Finish line in sight....but I'm running out of petrol....

bubbles0169

hi thanks for your kind wishes snags
that dalek looks amazing thanks bbabe!
well done ryan xxxx
talking of toilet habits theres a whiff going round this room no its not me! its time for a nappy change no not me,again, ds!:rotfl:
see ya againxx

Snaggles

Oh Weller, I am so glad to hear from you, thank you for posting. The letter is beautiful, moving, funny, sad, and I am sitting here with tears pouring down my face for you. So much of his personality is contained in those words, and I hope it will bring you comfort one day, when the pain has eased a little.

Please please don't feel that there was more you could have done - your strength and faith in him were what kept him going, and are what will keep you and your children going. You say you are not coping very well, but I think you are being too hard on yourself - just being able to put one foot in front of the other is enough at this very early stage sweetie. Give Sam the time he needs to come to terms with it in his own way - don't hide your grief from him - let him see it is okay to confront and express his feelings. You're a fantastic Mum to him and Mollie, and right now, all they need is your love.

I will let the others know that you have posted here if that's okay with you?

We are all missing you, and you are in our thoughts and prayers.

xxxx

barnaby-bear

weller711 wrote: »

Snags I hope you dont mind me posting this on here but I have no wish to read through that nights thread again, I have seen the last few pages though hence the thanks to everyone).

I can't say anything to help but the other thread had an offer from up top to make it disappear temporarily or permanently as you want - if you tell Snaggles what you want her to do I'm sure she'll be able explain things and to arrange whatever you want to happen.

People do live on through the way they touch and change others.

Burlesque_Babe

I found it hard to read the last paragraph from Andy as I have tears filling my eyes. What a beautiful man you found Weller.

Please don't think you 'could have eased it for him', you were there every step of the way and that would have meant so much to him.

It doesn't matter if you don't think you are coping - you're not supposed to 'have' to cope - let everyone around you do the coping for you until you can cope for 5 minutes, then an hour, then a day......

Keep all the memories close to your heart and smile ifyou can even if it's through the tears - Andy sounds like he had a wicked sense of humour.

We are always here for you - and to echo Andy - when you feel you can - meet up with some of us - I really want to meet you.

Please take care and know we are all sending you all of our love.

Keren xxxxxx

immoral_angeluk

I can't read that anymore as it's making me cry.... but Weller I just wanted to send you our love..... :grouphug:

Uniscots97

I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. Weller, sending you a hug. Stay strong.

immoral_angeluk

Weller please don't feel guilty about laughing... or being on here.. you needed support and were enjoying your time with him by laughing.. there is nothing wrong with that...

Snaggles

Although that memory hurts now Weller, I think you will treasure that laughter in years to come. It's the little things like that which define a relationship, and for you and Andy to find a spark of humour in the darkest of moments just shows how well you knew each other, and how much love you had for each other.

Take care sweetheart, keep in touch. I'm not sure if you still have my number or not, but if you want to chat to someone, you can call or text me any time. Just pm or email me if you want me to resend the number to you.

xxxx

Burlesque_Babe

weller711 wrote: »

What am i going to do without him? I want him so much, I want to see him and hold him and I was sat typing on here when things happened, I should have been in the bathroom with him. He was laughing in the hospital not long before he went because somebody said that their fingers were not long enough to do something and Andy said he would get some fishfingers from McDonalds for him, he was cracking up, and I was crying with laughter, it was one of those "You had to be there" sort of thing but now I feel so guilty because we shouldnt have been laughing at that time.

Am going to go now because if I stay I will loose it completely, its harder putting things into words then reading them, harder than actually feeling them, doesnt make much sense I know.

Bye for now xx

no, no, no.........please Weller.........you 'shouldn't' have been in the bathroom - you had to ask for help, don't feel guilty. You 'should' have been laughing with him over the fishfingers - you were there, with him, there was no way you could know what was going to happen. Absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. See it as a positive memory to hold - the laughter that bound you.

You did absolutely everything you could hun - and more.

System

Weller, what a beautiful letter your husband wrote for you and your children; brave, honourable and funny. I guess there are so many different things that people are saying to you and I am sure none of them at the moment will be bringing you any consolation. You will make peace with it and you will keep going not only for the childrens sake, but for Andy's sake. You will celebate his life and both of your lives through them and you will never let them forget their dad. I was thinking about you and your family today and if I could do anything to help you I would and can only hope that mine and words from others are helping you in some way. Len x