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Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »Being on here doesn't make me ill, i'm already ill.
But the hurtful remarks don't just bounce off & I take them all in.
When i'm having a particularly bad day they come back to haunt me & I beleive that i'm x, y & z because so & so said it so it must be true.
I self harm to get the bad feeling out.
In my logical brain I feel like I can't really put stuff that is still happening behind me but I will be trying so hard once it's all over.
My gp said I need to learn to put my feelings in a box?
She didn't say how to though. Maybe some people can do that better then others.
I'm an extremely emotional person & they take over my life, i'd love to learn to control them but again how do I do that?
What would you tell your children if they needed to put something behind them? You are an adult, you need to work it out for yourself.
Do you really think a financial payout is going to make something be behind you? It will not, money just glosses over the bad stuff.
No one can tell you what to do with your time, but if you choose to let comments from complete strangers affect you to such an extent, you need to take some time away from MSE.Gone ... or have I?0 -
give BCS a break will you, i have been there and dwelled snaping out of it doesnt happen when you want it to but when your mind accepts it can take how ever long it takes
No one has suggested that she snaps out of it, and she is making no effort to move forward.Gone ... or have I?0 -
What would you tell your children if they needed to put something behind them? You are an adult, you need to work it out for yourself.
Do you really think a financial payout is going to make something be behind you? It will not, money just glosses over the bad stuff.
No one can tell you what to do with your time, but if you choose to let comments from complete strangers affect you to such an extent, you need to take some time away from MSE.
You don't get it.
It's nothing to do with the financial pay out, it is someone admitting they what they did was wrong & apologising.
The money will be used to pay for further surgery to try to put what they did right again.
It will also be used for me to have counselling/therapy with someone who specialises in autism.
I don't need to justify my court case to you, lots of people sue hospitals when they fcuk up.
Once it's over I won't have to think about it/read reports about it so it will be easier to forget about.I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.
Lucille Ball0 -
Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »You don't get it.
It's nothing to do with the financial pay out, it is someone admitting they what they did was wrong & apologising.
The money will be used to pay for further surgery to try to put what they did right again.
It will also be used for me to have counselling/therapy with someone who specialises in autism.
I don't need to justify my court case to you, lots of people sue hospitals when they fcuk up.
Once it's over I won't have to think about it/read reports about it so it will be easier to forget about.
You don't have to think about it now, you have a solicitor to do that for you.
What difference is someone admitting they were wrong going to make? It is going to miraculously make everything better? No, it isn't going to make a bit of difference.
So are you going to do anything positive in the next week?Gone ... or have I?0 -
You don't have to think about it now, you have a solicitor to do that for you.
What difference is someone admitting they were wrong going to make? It is going to miraculously make everything better? No, it isn't going to make a bit of difference.
So are you going to do anything positive in the next week?
It will make a difference to me as i've got a thing about right & wrong (probably my asperger's).
I'm going to try.
My kids are at their grandparents tonight & tomorrow but i'm going to try to go on a bike ride with them when they get back.
I need the exercise & the fresh air will do us all good.
I will let you know how I get on.I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.
Lucille Ball0 -
BCS - A few tips to compartmenalise.
I tell myself I will not think about the thing which is taking over my life and pulling me down starting off with not thinking about it for an hour, then once that has been achieved, two hours and so on until I can go a whole day without it having an impact.
If I do find myself thinking about it, I stop myself immediately (mind over matter sort of thing) and force myself to think about something positive, for example, a good grade the boys have got, a cuddle from youngest (as rare as hens teeth), a cheery smile from a neighbour.
It takes a bit of work but if you stick at it, you can beat it..it was one of the things which pulled me out of my breakdown.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
Be careful folks. On another thread I suggested people would do well with a positive attitude and to try to help themselves, I was scolded by the board guide for giving medical advice.Only 3% of those registered blind in the UK have zero vision.0
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Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »Being on here doesn't make me ill, i'm already ill. And your determined to keep it that way.
But the hurtful remarks don't just bounce off & I take them all in. Then dont post and dont read any replies to anything you have posted up to now, you need air to breath, food to eat and water to drink, you dont need MSE to live.
In my logical brain I feel like I can't really put stuff that is still happening behind me but I will be trying so hard once it's all over. Its easier for me to compartmentalise than in seems to be for other people, my brain is like a computor and you can compartmentalise a hard drive so I can compartmentalise my brain.
It took me years to come to terms with the results of my accident but I might as well have died in the crash than live a living death of misery and hate and inflict that on my kids to ruin there lives.
There is life, there is death and theres living in hell, the best bit of having been there is that you know the way back out again.0 -
Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »It will make a difference to me as i've got a thing about right & wrong (probably my asperger's). What are you expecting?
It wont be what you get and you will be surprised how you fell IF you win, if you have to go to the high court, dont go because your not strong enough for it.
I'm going to try. Try but dont put your life on hold, the summer holidays have started for your kids, if its warm when they get back get into the garden and have a water fight, have a picnic on the lawn, do anything THAT YOU CAN DO and have fun.
I need the exercise & the fresh air will do us all good. We go on long bike rides together, I have a diffrent wheelchair that can do 15 mph, my son can do that down hill but the dog sticks at 6mph.
I will let you know how I get on.
Some one admitting resposibility or partial resposibility isnt someone saying sorry, if thats what you want your not going to get it.0 -
TheBottomLine wrote: »Be careful folks. On another thread I suggested people would do well with a positive attitude and to try to help themselves, I was scolded by the board guide for giving medical advice.
I know what thread you mean and still don't get how that was medical advice.Sealed pot challenge #232. Gold stars from Sue-UU - :staradmin :staradmin £75.29 banked
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