3 queries re baby and 2 and half year old

Anthillmob

save doing 2 posts thought id stick these together.

some will be aware of mouses wheezing probs from a thread in the arms. hes 5 months and i think hes small. weight wise im not sure what he weighs as havent been to clinic for a few weeks. cant go tomorrow [only open mondays] as bank holiday. he just seems small length wise. are there any breathing illnesses that can affect growth?

also my 2 and half year old is driving me mad. she consantly demands food, chocolate or crisps are her fave demands but fails to understand the word no.

i dont give in, she dont get it. in return i get screaming, shouting, crying etc.

she has also just started to totally ignore requests to do something. i threaten and use the naughty chair. this hasnt been happening very often until probably the past week. the rudeness i get. not naughty words but screaming in my face giving back chat or dirty bat the eyelids at me. i think at nursery where she goes 2 days a week she gets away with murder because they are not allowed to use the word 'naughty'.

also she has suddenly developed a real fear of flies. she screams to the point of hysteria. its not a fear shes got from me. shes also scared of even the tiniest of spiders.

alwaysonthego_2

My dd1 is scared of flies she sees the tiniest one that can hardly be seen with a huma eye and she's hysterical. You just need to ignore this behaviour.

You dd is in that critical stage of the terrible twos (though not sure it actually ends at 2 from my experience). She does not know how to express herself properly and gets frustrated. You need to ignore this behavour, turn your back on her and let her get the tears out of her system. Once she has calmed down give her a hug. Children go through phases and you got all to come again. It is perfectly normal part of a child's social and emotional development.

R.e your baby I would consult with Health Visitor about your concerns. My dd's have a similar age gap to yours and you can get through this.

Merlot

Can't advise you on 5 month old, I don't know the answer.

As regards to the 2 year old, its typical behaviour I'm afraid for a child of that age to try and push the boundries, stick to the naughty chair as a punishment and keep saying no each time she wants food etc, she will get the message eventually.

They do grow out of this stage, I would say 3 is a lovely age.

Its a difficult job you are doing with 2 young children and I'm offering you a hug, because I know how you are feeling, it will get worse before it gets better, but it will get better, I promise.

Merlotx.

onlyroz

My own boy, who has just turned 3, recently started to try it on with a lot of "I want, I want" requests. I suspect at times that he's just trying to push his boundaries and see how much he can get. At other times (e.g. when there's something that he can't do and wants some help) he just wails and shrieks until I come running to assist.

The thing that works the best seems to be turning my back on him and saying that I'm not interested in what he has to say unless he asks for something nicely and reasonably. If his request is reasonable (e.g. he can't figure out how to put his lego toy back together) then I thank him for asking nicely and help him out. If his request is unreasonable (e.g. he wants some sweets/crisps etc just because he fancies them) then I say no as calmly as I can, but perhaps if he eats up all his dinner later then he might get a small treat.

Not saying it works all the time, but I'm hoping that he'll get the idea that he can't have treats whenever he wants but that if he asks for things nicely then I'm far more willing to indulge him.

Anthillmob

cheers both.

shes a lovely little girl and really well behaved usually but recently she has started getting worse. i thought maybe we had gotten away with the terrible 2's. how wrong was i lol!

i think maybe she gets bored easy. ive posted before abour her love for keeping the brain ticking over and we are learning the alphabet now with flash cards and she loves doing proper puzzles.

i feel bad when shes out in the garden also as she has no one to play with. cause of me arthritis i cant be running round with her out there and i feel guilty about that. its different when its daddys day off and we can get out there. like getting her out here for fresh air and to run off energy.

nearlyrich

I had a similar age gap between my two and now 20 years later if it's any consolation I can't remember the terrible twos LOL.

You will get through it Ant chin up x

Anthillmob

i feel mean sometimes that im dealing with bubs or that bubs seems to sit on my lap a lot. this is because he likes to be nosey and part of whats going on and he loves watching his big sister wherever she goes.

its drives me insane some days. and sundays seem to be very long days when the weathers carp and mr mob is working.

alwaysonthego_2

being a mum is never easy but you sound like you're doing a great job x

sparklygirl1

Sounds like my LO with the flies.........

Mips

My 2 year old is exactly the same, she even says 'shut up Mummy' or the latest is, 'don't start Mummy' - which she picked up off her Daddy! :mad:

I just despair, and I have two smaller ones to look after aswell. The latest is eating Lolly Ices one after the other and screaming if she can't have more.

I am hoping she grows out of this though soon!!

I heard another little girl shouting at my daughter from her Trolley... 'go away' and the childs Mum was smiling all proud whilst my Daughter looked shocked and I laughed.

The other Mum asked me, smiling, what her little girl had said... to which I replied, also smiling 'Go away'! :rotfl: The Mum looked a bit embarassed for a few seconds until I laughed it off with her!


Children, you gotta love them...

Anthillmob

Dippychick wrote: »

My 2 year old is exactly the same, she even says 'shut up Mummy' or the latest is, 'don't start Mummy' - which she picked up off her Daddy! :mad:

I just despair, and I have two smaller ones to look after aswell. The latest is eating Lolly Ices one after the other and screaming if she can't have more.

I am hoping she grows out of this though soon!!

I heard another little girl shouting at my daughter from her Trolley... 'go away' and the childs Mum was smiling all proud whilst my Daughter looked shocked and I laughed.

The other Mum asked me, smiling, what her little girl had said... to which I replied, also smiling 'Go away'! :rotfl: The Mum looked a bit embarassed for a few seconds until I laughed it off with her!


Children, you gotta love them...

chops has been telling random children to go away for ages now. shes very protective of bubba. 'no my bubba' she says and then smothers the poor wee man giving him a protective cuddle. not easy when walking round sainsburys or down the road. :rotfl: