advice for bereaved teenager

honeypop

I too had alarm bells at this story, any 'right in the head' grown woman wouldn't inform their sons girlfriend of this by text, nor would they even mention about cutting her name into his arm because of the pressure this would put on her (as it has), and as someone else just said, anyone can send a text.

I hope it's not all an awful trick, and that she has actually spoken to the boys mum about it. It's brilliant of you that you're trying to help, at least she has one adult on her side through all this. I can't reccommend anywhere to help her other than what other posters have already mentioned, my heart goes out to the poor girl.

Errata

I thought this seemed a bit odd, young boys do kill themselves but rarely by stabbing themselves to death. The only practical suggestion I can offer is that if his death was this dramatic there may be a report in the newspaper local to where he lives.

anguk

I've got alarm bells ringing too, it seems strange that the mother would send a text and it does also seem an odd way for the boy to commit suicide. Have you seen the text?

MoneySavingStudent_2

This does sound alittle strange?
Surely they must have been a news report in the local paper or something? And the mum wouldnt have just sent a txt to the girl, surely the mum would have rung at least or rung the parents of the girl?

Maybe i could be some sort of sick joke? Have you seen the msg?

anguk

I've been thinking a little more about this and wondered why she hadn't told her friends about this boy until he moved away? I can understand not telling her parents but girls normally share things like this with their friends. I realise I know nothing about this girl and it may all be genuine but did any of her friends know about this boy or see him before he moved away?

The way I read it either the mother has sent the text, (which is way out of order, I know she's grieving but she shouldn't put this on a 13 year old childs shoulders), or it's a malicious text and nothing has happened to the boy, or there has been no boyfriend and the girl is just attention seeking?

As I say I don't know any of the people involved so sorry if I've said anything out of line but it does all sound a bit strange to me.

cocoluvsmummy

Thanks for all the advice. Its a minefield out here, OH wants us to stay out of it, DD is getting worried abut her friend.
We have done a search to see if the boys name if tracable and it isnt. I am convinced that he did exist and he did move away recently, Sue wouldnt have said anyhting to anyone before as it may have got back to her parents, we are working on getting her to confide in her parents as they would hate to think their daughter couldn't come to them.

Thanks for everything and if i come up with anything i will let you know.

i am inclined to think its a very distrubed young man who is trying to provoke a reaction But i need to be sure for sue.

LittleTinker

I think its more the other way round to be honest.

Teenage girls are a funny lot at times.....I can remember ...... and it would seem more likely that it is the girl who is attention seeking.

A lad wouldnt do that....its not their style.

surreysaver

Could even be this girl's own parent(s)? You need to get this information confirmed one way or the other.

anguk

It does sound as if it's a hoax, either by the girl or the boy who could be trying to "get back" at the girl for splitting up with him. But I'm afraid I still find it a bit odd that she didn't even tell her best friend about this boy, I understand she wouldn't want her parents to find out but surely she would confide in her best friend? I remember what it was like at that age and my best friend & I told each other everything, my DD is 14 and she's the same with her best friend.

hollydays

And surely,if this had happened,the Police would have been in touch with the daughter,to find out what she knew?
I think the girl has made this up.