My Brother (sorry - long)

Mips

Curv wrote: »

My Dad has made a few comments that lead me to believe they are continuing down this path for their own peace of mind rather than having to live with the consequences of what would happen if they did the 'right' thing... in the past (according to my Mum) my brother has alluded, vaguely, to committing suicide if ever they stop supporting him.

Now I don't know how true this is and my brother laughed and flat-out denied it when I asked him... but Mum couldn't have just spun the idea out of fresh air so something has been said at some point to make them both uncomfortable with the idea of cutting him off financially. In their minds they'd rather be saddled with his debt and fund him for the rest of their lives than risk having his death on their consciences, which is how they see it.

After the conversation where my brother denied saying he'd commit suicide, I asked him to speak to our parents and make it perfectly clear that there was absolutely no risk of him doing anything stupid... he did that but the seed has been sown somewhere and the way they see it, there's a risk, no matter how tiny or unreal, so they won't take the chance.

Oh dear, he has them over a barrell then.. the selfish swine.

We make sacrifices for our kids, but it shouldn't extend into adulthood - your brother is an awful person to continue doing this