Uninvited random people watching the bride arrive at church!!

princess1974

Hello gang..
Just a quick query.
We have sent all invites to the respective guests to the day and night bit, however word has got back that some unwanted random people are going to come and "watch me arrive at the church"..
OH says its people of a certain generation that do that, but i dont want people doing it anyway..
That sounds rubbish doesnt it!! Sorry...
Its just the people who are just going to show up, i dont really like and would rather they werent there, part of me thinks they are just being nosy but i know that people do this. I know that a church is for everyone but im really not keen on this and am trying to discourage it..
Am i just being a cowbag or is this usual..:eek:
Any ideas and thoughts gratefully received.
Thanks
x

melancholly

if i'm passing a church and i see a wedding, i'll stop to have a look at the bride....just to look! it's also pretty normal in my church for members of the congregation to turn up for weddings (and indeed funerals) and just sit quietly in the back. it's actually quite sweet that people take the time to turn up and show support. they certainly aren't aiming to impose and just sneak away afterwards, but it's about a community spirit and being there for people even if you don't know them very well personally.

if they're only watching you go from the car to the church, then i can't really see the problem. i understand that going into the service is a bit of an imposition and although normal where i am, perhaps not always the way things are done. since you can't stop them anyway, why risk causing bad feeling when it won't be doing any harm?

shelly

When I arrived at the church there were a few neighbours there who were only invited to the evening do and there were a few people there who I knew but didn't really like. I wasn't really bothered.
To be honest, you are out of the car and going into church so quickly that you probably won't even recall who they were the next day.
I only remember a few of them because our photographer wanted to take a few pics of me, bridesmaids and page boys before we went in and one of the women who I don't like made a fuss when asked to move away a little as she was in the shot! I could have slapped her if my photographer hadn't told her that if she didn't move of her own accord he would put her over his shoulder and move her himself! :rotfl:
He was quite a bossy photographer but he got things done.

tomstickland

however word has got back that some unwanted random people are going to come and "watch me arrive at the church"..

Whem you say "unwanted", do you just mean random people who you don't know, or people who you know and don't like?

Stephb1986_2

I'll be honest i like seeing brides and stuff but i dont stand outside church like a unwanted person i guess its like a day dream of what i want to look like when i get married. I wouldnt stop on purpose to have a look i might just carry on driving having a mooch.

Steph xx

geri1965_2

Well, it's a free country and there's nothing to stop people from standing around in a public place, so I think you'll just have to put up with it.

floss2

Personally I think it's a bit much to get married in a public place, and then to expect the public to shield their eyes & not to look at the bride as she gets out of the car & walks into the church.

If you are so bothered about "unwanted random people" then why are you marrying in a public building? Why not do a Coleen & marry away from other people's eyes?

honeypop

It is quite normal for people to come to the church to see the bride make her entrance, you even have to allow people into the church who are not part of your wedding, as the church is open to everyone and normally you do get a few regulars who turn up to show support, even if they don't know you.

You can't stop people from coming to see you unfortunately, just try to bepleased they are taking an interest. It matters not if you know them and don't like them, or if you don;t even know the people who are there watching, you can't do anything about it as anyone is entitled show up to the church.

I take it you're not a regular church goer, otherwise you'd probably be aware of this common practice. Also bear in mind that if you don't like these people and they get wind of you not approving of them showing up, then it will most likely encourage them to do it anyway.

Krystaltips

We're actually going to be putting a bit in the church notice sheet inviting members of the congregation to join us... I think it's nice some people want to show their support whether they're invited to any of the social celebrations or not...

Horace

It is normal for people to watch weddings and to even turn up to the church uninvited because it is a place of worship that is open at all times to everyone. I do not see the harm in someone watching or even sitting quietly at the back of the church watching the wedding.

The uninvited people may also be trainee wedding planners who have previously asked the vicar/priest or officiant if they can watch - yes it does happen and I know from my own experience that it happens in fact trainees are actively encouraged to do so.

If you don't want to be centre of attention why as others have said get married in a public place or why even get married at all? Sorry if this sounds harsh but people watch weddings just the same as they grockle at accidents on the motorway, its human nature.

I think that you will be so busy and wrapped up in the wedding on the day that you won't even notice the 'visitors'. Hope you enjoy your day.

seatzie

people will turn up, for some reason when my wife and I got married one of her cousins and aunt who we never invited and never saw turned up and cos they were dressed so nice the bloke in the registry office told them to go on in as the bride was about to arrive so they ended up being at the wedding anyway!!!! I was standing there waiting on the missus arriving thinking I don't know who you are lol!!!

at the end of the day you've enough to worry about just remember its your day enjoy it, if people come to watch so what..............