IVF - Poor quality eggs

epsilondraconis

Hi all, any help will be very much appreciated.

My wife and I have just completed our first cycle of IVF. Unfortunately the consultant has told us that my wife's eggs appear to be too poor quality to enable fertilisation to take place. They removed 9 eggs and injected them (ICSI) but none fertilised.

The feedback from the consultant was basically that there is nothing else they can try. He indicated that we could try the IVF - ICSI route again; however he feared that it would only confirm their suspicisions that it was very unlikely to result in pregnancy. He said that the lack of fertilisation after the IVF - ICSI route this time would only occur in a handful of cases each year.

I don't suppose anyone can offer any words of encouragment regarding this. My wife is 32 and I'm 34. There are a lot of tears at the moment and so any help regarding possible next steps would be appreciated. Thanks in advance...

fitzmum

Hugs to you both :A

I'm sorry to hear about your TTC troubles - I would definitely try again at least one more time when you are feeling strong enough.
At least then you know you have done absolutely everything you could have done but also you may be sucessful.

I suppose going down the route of using a donor egg could then be an option but i'm sure you would both have to talk this through a lot beforehand

I'm sorry I can't be of further help but I felt I couldn't just read & run

I'm sure someone will be along in a minute with some advice who has been in your situation/similar situation before

Love & Best Wishes.....

MoneySavingStudent_2

Hi there!
Sorry to hear you're having trouble having a family.
I don't have any advise but i do have words of encouragement!

Even when you think all hope is lost, keep trying! So many things happen each day that doctors and specialists etc say would never happen. Dont stop trying, you both sound like you really want this! Amazing things happen everyday. Just do what you can. If the doctor says there nothing else, just keep trying the simple way, sometimes hopes and dreams can come true even if people tell you that they cant!

Good Luck x

epsilondraconis

Thanks fitzmum. My wife and I have discussed donor eggs, but its not something that she feels comfortable with trying. We've also looked at adoption; however I see it as permanently looking after someone elses child.

Hopefully something will happen on the second IVF attempt; however I can't see it somehow.

MoneySavingStudent_2

epsilondraconis wrote: »

however I can't see it somehow.

I know its hard, but try and stay positive?

epsilondraconis

Hi MoneySavingStudent - thanks for the encouraging words.

We'll be trying the IVF route again - regardless of the £3k price-tag.

We'll also keep trying 'the simple way' - however after 6 years of trying the simple way, it doesn't seem to have the same excitment about it. I guess that's married life for you!

epsilondraconis

MoneySavingStudent wrote: »

I know its hard, but try and stay positive?

I'm sure there is a gag there somewhere!

Thanks again for your help.

MoneySavingStudent_2

epsilondraconis wrote: »

it doesn't seem to have the same excitment about it. I guess that's married life for you!

Thanks for telling the bride to be this! lol :rotfl:

I didn't mean to make a gag! lol Im sure there are more options available, that you just haven't found yet. I'm glad to hear you'll give IVF another go! But do it when you're sure you're both ready

Mrs_Boo_Boo

Oh all the best something will happen and not always in the way you think it will. Sending you positive vibes.
Keep talking and nuturing yourselves.
We are starting ICSI in July. My husband will not consider donor sperm or adoption.
Take care

bluebell13

Hi. Really sorry to hear about this. Have had 3 unsuccessful attempts at ICSI myself in the past, from age 28 - 32. All the attempts produced good quality embryos but each time none of them implanted. I had a work colleague whose chances of success were very poor according to doctors. She now has a bouncing 6 year old from their first attempt. My chances of success were supposedly very good. I guess what I am trying to say is that I would question the doctors as to whether another attempt is likely to produce better quality eggs. They often alter treatment plans each time. Maybe different drugs can produce a better response.

Is it worth going back again in a couple of months when the emotions aren't quite so raw, and maybe ask the doctors more thorough questions.

I'm sending hugs to you both. Although my life has moved on now I can remember the pain and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

epsilondraconis

Hope all works out for you Mrs Boo Boo. We'll keep our fingers crossed for you both.