Problem Partner!

lazy_daisy

I'll bet she really misses you when you're away and the spending helps take her mind off it.
LilacPixie's idea sounds really good - harsh, but good. One of those fixed budget cards could be the answer. She can have enough money for her needs and a reasonable amount of wants AND NO MORE! Is this workable being as she has the kiddie and a part time job?

bank_of_slate

Lazy, You're up Jacob's Creek and I'm skipping around on Blossom Hill!
...Linda xx

auntymabel

I agree with what's been said about making her take responsibilty for her debts. I think sometimes people have to be given responsibilty before can become responsible, if you see what I mean.

Do you think you may have slipped into a sort of parent and child relationship? It's easily done - I know - I've been there and got the T shirt. Keep telling yourself she's an intelligent adult!

adydye

I woke up on an Oxford Landing just recently.....!

Ady

adydye

Seriously though, auntymabel, I am trying to make her responsible for her own finances even if I take care of most of it anyway.
When she was going through her divorce, she wouldn't even open letters from her own solicitor! Her ex is the only bloke I know who came out better off than the wife.
Now that's gone away she's the same with the bank letters - "But I know what's in them!"
I even suggested she get a credit report and she said why should she pay 2 quid just to find out what a t**t she is!!!!?