Daily Chat thread 4th June :D

Lucy1982_2

Lucifa73 wrote: »

Thanks -its not degree snobbery - I have a first class all of my very own and a professional qualification:p . To be a complete beatch for 5 seconds if it came to a test of intelligence or even common sense I'd wipe the floor with several of them...

But I'm not considered part of the group, am constantly made to feel unwanted and desparatley trying not to let Hubbles fall out with them because of it because I don't want him to cut himself off a really important part of his life.

Hmmm I'm not very good and making new friends myself, so I know how hard it is.

Is there anything you can do with just Hubby to met completely new people?

Lucifa73

I don't know - maybe I just expect too much of people...

We've only really been in Glasgow together for about 2 years now and as we both work full time I guess we have to accept it takes time to build up a circle of friends. We've been concentrating mostly in getting our CA's passed so the main focus has been study. We're starting to lift our heads a bit now - we go to the gym regularly and there's a few social nights coming up we're going to so hopefully that'll help.

Thanks all. Sorry about the rant/whinge but if I hadn't let it out here the fall out at the next 'uni friends' (that's how they refer to each other) get together would have been a tad awkward

redsquirrel80

Lucifa73 wrote: »

I don't know - maybe I just expect too much of people...

We've only really been in Glasgow together for about 2 years now and as we both work full time I guess we have to accept it takes time to build up a circle of friends. We've been concentrating mostly in getting our CA's passed so the main focus has been study. We're starting to lift our heads a bit now - we go to the gym regularly and there's a few social nights coming up we're going to so hopefully that'll help.

Thanks all. Sorry about the rant/whinge but if I hadn't let it out here the fall out at the next 'uni friends' (that's how they refer to each other) get together would have been a tad awkward

It's important to let these things out! It can be hard when there's already an established group who've known each other for ages, they don't know you as well and they might feel a bit threatened, or like the balance of things has changed. It sounds like you've been really making the effort though, so they really should be acting a bit more grown up. I hope they come round and realise how lovely you are!

ZTD

Lucifa73 wrote: »

:mad: :mad: :mad:
I am sick of being treated like an outsider just because I didn't go to university with Hubbles friends.

Since moving to Glasgow they are our main social group but I am constantly being left off invites and excluded from girls' days out because (apparently) they didn't think I'd want to hang out with HIS friends if he wasn't there. Am I too naive to think I have a right to consider them my friends too as we've known each other for over five years now. I honestly feel like crying.

Its mainly a couple of the girls that are the problem. They're all smiles to your face but whispered conversations fall quiet when I enter a room and I know they !!!!! about me when I'm not there. (it isn't all paranoia either)

You're doing this for your hubby. Make friends for yourself - and pick better ones than these...

(Land_of)_Maz

surely some of them must've aquired partners along the way too, do you think they feel the same?

boredofbeingathome

Sounds like a right bunch to me, Lucifa. I have had that a few times, and make a point of ruining their day by being very friendly to them, and overly gushy. It obviously makes them cringe, but well worth it as you get so many points on the moral high ground. I do this with some of hubbies old mates in Durham, they can please thereselves as far as i am concerned, because they have no impact on my life whatsoever. They try and do the girls/boys night out job, and i say isn't that old fashioned? so way behind the times up here, how teenagerish etc. really gets their goat!
The others are sheep for going along with it and need to move on with the times. Also I know it is hard when you move to a new town, so why not join some associations like rotary or some sort of social club.
I often have a problem keeping up with friends, as i don't have the cash for nights out in The big Cities. so will use a few excuses, although i did go to Barcelona a couple of years ago with them..well worth it.
I hope you manage to resolve the situation soon. Is hubby aware of it at all?

Ellidee

Hmm Lucifa I smell the green eyed monster methinks. They are not worthy of your friendship imho. Maybe you could get to know some girls at the gym ?

Burlesque_Babe

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Lucifa73

Thanks everyone. I guess I just needed to get ot off my chest. Its really just a few spoiling the whole thing. Yes there's a green eyed monster lurking with one of the girls but she's with someone else now so needs to get over it.

You'd think we were a bunch of teenagers but the youngest of us is 25 (I be the eldest at 34 -35 in July:eek: ). 3 of the original 'uni friends' are married and us three 'other halves' are always kind of on the edge of things. We tend to gravitate towards each other when things get ugly.

It particularly got to me to day because there's been emails for a get together flying round and we only found out about it yesterday. I daresay once exams are done with I'll have time to meet more people who are actually decent human beings rather than kids stuck in the playground

jinky67

i think sometimes people who have been friends at uni...dont realise they exclude others....
Dont let them get to you.
i would also say Hubby should be aware of the situation...and should say something to them.