Daffy's 'a nice cup of tea cheers you up' diary

Right then, I've done a bit of writing :T Not much, but enough to get me started tomorrow. I really must STOP dragging my heels! Mr Big's challenge this week is to STOP doing something - I need to stop this, but as Hypno pointed out, it needs to be something you can measure, or know when you've stopped, and not just come up with excuses why you haven't managed it yet

Also, have sat and composed my work's Christmas party email that I've been fretting about - can't send it out at this time of night! :eek: So I will be sending it first thing in the morning instead, but at least it's all ready to go now!

And now I reckon it's time to put the bedding on the bed :T and have a nice soak in the bath :j :j :j

Sounds like you need a bit of a hug (((((((cherisong))))))) always welcome to pop in here and let of steam if you need to and want to keep your own diary upbeat and cheery Four rounds of toast is better than nowt, but it really is difficult to address any kind of eating issue, isn't it? Such a fundamental thing, and so many feelings and emotions bound up with it!

Your meditation sounds fascinating. My friend said recently that she always struggled with it, with lots of other thoughts drifting through her head and distracting her. She'd read somewhere that she should think of herself as a mountain, with distracting thoughts as clouds, just passing by, not snagging. Really helped her. I might give it a try. I have another friend very into spiritual meditation, so might ask him for advice too.

As for Al Anon, it's a support group/ 12 step programme for people affected by other people's drinking. It was born not long after AA, set up by the wives of the men (it was always men in those days) in AA, who always found themselves sitting in kitchens waiting for AA groups to finish, and decided they could do with a bit of support too My last partner had quite a severe drink problem which had led to him being in intensive care several times before I met him, and after lots of struggling, I finally found myself in an Al Anon meeting. Just before Christmas last year, me and a friend opened a new meeting, which I go to every week

I don't really have much contact with him any more (although he still lives nearby! And I do know that he hasn't had a drink since the day I left nearly 6 years ago now). However, I have gained so much through going to the meetings, that I just never stopped. All just people who have been affected by someone else's drinking, no experts, just sharing experience, strength, and hope (and sometimes despair and misery too).

It's really big on knowing the different between what you can't control (someone else's drinking or behaviour), and what you can control (your own actions), and helping you to take responsibility for yourself and change your own thinking and behaviour.

It's not for everyone, just like AA isn't for every problem drinker, but I've found a lot of comfort and support there over the years, and have really grown. It does make me sit and assess my own thoughts and behaviour rather often though! :rotfl: I'm always checking if I'm slipping back into 'stinking thinking' (like I have been this weekend ) and seeing what I can do to pull myself gently back out again.

Sorry, that was a rather long explanation!

Glad you've got someone to let off steam with, it's very valuable! I try to stick with positivity on my blog too, and lovely pictures of nice things rather than dusty windowsills and piles of clutter :rotfl: But here is a bit more of an everyday sounding board for me so sometimes I do get a bit moany if that's how I'm feeling

Looking forward to reading the poem I am forever grateful to him for sharing my life for a while, because while it didn't work out as a relationship, through the fog and befuddlement that is living with active alcoholism, we did both manage to bring something positive into each others lives. I wouldn't wish any of what happened on my worse enemy, but now at least I can be grateful for what it led me to (although I very much didn't feel like that at the time! :rotfl:), and that it eventually led to him turning his life around. The whole thing made me appreciate a whole load of things I never thought I would appreciate, and changed me fundamentally for the better.

Anyway, out of the bath, and the kettle's on for hot chocolate and and hot water bottle Been reading a book about PMS as I've suffered something chronic this month far more than normal - combination of stress, leading to eating rubbish, not exercising, and drinking far more tea than is even reasonable for me (up to ten cups a day or more some days! :eek:)

Hmm, won't think too much tonight, need to go to sleep

Night
xx

Missy, that sounds lovely! We're all about glamourous nighties in this house :rotfl: BUt sometimes I sneak into a pair of PJs when I'm here on my own How lovely that you havea sun room! I'm most jealous

Yes, why not have a grid to colour in? I think Hypno did it for her debt, and MG certainly did (although I think hers was a tree with leaves on). I've been contemplating exactly the same thing for my PhD finishing, just pondering what to have as the squares :rotfl: Can't have whole chapters or else I'd feel like I was never getting them ticked off!

Hope you get a little bit of decluttering done - 15 mins at a time remember!