Claim as single?

Marker_2

Not on subject, when the OH was in training and sunny climates, I rang Council Tax office to tell them I wanted to take him off as he is already paying tax at his base (which is included in rent etc) and he spent more time there than home.

Would they allow me to take him off as he was effectively paying twice, nope! PS this was before they changed that system by the way, as now he could claim it back.

All systems suck!

something_girl

Just wanted to say thanks for all the replies, it's amazing the amount of conflicting opinions.

God knows what I will do, probably absolutely nothing... I guess it's better to 'have someone' and be far poorer than be alone and well off..

Cheers again everyone for a great lively debate :beer:

Oldernotwiser

something_girl wrote: »

God knows what I will do, probably absolutely nothing... I guess it's better to 'have someone' and be far poorer than be alone and well off..

"Having someone" and being poorer is fine if you're mad about each other but "having someone" just for the sake of not being on your own is pretty pointless, regardless of any financial effects. Think of all the good things that you could do with more money, both on your own and for your child;is it worth giving up these for the sake of having some bloke around for a couple of nights a week? You're also wasting time that you could be using to achieve a worthwhile and lasting relationship; why settle for less?

Marker_2

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

"Having someone" and being poorer is fine if you're mad about each other but "having someone" just for the sake of not being on your own is pretty pointless, regardless of any financial effects. Think of all the good things that you could do with more money, both on your own and for your child;is it worth giving up these for the sake of having some bloke around for a couple of nights a week? You're also wasting time that you could be using to achieve a worthwhile and lasting relationship; why settle for less?

Settling for less, you always have to replace the batteries

something_girl

just to update.
We have split, he moved out on Thursday, 100 miles away.
Guess it is now time to claim!

Mips

something_girl wrote: »

just to update.
We have split, he moved out on Thursday, 100 miles away.
Guess it is now time to claim!

Money aside, you OK with it?

something_girl

well, it was awful coming back from work and seeing half the stuff gone, then the next day coming back and absolutely everything he owned gone (he must have come back with a van).. he sure is a quick worker.

I wasn't too great yesterday, but not so bad today. Luckily I have 2 lovely girls to keep me busy and back to work tomorrow, thank god!

Thanks for askin' xx

Mips

something_girl wrote: »

well, it was awful coming back from work and seeing half the stuff gone, then the next day coming back and absolutely everything he owned gone (he must have come back with a van).. he sure is a quick worker.

I wasn't too great yesterday, but not so bad today. Luckily I have 2 lovely girls to keep me busy and back to work tomorrow, thank god!

Thanks for askin' xx

Was it all just out of the Blue?!

The girls sure will keep you busy and in time you will be totally fine - probably only sorry he didn't leave sooner

SuziQ

Sounds as though you are better off without him! I have never been lonelier than when I was in a relationship that 'wasn't right'. You were unlikely to meet your Mr Right whilst still tied to this guy,now,who knows what's around the corner for you?

something_girl

He wasn't ready for a committed relationship, even after 3 and a half years, so I should never have invited him to live with us, but with him living 100 miles away, there really wasn't much choice, perhaps it's a male, female thing, I had presumed that with living together it meant we were very serious and had a future, he just seemed to still be at the boyfriend/girlfriend stage, which is fine, but not living together... that just doesn't seem right to me!