Learn to control money but do not allow it to control you

NorthernLas

FW - I've sent you a PM. When you get a chance, I'd appreciate your feedback

Firewalker

Good morning,

I did not post last night. Had to write till about 22.30 and than was so wiped out that went straight to bed. But the only thing through my day was work anyway and most thoughts that went through my head were about work.

Today, on the other hand, a friend with whom I write quite a bit is coming to discuss a new idea for a book; I mean a book that people want to read not an academic book that only three people read, one person buys and she is your mother. I am expecting two fun but very tiring days and this also means that I'll be working most of the weekend. But let the work roll and the money rock.

Little Boy has started, very worryingly, to have this absolutely horrid panick attacks in the evening shouting that he can't sleep. I have no idea what is happening and would hate it if it becomes an insomnia habbit - he was always a good sleeper; even when a baby a had to wake him up to feed him during the night.

Good day and speak soon.

Firewalker

NorthernLas

FW - I've recently found the Buteyko breathing method and have found it fabulous for migraines. Physiologically, what happens is that a person increases the CO2 levels in the blood. This improves the uptake of Oxygen. It is calming and does the opposite of shallow mouth breathing which can lead to panic attacks and hyperventilation.

When you get a chance have a look at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWgFogngw6E. It isn't that hard (as I can do it ), you just shut your mouth and concentrate on only breathing through your nose. Do you think LB would be up for experimenting?

Firewalker

Today was a mixed bag – first came the interesting, creative time with my friend discussing a book (of the kind that people want to read) and then came the episode with taking Little Boy to the hospital (by OH) and being texted with the news that the doctor thinks it might be appendicitis and is consulting a surgeon. Reading this I got into a state and started fretting and my level of stress hit the roof. They came back and the news is that it might be but it is not worth staying in hospital but we should watch him at home. My intuition is telling me that it is not – I think Little Boy is constipated and might have a slight virus, hence the tummy-ache and the not sleeping. At the moment friend, hubby and Little Boy are playing monopoly and laughing their heads off. Nice to hear – makes me realise that I have not laughed for some time now.

It does not matter how much I am trying to be OK, I am upset; I have to allow myself the time and space to mourn. I suppose losing one parent is hard, losing the other one even harder. Apart from all else there is nothing left between you and death – you are next.

Today I also was thinking about opportunities. I really agree with Malcolm Gladwell that talent is only a pre-requisite for success; the other one is opportunity. Opportunities can present themselves in different guises and many a time we don’t recognize them. But I suddenly realised that some of us do even worse – we recognize an opportunity but misinterpret is as success itself. What a waist this is….and I know that I do it. I have done it so often.

Do you?

Firewalker

InaPickle

I'm not sure that I have, but I think it's a bit like money...people think it (the opportunity) is the end game, without realising that it's only a tool.

I hope that Little Boy gets well soon. He seems chirpier, if he's laughing and playing Monopoly.

For success, I think talent, ambition/determination and opportunity are required. One without the others will not get a person anywhere.

groatie_queen

[For success, I think talent, ambition/determination and opportunity are required. One without the others will not get a person anywhere.[/QUOTE]


... and perseverance, I reckon.

Glad Little Boy is home and sounding cheerful.

GQ xox

macgirl

Firewalker wrote: »

My intuition is telling me that it is not – I think Little Boy is constipated and might have a slight virus, hence the tummy-ache and the not sleeping.

It does not matter how much I am trying to be OK, I am upset; I have to allow myself the time and space to mourn. I suppose losing one parent is hard, losing the other one even harder. Apart from all else there is nothing left between you and death – you are next.



Do you?

Firewalker

Glad your son is back home and on the mend. My friend's DS has been hospitalised for constipation, so I sympathise, but at least you can do something about that.

You have my deepest sympathies regarding the loss of your Father. I cannot say anything to ease your pain, I wish I could. Thankfully, I still have my parents, but am acutely aware that life is short. That's why it's important to pack in as many enjoyable, heart-lifting experiences as we can and not to sweat the small stuff.

Time is the only healer, so at least give yourself that. Take care

Firewalker

Friend and co-author gone back; but what is left after her visit is a beautiful mindmap of a book (not an academic one). We are going to do it, we are going to do it…And it is going to make many people think and take control of their lives. I see an opening for another prayer here…

At the same time I have been having some kind of crisis – before Christmas I felt so centred, potent and powerful. Not very sure what did knock me off again but during the last three days or so I have been thinking again about the ‘direction of my life’. It all boils down to the fact that I have a problem prioritizing – I am pushing hard in my career; I am working hard on doing my ’10,000 hours’ writing (on top of the academic writing I do); I have started doing a bit of business coaching because it is fun; I am feeling guilty that I probably should be doing for our family (or OH’s) business; and the main thing – I am working so hard and so long that I am unable to rest. Or to spend fun time with Little Boy, OH and grown up sons.

Need to think about some kind of exercise that will help with prioritizing – focus gives more power and higher probability of success; I am spreading myself too thin. Have been wandering whether an exercise similar to the one I did to identify my ‘protected wants’ might help. BTW, working out my protected wants had interesting effect – I don’t want these things compulsively any longer; the obsession is gone.

Also, we are going skiing but the MSE way. OH just booked flights to Sofia (£558 for the three of us) and a friend has a house near a lovely winter resort called Bansko (where we go skiing on package anyway). We will rent a car and go to our friend’s house. The whole thing will probably cost about £1000 instead of £2,500.

Now off to bed – tomorrow will be a great day.

Firewalker

Aesop

Firewalker, your MSE holiday sounds fab.

I can't comment on the rest of your post, my brain is frazzled and everytime I try to think about what you post, it shuts down.

williamD1964

Hi, would love to join you on the slopes but I am too fat, too old and too poor! (for now at least). Gonna stick this year to the Sun 9.95 deals. I have no idea what to recommend regarding the prioritization problem, I wish I did. Best wishes