Learn to control money but do not allow it to control you

Firewalker · 31 December 2010 at 2:09PM

I thought this piece by Paolo Coehlo is very appropriate for today and many among us may find useful. Enjoy - though it is not a lightly optimistic one the pathos of it is great.

Firewalker
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One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.
Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.
You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.
Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.
Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.
That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.
Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.
Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.
Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”
Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.
Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

MatyMoo · 31 December 2010 at 3:11PM

Firewalker wrote: »

A quick note and will write later. In fact you might all be right and it might because of my dad'd passing. I actually suspect that it has still not hit me properly but I am grieving subconsiously. It all come out as a concern about the future again. Which is a bit silly.

Mac, I am not prone to depression - thank God. Hope it will stay this way.

Now back to cooking - if anyone know what to do with a leg of pork so it is not simply delicious but amazingly scrumptious let me know, please.

Firewalker

I am not prone to depression either Firewalker, but after my Mother died my sleeping pattern was very disrupted for some time afterwards. I was never sure exactly what had woken me but found some quiet time downstairs with a cup of tea enabled me to at least get some rest. Sometimes I was even able to go back to bed.

You can't beat roast pork with baked apples in my opinion

Triker · 31 December 2010 at 3:20PM

Firewalker wrote: »

A quick note and will write later. In fact you might all be right and it might because of my dad'd passing. I actually suspect that it has still not hit me properly but I am grieving subconsiously. It all come out as a concern about the future again. Which is a bit silly.

Mac, I am not prone to depression - thank God. Hope it will stay this way.

Now back to cooking - if anyone know what to do with a leg of pork so it is not simply delicious but amazingly scrumptious let me know, please.

Firewalker

I use an adaptation of this nigella recipe....http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/nigella-lawson/slow-roasted-aromatic-shoulder-of-pork-recipe/index.html

gilligansyle · 31 December 2010 at 7:23PM

With every best wish for New Year FW, whatever you are doing.

Firewalker · 31 December 2010 at 7:50PM

Dear friends,

New Year is very important to me - much more so than Christmas, in fact. Thank you for the wishes. And I wish you all a very happy, merry, adventurous and prosperous 2011. Yes, we will have to continue to work hard but we are all so capable, determined and inventive that I don't doubt that we will all meet the Universe half way to achieve whatever we most desire.

Here is to a 2011 that will be lived and not simly survived.

Firewalker

Double_Trouble · 1 January 2011 at 1:02AM

MatyMoo · 1 January 2011 at 1:29AM

:jHappy New Year one and all.:j

:TMay 2011 bring you everything you wish for and more:T

Firewalker · 1 January 2011 at 1:40AM

Happy New Year! 2011 is here and this is it!

FW

Lara44 · 1 January 2011 at 12:44PM

Happy new year Firewalker!! Also :beer: cheers to a year that will be lived to the full and enjoyed rather than simply survived. I intend to give it my best shot.

This year will be exciting. First an upgrade panel in March requires some good writing I haven't yet written, so that's a challenge but also a milestone. In April I return again to Kampala, but this time I am excited and not scared. Finally I will be married in August, something I'm really looking forward to.

My other resolution is to make every day matter in some small way, and to make every day good in some small way. So to do something enjoyable and worthwhile (just tiny things) every day, and to be glad about those. I hope 2011 will be wonderful for everyone here.

Firewalker · 1 January 2011 at 10:52PM

Just watched SOS DIY about Mikes house on iPlayer. What a story! And what example that cooperation is very powerful.

Now off to bed - the first night of 2011 was spent mostly on sofa in my study because I could not sleep and did not want to disturb OH. Need sleeeeeep....

Firewalker

Learn to control money but do not allow it to control you

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