffer themselves before its accepted as a true illness?


    i often wonder this my husband has seen me suffer with depression over the last 4 years and he goes off to work every day as if theres nothing wrong when i talk to him about it he seems to have no idea as if he thinks its something i want, and i feel like he resents me now because i cant work full time like i used to but part of the problem was i was trying to do to much and was working full time bringing up to children dealing with most of the childcare issues so i could support my husband in his career now his career has taken off i feel like i dont even exist in his life anymore, ive tried talking to him about depression but all he says is i have to be your rock (by this he means financial provider) my daughter now suffers with depression and his reaction was shes only 15 what has she got to be depressed about, if only he would take the time to find out what depression is but it feels like he just doesnt want to know and now i am trying to support my daughter through this as well as cope myself with no family support.
    The average woman would rather have beauty than brains,
    because the average man can see better than he can think.

    Many people's view of the world is down to their experience, perception and what they have been conditioned to,this isnt any old MSE reply this is a important and experienced MSE reply :rotfl:
  • queensway_boy
    queensway_boy Posts: 5,990 Forumite
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    santashelper wrote: »
    i often wonder this my husband has seen me suffer with depression over the last 4 years and he goes off to work every day as if theres nothing wrong when i talk to him about it he seems to have no idea as if he thinks its something i want, and i feel like he resents me now because i cant work full time like i used to but part of the problem was i was trying to do to much and was working full time bringing up to children dealing with most of the childcare issues so i could support my husband in his career now his career has taken off i feel like i dont even exist in his life anymore, ive tried talking to him about depression but all he says is i have to be your rock (by this he means financial provider) my daughter now suffers with depression and his reaction was shes only 15 what has she got to be depressed about, if only he would take the time to find out what depression is but it feels like he just doesnt want to know and now i am trying to support my daughter through this as well as cope myself with no family support.


    Maybe your hubby can go to the doctors with you so he can learn more about depression,maybe explain to the doctor that hubby is finding it difficult to understand your illness and he/she might put him straight on a few things.A lot of people find it hard to understand depression,its even harder when its your wife or hubby.Here a hug th_fuzzyhug.gif

    p.s.: i'm on citalopram also(i think you meant them)been on them years,was on 60 mg daily at one time but now i'm on 40mg,doc reckons i'll be on them for life, tbh i don't want to come off them
  • daisy_doughnut_2
    daisy_doughnut_2 Posts: 354 Forumite
    razorbladekisses wrote: »
    daisy doughnut 2,(((HUGS))) Are you currently on any medication at the moment? I would agree that talking to your Doctor would be the first step to getting some kind of help/support.
    (((HUGS)))


    hiya ive been on meds for 7 yrs and ive had 4 yrs of CBT
    the cbt help at the time but its like when it ends i feel like im going mad again
    as for the meds i dont know if they work or not any more

    whats it like to be normal in societies eyes?????

    got an appointment with the doc again have a feeling he will just send me back to a counceller which is never a bad thing but i just so desperatly want to cope day to day now

    my depression started when i was 14 i had my break down at 24 an thats when they plied me with tablets an it took another 3 yrs for them to send me to see someone

    sometimes i think if i had a label as in i am xyz n thats why i am like i am then they could give me the magic pill to make xyz easier but in having a label would it help? do i need one? or have i got to try and accept more that i am who i am an this is my life an i have to strive for my DD and OH an make the best of it as i can? how long will this last though another 15 yrs? or till my days end? can i cope with that? can my family cope with that?

    has any body tried being hypnotised????

    im sorry as i seem to be self analysing my self but it helps to see it wrote down
    or am i just on a really bad few days an im feeling sorry for myself??

    oh i dont know:confused:

    why is grass green?

    daisy
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