MMD: Should I pay more than my partner?
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I've been with my partner for nearly eight years and we've always split everything 50/50 (bills, meals out etc). But recently he brought up that I'm earning 25% more than him - so should I pay more?
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Yes you should. After 8 years I have to wonder why you haven't got married and why you don't have shared finances but are still splitting everything like flatmates. Do you have children?
Oh wait, nobody's going to answer, are they?0 -
No, why should you pay more towards the household expenditure as a punishment for your success, if he wants more excess income he should earn itThe opposite of what you know...is also true0
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Do whatever works for you as a couple.
Your partner may well feel you should pay more, discuss the reasoning behind this with them and see where you can meet in the middle maybe.0 -
After 8 years together I would expect a couple to have more of an "our money" approach than splitting everything 50/50, but I don't think it's necessarily a moral imperative.
I'm curious as to why you wouldn't though- surely you're a team?0 -
How sad this is, you have to ask some faceless people rather than discuss this with your partner. Do you never surprise him and take him out for a meal or he you? You say everything is paid 50/50, even meals out.
Pay more into your pension so that you both have exactly the same disposable income.
Another thought, if you get more Christmas presents than he does, does he sulk?0 -
What do you do with your extra disposable income? A bit awkward when you plan a nice holiday abroad and he tells you he can't afford it when you have £1000s in the bank.0
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After 8 years together I would expect a couple to have more of an "our money" approach than splitting everything 50/50, but I don't think it's necessarily a moral imperative.
I'm curious as to why you wouldn't though- surely you're a team?
It works differently for different couples, not all would work like this. I've been with my fianc! for 11 years and we still keep our money separate. Works for us. Of course if children are involved I can see why it would work differently.
In regards to the OP I don't necessarily think so. However given the difference in your salaries maybe the odd treat would be nice.0 -
I've been with my partner for nearly eight years and we've always split everything 50/50 (bills, meals out etc). But recently he brought up that I'm earning 25% more than him - so should I pay more?
Suggest he gets a better paid job... or go part time yourself.
Problem solved.
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Here's my tip - do a forum search for the many, many times this has bee discussed. Much quicker than emailing the forum team to ask them to start yet another thread on the subject.Unless I say otherwise 'you' means the general you not you specifically.0
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