help - shared house hassles

Snooze

top_drawer wrote: »

Im a bit short of cash at the moment ... I dont see why I shoudl have to take all these measures ... this is MY house!!

Jen

Er, whiskey tango foxtrot, over? :huh: :huh:

Rob

top_drawer_2

Mac_Sami wrote: »

Find another houseshare.

This isn't your first post about having issues in the house, clearly they've not been resolved - regardless of the actions you've taken - and so it's no longer suitable.

Furthermore, you feel that it might be contributing towards your depression, which won't be helping either.

Find somewhere else. Try sites such as uk.easyroommate.com and spareroom.co.uk.

Good luck.

Those were the ones I used .... feeling pretty cheated. Think I will tell the LL shortly (end of this month giving me a month to move out). My rent is due on the 25th each month so will today be the day to tell him?

Jen

Captain_Mainwaring_2

Snooze wrote: »

Not a solution to your problem but in my early days of renting when I shared a house I used to have similar problems to yourself with people nicking my food and drink. There's a chemical you can buy that's like lactose and works a treat in situations like this. You "plant" your pint of milk in the fridge and put a teaspoonful of this chemical in it and then sit and wait. The person who spends the next 24hrs on the throne is your culprit !



Rob

I'll tell you what you put in it and it's nothing to do with lactose. Works with standard milk bottles with the proper sized top, but you will have to be a bit inventive with a tet-pak.

top_drawer_2

Snooze wrote: »

Er, whiskey tango foxtrot, over? :huh: :huh:

Rob

Sorry what I meant is that in a house which I pay for the privilage of I think it reasonable to be able to leave my milk in the fridge....

redhead123

I've lived in rented accomodation since 1998 when I left Uni and pretty much seen it all(diminishing food, unlocked door, oven left on, boyfriend/girlfriend rows)! The person who gets the great flatshare is either very lucky or
living with friends they've known for years.

Up until I moved in with my best mate about 4 years ago I had only 1 decent flat share..the rest were pretty much places I didn't really want to be. One place I practically got bullied out - the tenant found out where I kept the spare key to my room and started showing people around! Cos the deposit was for the flat rather than individuals I worried I wouldnt' see it again - I had to get it from the horrible guy who got someone into my room. Fortunately I did get it back. I've now decided to buy something; but if I wasn't sharing with my friends I would live on my own or live further out if need be - you are always going to come a cropper against one person in a house - unless say it is a flatshare and there is just two of you, maybe then that could work? I haven't had any problems since moving with my friends, in fact I felt a cloud had lifted and for the first time could come home ..to a home!

the upshot is, if you are not happy, look to move..is there anyone you could move in with? A friend? Get something together?

top_drawer_2

Many thanks everyone!! It looks like I am on the move again....

any advice for finding a good rent ...

Jen

gozaimasu

top_drawer wrote: »

hi,

Just looking for some opinions as having some trouble living in a rented shared house... i found the house through a site online and the LL seemed nice but new to the game.

I moved in, as did two other tenants at the same time as me ... one a 16 yr college student and a FT worker. The 16yr recently announced she is pregnant and so will be looking to move out when she can get a council house with her bf (who currently is not working and pretty much lives with us). The other is male and works full-time, he is not interested in cleaning, cooking etc and pretyy much does sweet FA unless he can help it.

On friday one of the tenents moved out as he only uses it Monday-Friday and now its summer will be able to commute and still get home while its light. Plus he was sick of the cleanliness issues. Another tenent is also moving out next week as she has a partitioned room with the 16 yr old and seems to want complete silence. Its a bit of 6 of one and 1/2 a dozen here but the relationship broke down completely long ago.

The problems I am having are general cleaning; im the only one who EVER cleans up after myself it seems and theiving - I can't leave loo paper in the toilet (no kitty system and no inclination to set one up here thou I have mentioned it) as it gets stolen, my blackcurrent squash also and my milk etc ... I seem to be funding everyone in this house.

In an ideal world I would like to move out but im worried that this is normal and that I wont find anywhere that will take me. (I rang one agency when searching for this house and she said ring back if still interested when I had a f/t job!). I dont particularly want to be here as the college student finishes here course for the summer and seems to pretty much intend to do what she does on her days off and every weekend ... sit in front of the tv, mess about with her bf etc.

I am around the house a lot due to being a part time student and part-time worker (though I have recently lost my job due to depression/anxiety and am living on JSA). I hope to get another job fairly soon though but I am finding this house is actually causing some of these probs through frustration and their lack of consideration (ie hogging the phone, the bathroom, the tv, the kitchen etc).

Thanks for any input,

I think most of us have been in the same boat at some point in ours lives :rolleyes:

Solutions to theft - do you think marking the level of your milk after each time you use it would help deter thefts? At the moment you can't be 100% sure that they are stealing your milk even if it might be quite obvious, so if you mark the level, you can definitely see that the milk is below the level you marked. I often thought about getting a mini fridge for my own stuff, but it's just far too impractical and expensive.

For communal things like bogroll etc, don't do a kitty! People who steal stuff can't really be trusted with a communal pot of money. A better idea would be to try and get everyone in the flat to buy one of everything; eg. all buy a packet of bogroll, all buy cleaning cloths etc
That way your stuff will last how ever many times longer until all of you need to go out and buy the next lot. We've been buying bogroll in turns and even that isn't working out great - the person I share a bathroom takes weeks and weeks to get round to buying it when it's their turn. I generally have my own supply of bogroll and make sure to remove it each time. By the time they've gone out and bought a 4 pack for their own turn, I've nearly finished a 4 pack that I bought whilst waiting!!

Simple deterrents might help with theft too - just wrapping things in plastic bags etc. If they can't see what it is, they won't think "ooh, I fancy a bit of that". They can't steal what they don't know is there!

mrstinchcombe

This is why, at 25, I live with my parents and don't house share!

Generali

Frankly, if you're bothered by someone pinching a bit of your milk then I suspect you're not really cut out for communal living. I lived with a couple of people like that in my sharing days (mercifully a very long time ago!) and they were always miserable as they spent the entire time arguing about 3 sheets of bog roll and a tea bag.

If someone was being especially annoying, I'd drink their milk to wind them up. In much the same way, I now look out for miserable bggers with 'no turning' signs on their houses to use for turning my car around.

top_drawer_2

Generali wrote: »

Frankly, if you're bothered by someone pinching a bit of your milk then I suspect you're not really cut out for communal living. I lived with a couple of people like that in my sharing days (mercifully a very long time ago!) and they were always miserable as they spent the entire time arguing about 3 sheets of bog roll and a tea bag.

If someone was being especially annoying, I'd drink their milk to wind them up. In much the same way, I now look out for miserable bggers with 'no turning' signs on their houses to use for turning my car around.

Its more like 4 litres of milk in five days and I havent been around the house for much this last week... each time I go to make a brew I find I have no milk and so have to go and buy yet another ... same with loo paper.