Depression Support Thread

Chollita

Still hot and sweaty here.

I love you lot, my thanks count has shot up since I started posting on this thread :rotfl:

Chollita

This is Mayo, my foster kitten (short for Mayonesa, can anyone guess what it means? )

absolutebounder

gillette147 wrote: »

I was just musing on it rather than seeking help.
I find taking help more depressing than the benefit it brings.
But that's me..........................stupid.

First thing. It is not stupid, strange as it would seem i think you are right and this ties in with the posts that are criticising the help that is supposed to be available.
Ego based realities live of the perceptions of others.
They need external support (validation, acceptance, admiration etc) or they crumble.
The person sends out "pinging" signals to get appreciation or sympathy back. That is easy to see here from posts that demand a reply such as "Im feeling down". These posts tell other people nothing so they have to ask what is up and then give hugs, etc when the problem is revealed
They prevent you from making the mistakes you need to in order to learn. You learn more by doing things wrong but to the ego it is more important to save face than it is to get results. It blames others for mistakes or to rationalise failures. It actually gives your true power away because one needs others to vallidat accept and admire you instead of finding everything you need inside yourself.
Because that is where the answers lie. Not with a therapist psychologist etc but with you. You have the resources to fix the problem(s) but may not be able to find them and to me that is the best a therapist can do, help you find the resources again.
An illness like man flu is easy for a doctor because he knows that an organism has invaded your body and has to be killed but mind illnesses are not an invasion by another organism but rather more like a corruption of the minds programs and in reality only your mind knows where the corruption is.
People just say to the therapist I want to be better but without actually helping the therapist to find the root problem that is often covered up by the ego which means the therapist gets the blame for a nigh on impossible task.
To me good therapy slowly lets you find the resources you need by allowing you to think in a different way. By allowing you to realise that your ego is really your enemy and the real you that lurks under the mask is a much better and nicer person anyway.
Try to let go of the outcome. This does NOT mean dont have any goals. but put simply dont rely on your goals for your sense of value Goals are about direction not points.
Badger I have not as far as I know met you but I have in the past had a pm from someone on MSE mentioning you and saying what a great person you are. I suspect that person sees the true you, probably more than you yourself do.

Chollita

Gawd, she looks like Kitten Kong.

I tried to resize it ...

LadyMorticia

So adorable Chollita!

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

aw shes so adorable Chollita I have been fine tonight,watched Home and Away and a bit of Hollyoaks Done my washing tonight in my washing machine,now drying it with my tumbledryer balls I got for £1.00

relaxing tonight and not doing much then its bedtime


love and light,

Katie xxx

Tulip

I am off now,

chat tomorrow

Night! Night!

love and light,

Katie xxx

feelinggood_2

I'm feeling low tonight. Don't know why. No reason, no trigger, just bad thoughts and bad urges.

Stephb1986_2

Hi FG are you ok hun?

Steph xx

alba37

Chollita wrote: »

Still hot and sweaty here.

I love you lot, my thanks count has shot up since I started posting on this thread :rotfl:

Evening everyone!

I think people are more appreciative here, than many other threads on mse. I like to thank fellow posters who I become friendly with too... oh that really doesn't sound right! :eek: Oh well I know what I mean! :rotfl: I also try to thank anyone who thanks me, but sometimes I get lost so forgive me if I miss some, I don't mean to.

How's everyone this evening? Anything nice happened today? Just back from my friends, I'm really tired so hope to get to bed soon..... we'll see!