neighbour hates us

CB1979_2

the_other_mce wrote: »

I think you can have CCTV quite legally to protect your property. As you have said it needs to be trained on your house/door/garden though. However from experience the microphones pick up sound from quite a way off - especially from shouting threatening neighbours.;) You cannot use it as proof in a court of law but it is v. helpful to replay it to H/A, councils etc to show the trouble they are causing you. Worth bearing in mind.... Good Luck...

that was my point, face it down your back garden and it'll pick up any abuse/anything thrown over the fence, etc.

also if they know it's there but is out of reach they may be inclined to stop their foolish behaviour, be even better if the person fitting let slip he was from the council

CB1979_2

also dog !!!!!! through the letter box is a nice anonymous gift

I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK

CB1979 wrote: »

also dog !!!!!! through the letter box is a nice anonymous gift

Which more than likely inflame the situation far worse than it is now.

THE_LONE_RANGER_4

got to have evidence before any complaint can be taken seriously ,
your word against theres, as for getting them in for an interview lets be realistic here i do not know much about council tennents, association tennents but ordereing some one in for an interview is police only

zztopgirl

Lone Ranger, we are just going to bide our time and wait til they give us some evidence, i know we cant do anything yet. I wouldn't do mediation either, there would be no reasoning with her.

Djjuego you are so right, we may be physically disabled, but she is actually worse off and should be pitied for her sad and little life where she gets a kick from doing this. I have felt stronger since typing this down and reading all the great replies, dh has just looked out of the window and seen that she is doing the gardening in the rain. Need i say anymore?

We are going to stay put:T and have started redecorating, putting up new shelves, etc, havent heard a dickie bird from next door at all. I got 2 offers of a house swop on thursday morning which is sods law but if anyone is going to have to go, it will be her and not us. She tries telling people she has lived here for years, acts like she owns the neighbourhood, but that doesnt excuse her for what she is doing to us.

I have been trying to get hold of the council dept all week, but not getting through and calls arent being returned, but i'll keep trying.

orlao

I used to have a neighbour who was very fond of telling people that he'd lived here 20+ years particularly when he was trying to dictate to OP what was "allowed".

I dealt with him by smiling sweetly and playing dumb.....drove him mad cos he couldn't decide if I was taking the pee or really just stupid!!!!!
The first year I lived there he'd come charging out of his house to try and have a go about parking, dogs whatever at least twice a week and I'd give him 1 minute to whinge( no longer!) and then ask him what exactly was his point with a big smile on my face.....none of his complaints had any validity so that would shut him up very quickly.

After a couple of months I started getting notes stuck on my car that gradually got more abusive as I didn't fall into line:rolleyes: so after about 4 that threatened damage to my car I saw him in the street and said without temper that I was planning on handing these notes to the police as part of my complaint about his behaviour......How did he feel about that? I got a mouthful of abuse which I just walked away from and a couple of days later he parked both his cars on my bumpers at night! I left for work at 4am the following morning and couldn't get my car out, both cars were literally touching my car front and back, so I triggered both car alarms, just by starting my car......so out he comes screaming and shouting the odds, just as I was on the phone to the local nick:D . Unfortunely for him, the nick heard him shouting racist abuse ( I'm Irish!) as well as refusing to move his car and telling me that would teach me. When the police showed up he then backed down big time but it was a bit late then.....he was "severely chatised and warned about his future behaviour" on the roadside! He never spoke to me again but I always made a point of smiling and saying hello.......

While that kind of attitude may not be the answer for everyone I am a firm believer that if you give someone enough rope they will hang themselves.

Just ignore them, I know it must be difficult for your DH, use your garden etc as you wish, if she starts just walk away, when her husband apologises tell him that that's not good enough, continue to keep records and the one thing you can always have is your own self respect because you KNOW you haven't done anything wrong.

yoni_one

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with abuse from your neighbour and although I don't think you should have to move out of your home, if that is your preferred option you could register with http://www.homeswapper.co.uk/

It opens up many more options.

Good luck

[Deleted User]

If your husband is being targetted because he is disabled this classed as Hate Crime.

Contact the police.

djjuego

:A I am so glad your feeling more postive, this is a great site to get peoples views and sometimes that is all someone needs, to know that someone understands. As far as your Council is concerned you can e-mail a letter in or if it is a housing assosiation you can do the same it normal takes about 14 days for a reply and if you haven't had one you put in a complaint or see your local Councilor for help. You are right to make them aware of the situation and explain you will be keeping a dairy. Good luck and yes as one of the other writters above said by smiling and saying good morning etc every time you met hurts them more as they can't call you. What ever they say smile don't reply and walk away people like you are better than them remember that. Chin up all:T